Homecoming—she needs to go with her friend, right?

[Anonymous]

The other girl won't feel "ditched" unless the other girl decides that's how she's going to feel. and act. And hopefully not make drama. September is far too early to obligate a BFF to hang with you exclusively - at a dance. The friend needs to accept some type of group dynamic. She really should anyway. She can have most of Op's DD's attention, but not all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the right call for dd if he asks would be to say something like "thanks for asking. That sounds fun and I'd like to do that, but I made plans to go with Veronica. Would you mind if I talked with her? Would you be interested in going as a group if she's down with that?"

But the right call for op is to say "that's sounds tricky. What are you thinking?" And give her dd a chance to come up with possible alternatives. If dd is really struggling say something like "I have a few thoughts. Would you like to hear them?" before offering any advice.

This is really solid advice.

Please do this!!! If my daughter were the friend, she would be excited (even if she was crushing on the date too) and invite the date to go out to dinner with them anyway.