SES cliques in college

[Anonymous]

My kid goes to a VA public known for having a lot of first gen’s. Very race divided. Hadn’t seen anything in regards to financial, though Greek life is very weak there which may be why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:very stratified, less among athletes... but they are sort of their own strata.

+1

In the world of athletes, the best players are invited to join the exclusive circles of the wealthy and powerful. Everyone else is not invited. There are four things in life that money cannot buy: time, charisma, athletic talent, and good looks. These qualities, charisma, athletic talent , and good looks grants you automatic entry into this elite club, regardless of your financial status.

[Anonymous]

DD’s group has a former homeless kid, a refugee, the daughter of a major airline, the son of two well known physicians, and the son of to public school teachers. At a WASP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:honestly, these experiments to add so many FGLI students to colleges seem like they are just failing, leaving the students to flail.

https://www.reddit.com/r/college/comments/1n950in/struggling_mentally_at_wealthy_college/

heartbreaking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:honestly, these experiments to add so many FGLI students to colleges seem like they are just failing, leaving the students to flail.

https://www.reddit.com/r/college/comments/1n950in/struggling_mentally_at_wealthy_college/

heartbreaking

It’s one story, and I’m sure that student is still deeply grateful they’re able to go to college. There’s many happy success stories that that person didn’t post, because they have an agenda: https://www.questbridge.org/about/impact" target="_new" rel="nofollow"> https://www.questbridge.org/about/impact.

First gen support has exacerbated- we have so many fgli students these days graduating with degrees in math, Engineering, CS, etc. going into careers like consulting, IB, law, medicine. It’s amazing the change that has occurred over one generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:honestly, these experiments to add so many FGLI students to colleges seem like they are just failing, leaving the students to flail.

https://www.reddit.com/r/college/comments/1n950in/struggling_mentally_at_wealthy_college/

its Bowdoin. Not surprising tbh.

[Anonymous]

Both my kids attended (one still attends) smaller merit aid privates outside the northeast. They both say it’s very mixed.

I suspect merit helps avoid the barbell dynamic, though state schools are probably better for this on the whole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:honestly, these experiments to add so many FGLI students to colleges seem like they are just failing, leaving the students to flail.

https://www.reddit.com/r/college/comments/1n950in/struggling_mentally_at_wealthy_college/

its Bowdoin. Not surprising tbh.

Also these are just struggles with rising SES. Of course a poor kid feels guilty going to the dining hall, taking food from others, and then making them clean it. This kid will have had to struggle with these problems at some point in their life. There’s guilt that forms when you didn’t grow up with a lot and then suddenly have your needs met- that isn’t a bad thing, it’s a sign of humility. Eventually, they’ll learn to not worry about these things and how to make friends with people unlike them.

-fgli Stanford ‘10