Do Teens Care Less About Homecoming/Prom Now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

How old is your DH. I’m in my late 40s and there were no promposals or the homecoming equivalent at my MoCo high school.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

God forbid boys put any effort at all into respectful dating...

Is an elaborate sign that exists to take a video/photo required for respectful dating? I think respectful dating happens between two people in private.

Well no worries they are doing that either. They aren't trying to date girls at all. I'm hoping humanity doesn't die out due to lack of procreation. Only half kidding.

So it’s not only my boy?

[Anonymous]

The organizers of these dances need to rethink them to make them more fun. No one wants to stay more than 20 minutes. Better lighting, better music, DJs, something. Games/contests? Best Cha cha slide dancers win prizes?

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Anonymous wrote:Boys don’t.

Most girls still care, and they are really bummed that boys aren’t interested in dating girls any more.

I say this as a women and a teacher who’s observed the stupid promposals for years. Make it stop. There’s so much pressure it’s just not worth it. Many boys don’t want to go through the hassle of all that. I wouldn’t if I were a boy and I think it comes off as high maintenance and I’m a woman.

My son didn’t go to any of it but just because he didn’t like dances. My daughter goes with friends and is into the hair, make up and photos.

She was telling me how plenty go with dates and it’s all prearranged and the posters are nice. She thinks I’m overreacting, thinking it’s putting pressure on these boys. According to her, it’s nice they are putting in effort to show the girl they are worth it.

Come on! That’s too much pressure for a teen boy.

+1 that’s spot on.

Agree. Also, DS doesn’t like being the center of attention and this puts him and the girl on the spot in a weird way. When we were kids, sometimes dating would come after a guy got up the nerve to ask the girl to homecoming. That would be the first date. Now, it’s harder to casually ask someone and why would you do a promposal for someone you have a crush on but might say no? But then if you don’t do one, she feels like a loser compared to her friends. Even if she doesn’t actually care about these things or won’t in a couple years, that’s hard as a teen. It is all stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Boys don’t.

Most girls still care, and they are really bummed that boys aren’t interested in dating girls any more.

I say this as a women and a teacher who’s observed the stupid promposals for years. Make it stop. There’s so much pressure it’s just not worth it. Many boys don’t want to go through the hassle of all that. I wouldn’t if I were a boy and I think it comes off as high maintenance and I’m a woman.

My son didn’t go to any of it but just because he didn’t like dances. My daughter goes with friends and is into the hair, make up and photos.

She was telling me how plenty go with dates and it’s all prearranged and the posters are nice. She thinks I’m overreacting, thinking it’s putting pressure on these boys. According to her, it’s nice they are putting in effort to show the girl they are worth it.

Come on! That’s too much pressure for a teen boy.

+1 that’s spot on.

Agree. Also, DS doesn’t like being the center of attention and this puts him and the girl on the spot in a weird way. When we were kids, sometimes dating would come after a guy got up the nerve to ask the girl to homecoming. That would be the first date. Now, it’s harder to casually ask someone and why would you do a promposal for someone you have a crush on but might say no? But then if you don’t do one, she feels like a loser compared to her friends. Even if she doesn’t actually care about these things or won’t in a couple years, that’s hard as a teen. It is all stupid.

PP here. I guess the flip side is that more kids go without a date and that’s totally fine, which is a great change!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The organizers of these dances need to rethink them to make them more fun. No one wants to stay more than 20 minutes. Better lighting, better music, DJs, something. Games/contests? Best Cha cha slide dancers win prizes?

No, this won’t do it but it made me laugh. DD had a great time last night but was a freshman and said it was mostly freshman. They left after a 90 min and walked around town and said they stayed longer than most. She loved the entire day, getting ready, the dance and the walking around with massive of kids in town.

I remember stopping by the prom with friends in the 90s for a little while and then going out with friends too. Some things don’t change.

[Anonymous]

No one does to the dance at my kids school. They all dress up , go out to dinner and take photos. Seems entirely pointless. Everyone just stays in their little clique of friends all evening with a hefty price tag for the attire and dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:No one does to the dance at my kids school. They all dress up , go out to dinner and take photos. Seems entirely pointless. Everyone just stays in their little clique of friends all evening with a hefty price tag for the attire and dinner.

This is what all of DDs friends did last year for senior prom. It's why DD had no trouble deciding to skip the whole thing in order to attend her sibling's college graduation. As far as homecoming, DD only went freshman year. She did go to the spring dance sophomore year and prom junior year. She said getting ready with friends, taking pictures, then going out to dinner beforehand was the only draw; the dances themselves were pretty boring.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

God forbid boys put any effort at all into respectful dating...

Is an elaborate sign that exists to take a video/photo required for respectful dating? I think respectful dating happens between two people in private.

Well no worries they are doing that either. They aren't trying to date girls at all. I'm hoping humanity doesn't die out due to lack of procreation. Only half kidding.

So it’s not only my boy?

It's the girls. Gen X had 5% of girls experiement with lesbianism. Millennials had 10% experiment. Now gen Z is lie 30%+ choosing to just take the easy route and not date but hookup with other girls for their kicks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys don’t.

Most girls still care, and they are really bummed that boys aren’t interested in dating girls any more.

Maybe for above poster’s girls, but definitely not true for all girls.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

God forbid boys put any effort at all into respectful dating...

Is an elaborate sign that exists to take a video/photo required for respectful dating? I think respectful dating happens between two people in private.

Well no worries they are doing that either. They aren't trying to date girls at all. I'm hoping humanity doesn't die out due to lack of procreation. Only half kidding.

So it’s not only my boy?

It's the girls. Gen X had 5% of girls experiement with lesbianism. Millennials had 10% experiment. Now gen Z is lie 30%+ choosing to just take the easy route and not date but hookup with other girls for their kicks.

Yes, tell yourself that is why your DS doesn’t have a date

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

God forbid boys put any effort at all into respectful dating...

Is an elaborate sign that exists to take a video/photo required for respectful dating? I think respectful dating happens between two people in private.

Well no worries they are doing that either. They aren't trying to date girls at all. I'm hoping humanity doesn't die out due to lack of procreation. Only half kidding.

So it’s not only my boy?

It's the girls. Gen X had 5% of girls experiement with lesbianism. Millennials had 10% experiment. Now gen Z is lie 30%+ choosing to just take the easy route and not date but hookup with other girls for their kicks.

Yes, tell yourself that is why your DS doesn’t have a date

Both of them slayed when they were in HS. Always a different squeeze every week or two, but their mixed heritage looks, with blue eyes and tall/dark looks helped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Homecoming is pretty popular where we’re at among the freshmen and sophomores. Less so for the upper grades. It’s a fun night. Most kids go in groups. As a freshman, my DS went with a guy friend and met up with other friends there. Inviting a girl was not on his radar but there were plenty of girls with their friends there. It looks much more fun than when I was in high school.

I would’ve said that about our area too but our Senior DD and her friend group are going to Homecoming this coming weekend, but mostly as a group. Most go to an agreed-upon-restaurant but ours jokingly said out loud she just wanted a burger and a friend said “sounds good to me” so that’s where they’re off too. They’ll all end up at the dance, stay for the majority of it, dance barefoot and silly to whatever the “dance” of the day is, then separate for sleepovers (boys at one house, girls at another).

More fun, less/no pressure. Outfits are often thrifted or passed around (and modified or embellished to suit). So for <$100, it’s still a nice memory.