Do Teens Care Less About Homecoming/Prom Now?

[Anonymous]

Dd did but always went with a small group of girlfriends. Ds is in 11th and so far, no, but seems more socially inclined this year so, we’ll see?

[Anonymous]

Homecoming is pretty popular where we’re at among the freshmen and sophomores. Less so for the upper grades. It’s a fun night. Most kids go in groups. As a freshman, my DS went with a guy friend and met up with other friends there. Inviting a girl was not on his radar but there were plenty of girls with their friends there. It looks much more fun than when I was in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys don’t.

Most girls still care, and they are really bummed that boys aren’t interested in dating girls any more.

Is this true? I have a freshman boy and I don’t think he’s ever even talked to
A girl. He will go to the football game but said no one goes to the dance which I know isn’t totally true. He goes to Publix and I went to private and we rented a bus and had so much fun. I don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

My son has no interest in going to the school dances or participating in spirit week activities. There are girls in all of his classes and extracurricular activities, and he interacts with them just fine. On the homecoming front, part of it is that he really dislikes the focus on the football team for the homecoming activities and much of the fall. He's on a sports team in another season that has reached the state finals the past few years, and they get very little recognition, while the football team gets more resources, coaches, etc., while consistently having a losing record.

Also, the rules have changed from when we were in school. For his school, I was surprised to learn that parents have to OK attendance at a school dance. And if a student wants to bring a date from another school, there is a form they have to submit that includes permission from that person's parents and their school. Back in my day you just bought tickets if you planned to attend the school dance. It's overly complicated and many just opt out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My older son isn't interested. From what I have observed the kids who are doing the prom-posal stuff are pretty traditionally "cute," sporty, affluent, and come from families that value things like football/having large elaborate parties/do thing like cotillion/go to the same beach house every summer type of stuff. Many are pretty conservative but definitely traditional in terms of stuff like mom doesn't work and they embrace very stereotypical gender roles and appearances. My kids are sporty and cute and fairly affluent but just don't fit the social mold. I'd say there is less interest than in my day at least.

I’m the teacher who posted the rant against promposals and you hit another nerve there. My son and his friends, who didn’t go to any of those dances, happened to play football. They still don’t care one bit about the dance or making posters. Lets not do that stereotype.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My older son isn't interested. From what I have observed the kids who are doing the prom-posal stuff are pretty traditionally "cute," sporty, affluent, and come from families that value things like football/having large elaborate parties/do thing like cotillion/go to the same beach house every summer type of stuff. Many are pretty conservative but definitely traditional in terms of stuff like mom doesn't work and they embrace very stereotypical gender roles and appearances. My kids are sporty and cute and fairly affluent but just don't fit the social mold. I'd say there is less interest than in my day at least.

My boys fit this mold and so does our family. They still have no interest in going to the dance. Maybe next year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boys don’t.

Most girls still care, and they are really bummed that boys aren’t interested in dating girls any more.

I don’t t see that at all. Girls are more focused on education, they have more choices now that aren’t tied to dating or marriage. Dating is sidelined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son has no interest in going to the school dances or participating in spirit week activities. There are girls in all of his classes and extracurricular activities, and he interacts with them just fine. On the homecoming front, part of it is that he really dislikes the focus on the football team for the homecoming activities and much of the fall. He's on a sports team in another season that has reached the state finals the past few years, and they get very little recognition, while the football team gets more resources, coaches, etc., while consistently having a losing record.

Also, the rules have changed from when we were in school. For his school, I was surprised to learn that parents have to OK attendance at a school dance. And if a student wants to bring a date from another school, there is a form they have to submit that includes permission from that person's parents and their school. Back in my day you just bought tickets if you planned to attend the school dance. It's overly complicated and many just opt out.

I appreciate the rules. Our school makes it a safe, fun experience with security to insure parent check kids in, check kids out, and no one can leave until parents check out. No strangers wandering in. No guests over 18 and yes, permission is needed. Almost every teacher and principal is there for the entire event. They have a good time with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Prom is still a big deal where we are. But homecoming isn’t. It’s also on a Friday night, immediately following a football game and doesn’t start until 9 or 10 pm. No one even dresses up

[Anonymous]

I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

It’s not mandatory or expected. Boys aren’t not taking dates to HoCo because of promposals.

[Anonymous]

It just depends. I live in a NYC suburb. I went to the same school district my kids are now in. Growing up, we didn't have anything rah-rah.

Now, we have a pep rally and homecoming (no dance but the same is an event) and homecoming court.

Not everyone is into it, but there's more interest every year. Maybe the opposite effect of other places.

[Anonymous]

My sophomore son went to Homecoming with a group of friends last year, and will go with a date to Homecoming this year (and yes, he made a poster for his girlfriend).

But a bunch of his guy friends won't go because they are too nervous to ask girls out. I drive a sports team carpool and I'm now multiple drives worth of listening to these boys talk about homecoming, but most of them won't be going.

I will say that the most common characteristic of the boys that are asking girls to the dance, versus the ones that are staying home is having a sister. The ones with sisters seem less scared of talking to girls in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a non American married to an American DH and his promposal stories honestly blew my mind. Elaborate cutesy stunts to ask girls out for dances multiple times a year over a school career. He said it was a big drag but bc everyone was doing it he felt pressured to do it too. I get why boys are opting out!

God forbid boys put any effort at all into respectful dating...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boys don’t.

Most girls still care, and they are really bummed that boys aren’t interested in dating girls any more.

Why date when the girls give them everyone online. And if the girl's don't, there is plenty of porn.

and people wonder why woman are staying single and there is a male loneliness epidemic


I don't believe in signs, flowers, etc... but it's not just that. Social media has changed socialization and dating forever

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