SES cliques in college
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Anonymous
| Do the rich kids mingle with the financial aid kids on your child's campus, or is it stratified like the real world? |
Anonymous
| Real world for 95% of them at UMiami hung with their own. Rich people doing rich people things. Scholarship kids working/studying |
Anonymous
| Completely mixed groups at my kids' schools(each at T10/ivy, senior and soph): they both have a generational-wealth type person in their immediate group of 5-6 kids and they both have more than one who has significant need. They try to be aware of it when making plans though more than half social activities are on campus and reasonable. Each kid noted the schools are much more SES diverse than their private primarily UMC high school. |
Anonymous
| Financial aid kids? Wtf. |
Anonymous
stratified for the most part. |
Anonymous
| Ivy - mixed groups |
Anonymous
| I have one at a $$ private and one at a state flagship. The SES groups are largely stratified at both schools with multiple tiers just like IRL. The exceptions: athletes and the super charismatic. At the flagship the SES tiers also tend to have groups of different racial/cultural backgrounds who stick together. |
Anonymous
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Very stratified. Ivy and T10.
While we are in the “privileged” group now, I remember not being in that group when I attended T20 private college. It is shocking to drive around and see the BMWs, Mercedes, Range Rover’s, G wagons that the kids are driving these days. The spring break trips are insanely lavish and weekend trips to the beach, skiing, city etc. abound. My kids have been on more private planes in college than ever before in their lives. I guess it’s to be expected though. These schools have become bastions of the very, very poor and the very very rich. Being middle class was normal 30 years ago at a top school. It is no longer normal. Or even expected. Sadly. |
Anonymous
| Stratified at both Ivy and SLAC. Many of the rich kids know each other (or of each other), even if from different high schools, before showing up on campus as first years. |
Anonymous
| At Ivy. There are groups that are based on SES and private school attendance. The rest are mixed. |
Anonymous
| Very stratified at my kid's Ivy as well. Kids really don't mix by social class. |
Anonymous
I saw this happen this summer with my private school kid and was surprised. People connecting them in far away states - private school seems to have its own set of connections. |
Anonymous
That’s too bad. When I was an Ivy undergrad, we had randomly assigned first year roommates so we had all sorts of pairings-rich boarding school kid with first gen immigrant kid. Southern kid whose family had been in their state for a dozen generations with an international student. I guess nowadays singles are much more common and kids meet online well before college and decide who they want to room with and I assume they mostly pick roommates with similar backgrounds. |
Anonymous
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[quote=Anonymous]Real world for 95% of them at UMiami hung with their own. Rich people doing rich people things. Scholarship kids working/studying [/quote]
I think you nailed it. If you are in financial aid, are you working more (than going out on the weekend to fancy dinners and bars)? There’s just more time to hang out? I’m not sure. |
Anonymous
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Real world for 95% of them at UMiami hung with their own. Rich people doing rich people things. Scholarship kids working/studying [/quote]
I think you nailed it. If you are in financial aid, are you working more (than going out on the weekend to fancy dinners and bars)? There’s just more time to hang out? I’m not sure.[/quote] I was on financial aid and it meant I was working, but it didn't interfere with my socializing. I had coworkers who weren't on aid, too. There wasn't really stratification that I noticed. I had plenty of rich friends. |