Why do people transfer after cut from rush?

[Anonymous]

My cousin did this. She got black listed from all the sororities. I think her hometown acquaintances didn’t like her. She transferred to a school with no Greek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin did this. She got black listed from all the sororities. I think her hometown acquaintances didn’t like her. She transferred to a school with no Greek.

Oh and her grandma, aunts, and mom were all in the sorority she tried to bid.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone who has ever done this.

But do you know anyone who didn’t get a bid anywhere?

yes, actually, i do.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone who has ever done this.

But do you know anyone who didn’t get a bid anywhere?

yes, actually, i do.

Did they end up happy?

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Anonymous wrote:I would NOT want to be part of a group who actually gets satisfaction from having more than others. Having is one thing. But the goal of having more than others—- EWWW, gross!
At least now we know who the real losers are.

Actually, getting in the right sorority can launch you into a life of refined elegance driving your Bimmer in Mobile, where your husband is a bank branch manager!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know many times they’re devastated, but how does transferring help? You’re then at a new school and need to rush again.

Never heard of anyone doing that, but maybe they realize what a fool they made of themselves wasting time and money to try to buy friends rather than making them organically so they decide to start fresh somewhere that they can be their authentic selves.

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Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.

No my kid has no desire to be in a club that excludes people based on personality, money, clothing, and jewelry.

What's really appealing about Notre Dame is their residential life is set up similar to Greek life, but you are assigned to the dorms. There is no competition to get into a specific dorm. And the "competition" becomes between the dorms, not the individual people.

I don't know why more schools haven't been able to establish/ promote this kind of system. Everyone raves about it!

This sounds great!

DS, who is very introverted, is at a cliquey art school without on campus housing. He’s made friends now, but the first semester, that type of system would have been really nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being cut from rush is the equivalent of being branded with a giant "L" across your forehead, especially at an SEC or B1G school where Greeks run the show. Sure, you can try again next semester or next year, but what top-tier house is going to take the guy or girl with the "L" brand signifying they got cut as a freshman? It's often easier to try again at a new school or, if you realize you aren't fraternity or sorority material, transfer to one of those funny schools without Greek life.

You sound awesome. I hope my daughters don't have friends with moms like you. I hope my daughters don't end up at Greek heavy schools, it just sounds like a nightmare. Not a fan of the concept of having to buy your friends with money and through stupid rush activities. I get how y'all are obsessed with your "network", but OMG, how lame.

[Anonymous]

I think I read that UVA doesn't do rush until second semester, allowing kids to make real friends before they make greek life decisions. I wish every school did it this way.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I read that UVA doesn't do rush until second semester, allowing kids to make real friends before they make greek life decisions. I wish every school did it this way.

A majority of schools hold rush in winter these days. The southern SEC schools might be the exception.

[Anonymous]

It must be a southern thing. Northern sororities are completely different. Less cut throat.

Sure girls get cut. But you feel crappy for a week then move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being cut from rush is the equivalent of being branded with a giant "L" across your forehead, especially at an SEC or B1G school where Greeks run the show. Sure, you can try again next semester or next year, but what top-tier house is going to take the guy or girl with the "L" brand signifying they got cut as a freshman? It's often easier to try again at a new school or, if you realize you aren't fraternity or sorority material, transfer to one of those funny schools without Greek life.

So early middle school. No wonder we have presidents and country that we have when this kind of culture continues to exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

I will never understand the appeal of rejecting any college with a robust Greek scene, including those that reject people. My own son had interest in joining a fraternity and is in one currently.

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Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.

But this is all made up. You're just waiting to be chosen. It's not like preparing to run a marathon and then feeling like you put in the hard work. Rushing is just about being picked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happened to my roommate. She left school right after not getting into a sorority. It was so hard for me to understand. I'm black and the process to join a historically black sorority is very different and much more intimate. It is a life long commitment. I couldn't understand why not getting selected by people who you barely know and have spent so little time with would impact her enough to change schools, but she was devastated and transferred.

Rejection is difficult for many.

Transferring if unsuccessful during rush is not uncommon at SMU.

Getting a bid from sororities at SEC schools requires a lengthy, committed process that examines almost every aspect of one's life to date. Nevertheless, non-Greek members at SEC schools still enjoy life & thrive as the majority of students are non-Greek.