Donating to GoFundMe when the family appeared wealthy?

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor in a HUGE million+ home had a go fund me for her husband's "memorial" held in their home. No service or food etc. Was weird ..not sure what we were supposed to fund.

Millions have been donated for Charlie Kirk’s wife and children and I believe he alone was worth over $10 million dollars.

Probably will end up being the best thing that ever happened to her.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a need? (Health crisis, house burned down?) or is it a want? (Tournament fees, chemo for your dog?)

I’ll donate to anyone for the first, mostly just as a virtual hug since I don’t have skills to be more useful. But the latter? No way.

I did donate to someone whose house burned down. I'm the PP who would prob not donate to a super wealthy person unless they were a close and trusted friend.

My house burned down and I didn’t have a go fund me for my kids and I. Insurance handled things. I would have loved meals or help with rides while we were displaced for two years. That would have helped tremendously

In that scenario, are the donations intended to replace their house and possessions, or merely a gesture in case someone wants to by meals and or other conveniences while are displaced and busy?

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I donate if I feel it’s a need and I know the family somewhat. If I have to justify it, I know it’s not the right thing for me.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t usually. I know a family who lives in a house twice the size of mine, drives luxury cars, and sends 3 kids to private schools. The mom wears and carries designer everything. They take vacations to Europe every summer. The mom was diagnosed with breast cancer- thankfully, very early stage, she had a lumpectomy and I believe a short course of radiation. Of course this is terrifying for her and I understand and appreciate that. However I do not understand nor do I appreciate the GoFundMe for 50k for “health care costs” when she does have good health insurance and doesn’t work so no lost income. By the way , she didn’t change her families lifestyle at all. Still took those vacations and got those new shoes.

This is just a well-dressed beggar. Insurance covered her expenses; anything not addressed by insurance should be easily addressed with savings from an emergency fund. No such fund? Then they're risk-takers who gambled and lost, which is on them. They can sell assets if they need to. Going around with a hand out in these circumstances is more than merely distasteful, it's appalling.

She wanted a lot of “alternative treatments”, is what I understood, that insurance did not cover. After her traditional treatments of course, she isn’t crazy, she did the recommended stuff, but then wanted to do things like hyperbaric therapy and vitamin infusions and those , I learned, were the “health costs.” Not my circus but it left a bad taste in my mouth and I did not donate.

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Anonymous wrote:I donate what I feel comfortable with when I know the person or know someone who knows them, but I only go one degree of separation. I recently donated to a single mom who lost a child. I don’t think many people have insurance for that.

The tragic nature of the event should not have resulted in a financial crisis for the mother, and there should be no need for fundraising in connection with the event. The child presumably contributed no income to the family which has now stopped. Final expenses can be managed so as to be minimized, and ion any case should be within the means of anyone with even a modest emergency fund.

I am a bad person probably, but these are also my sentiments for these things. (Go fund Mes for events that do not result in any kind of financial hit). Cards? Flowers? Meals? Prayers? Of course. But why send 100 dollars? To make up for their lost child? It’s crass and would make me uncomfortable

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbor in a HUGE million+ home had a go fund me for her husband's "memorial" held in their home. No service or food etc. Was weird ..not sure what we were supposed to fund.

Millions have been donated for Charlie Kirk’s wife and children and I believe he alone was worth over $10 million dollars.

I find this highly doubtful. I would bet it all went to a foundation related to his work and not her personal bank account.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor in a HUGE million+ home had a go fund me for her husband's "memorial" held in their home. No service or food etc. Was weird ..not sure what we were supposed to fund.

Millions have been donated for Charlie Kirk’s wife and children and I believe he alone was worth over $10 million dollars.

I find this highly doubtful. I would bet it all went to a foundation related to his work and not her personal bank account.

Well,
You’re wrong. Started by Tucker Carlson and now it exceeds $6 million https://www.newsweek.com/donations-honor-charlie-kirk-top-6-million-2129599

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a need? (Health crisis, house burned down?) or is it a want? (Tournament fees, chemo for your dog?)

I’ll donate to anyone for the first, mostly just as a virtual hug since I don’t have skills to be more useful. But the latter? No way.

I did donate to someone whose house burned down. I'm the PP who would prob not donate to a super wealthy person unless they were a close and trusted friend.

My house burned down and I didn’t have a go fund me for my kids and I. Insurance handled things. I would have loved meals or help with rides while we were displaced for two years. That would have helped tremendously

In that scenario, are the donations intended to replace their house and possessions, or merely a gesture in case someone wants to by meals and or other conveniences while are displaced and busy?

Many people sent us gift cards to grocery stores and to DoorDash, that was helpful. In any case like mine where the victim has insurance I don’t know why people have go out fund me- I did not because I had insurance I didn’t need cash I needed friends support and encouragement. Physical help like rides for the kids or help getting them to their multiple schools while displaced and having no bus.