Dads at elementary drop off

[Anonymous]

I’m not in your area but in a neighborhood with similar demographic. My husband does most drop offs - he’s in tech with a lot of European colleagues, so he starts work around 6 (from home), I get our younger DD ready, and then DH drives her. (Older DD rides a city bus to her school.) Our school starts at 8:30 (drop off starts at 8:20) so that’s a bit less disruptive for people going to the office.

One of DD’s friends has a mom who is a nurse and, until recently, her shift was 3 pm to 11 pm. She has often did drop off practically in pjs, understandably!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have all kinds of jobs and schedules.

If you’ve lived a pretty regimented life, it can be easy to forget/not see how much variation there is.

But actually, there are tons of us out here not on a 9-5 office job for one reason or another! Take a sick day and drive around. You’ll be shocked.

+1 LOL. No they don't all work in sales. Do you not know anyone in your bubble who works as a health care professional or has an international facing career where the time zones may necessitate different work hours?

OP seems weirdly naive. I also find it odd they think they would know everyone involved in tech.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have all kinds of jobs and schedules.

If you’ve lived a pretty regimented life, it can be easy to forget/not see how much variation there is.

But actually, there are tons of us out here not on a 9-5 office job for one reason or another! Take a sick day and drive around. You’ll be shocked.

+1 LOL. No they don't all work in sales. Do you not know anyone in your bubble who works as a health care professional or has an international facing career where the time zones may necessitate different work hours?

OP seems weirdly naive. I also find it odd they think they would know everyone involved in tech.

50% of the posts on DCUM are some version of "people aren't behaving in the way I thought they are supposed to. How is it possible that they live their lives differently from what I expect?"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.

If you had a kid at 39 you'd be 51 when they are leaving elementary school...

Having a kid at 39 in my town would make you a very young mom or dad. I had my last at 45. My good friend had his first at 49 with his 42 year old wife and to my suprise had three kids the last one at her 47 and him 54. He lives in a super rich town where second and third wives are common. He is actually a young dad. He has Dads in their 70s in the elementary school.

It is all perspective. No one bats and eye Bruce Willis, Alex Baldwin having kids at their age. Janet Jackson had a kid at 50 and Halle Berry had one at 47.

This is absolute and unadulterated wishful thinking bullshit. There is NO town in America where "having a kid at 39 would make you a very young mom or dad." Zero. Name the town. A "very young" mom at 39? Nope. Such a town doesn't exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't find any of it surprising at all. I'm more surprised so many people still work.
There were so many opportunities to became financially free in last 6 years. Several crypto and individual stocks I bought made 10X. Can't even name one that went down.
I simply manage our money from home.
Rate cuts are coming, so there's more money to be made. I told my boss that I cannot help him anymore as I lose money while at work.

Can you just stick to crypto, day trading and sports betting topics in money. This is not relevant, but you pop into jobs forum all the freaking time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.

Eh. I had my youngest at 38, and he's now a sophomore in college. I don't look older than the majority of the parents I meet. Some are definitely younger, but not by that much. (Maybe it depends on the school though )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.

If you had a kid at 39 you'd be 51 when they are leaving elementary school...

PP will be 57 when kid graduates. That is your 50s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.

When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.

Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?

Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.

I guess they’re all in sales?

Or they are SAHD? Or have flexible jobs? Or Moms are bringing in the bacon? Or they have trust funds? Or they are unemployed and living off their savings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.

If you had a kid at 39 you'd be 51 when they are leaving elementary school...

Having a kid at 39 in my town would make you a very young mom or dad. I had my last at 45. My good friend had his first at 49 with his 42 year old wife and to my suprise had three kids the last one at her 47 and him 54. He lives in a super rich town where second and third wives are common. He is actually a young dad. He has Dads in their 70s in the elementary school.

It is all perspective. No one bats and eye Bruce Willis, Alex Baldwin having kids at their age. Janet Jackson had a kid at 50 and Halle Berry had one at 47.

BS. Or do name the town.

Nobody wants their parents to be that old. A 54 year old dad will be 75 at kid's college graduation. Assuming he's still alive. (And I say that as someone whose father was 50 when I was born, so have some idea of that that entails).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I often see mothers wearing yoga pants and other casual clothing when they drop their kids off at school and I, too, wonder what jobs they are doing dressed like that. I mean, do they go home and change before Zoom calls or before heading into the office (late)?

Yes, thats what I do. I walk my kids to school in yoga pants, a tshirt/hoodie and sometimes slippers, then go back home and do my makeup. I have a few shirts I keep in my home office to throw on when I have a zoom call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have all kinds of jobs and schedules.

If you’ve lived a pretty regimented life, it can be easy to forget/not see how much variation there is.

But actually, there are tons of us out here not on a 9-5 office job for one reason or another! Take a sick day and drive around. You’ll be shocked.

+1 LOL. No they don't all work in sales. Do you not know anyone in your bubble who works as a health care professional or has an international facing career where the time zones may necessitate different work hours?

OP seems weirdly naive. I also find it odd they think they would know everyone involved in tech.

+1000 The dads I've seen at pickup sometimes are doctors whose shifts start later, tech people who work all sorts of hours that they can set and high level managers who have a lot of freedom over their schedule because they travel a ton. Get a clue OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.

When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.

Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?

Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.

I guess they’re all in sales?

MYOB.

My DH travels constantly (a lot international) for work and works at night and some weekends, so yeah, he does drop off occasionally in sweats. He usually will either have gone for a workout or have a workout after drop off (our school starts earlier). Some days he drops off in a suit, other days business casual. When he is home he is really engaged with our kids and needs to get exercise in. Why shouldn't he be able to do it if he flew to a city in Asia Saturday, spent a week there working and flew back the following Saturday/Sunday? That means he is working two weekends but people like you don't see that.

I have a neighbor who gets up at 3AM because he has to be up in time in India. He works until 7AM, does breakfast and drops his kids then works hours for those in the US. His weekends are all over the place, I saw him Saturday at 5PM and he was exhausted. He takes lots of naps and is clearly struggling, but was laid off and needed a job (he has an MD, PhD btw).

I work PT from home and sometimes drop off but do pickup. I wake up early for Europe or Middle Eastern time frame then work a few hours in the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't find any of it surprising at all. I'm more surprised so many people still work.
There were so many opportunities to became financially free in last 6 years. Several crypto and individual stocks I bought made 10X. Can't even name one that went down.
I simply manage our money from home.
Rate cuts are coming, so there's more money to be made. I told my boss that I cannot help him anymore as I lose money while at work.

Not everything is about money.

OK, enjoy giving up money and family for the honor of going to work at your special job at 9am.

These things aren’t mutually exclusive.
You are lucky to have achieved Arlington residency level success with such limited reasoning skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50s with kids in elementary is pretty old. I had my youngest at 39. I will be in my 50s when he is done with school and I can readily admit that I will be pretty old, definitely older than the average parent. But, I knew what I was getting into.

If you had a kid at 39 you'd be 51 when they are leaving elementary school...

Having a kid at 39 in my town would make you a very young mom or dad. I had my last at 45. My good friend had his first at 49 with his 42 year old wife and to my suprise had three kids the last one at her 47 and him 54. He lives in a super rich town where second and third wives are common. He is actually a young dad. He has Dads in their 70s in the elementary school.

It is all perspective. No one bats and eye Bruce Willis, Alex Baldwin having kids at their age. Janet Jackson had a kid at 50 and Halle Berry had one at 47.

This is absolute and unadulterated wishful thinking bullshit. There is NO town in America where "having a kid at 39 would make you a very young mom or dad." Zero. Name the town. A "very young" mom at 39? Nope. Such a town doesn't exist.

DP, its common in my neighborhood but probably not town/city. When I read that post I assumed they might be from my area too. Hope they respond but I understand not wanting to say

[Anonymous]

Are you jealous OP? It's like you can't fathom that they can afford to live in "your" neighborhood and also have jobs that are flexible or laid back. I guarantee you not all of them are in sales.