Why do people transfer after cut from rush?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.

Different Poster. I mean yeah but it’s most based on being cool or hot enough. That has to be a massive self esteem killer because it’s not like getting rejection from a college or job, that’s based on your stats and skill set. Getting dropped from a sorority just means they don’t like you as a person. Brutal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They feel humiliated, obviously. Rush was more important than anything else in their minds. They don't want to see the people who rejected them around campus.

That sounds so cruel. Maybe some consider it a life lesson, but I wouldn't want it to happen to my kid...especially when they are making a big transition already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone who has ever done this.

But do you know anyone who didn’t get a bid anywhere?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being cut from rush is the equivalent of being branded with a giant "L" across your forehead, especially at an SEC or B1G school where Greeks run the show. Sure, you can try again next semester or next year, but what top-tier house is going to take the guy or girl with the "L" brand signifying they got cut as a freshman? It's often easier to try again at a new school or, if you realize you aren't fraternity or sorority material, transfer to one of those funny schools without Greek life.

It’s easier as a sophomore because you then know people who can pull you in.

[Anonymous]

There are a few schools that don’t do rush until January so if you’re starting, you could get in on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, if you're going to a school like Alabama or Ole Miss, where Greek Life determines 90% of your social status and social opportunities, it might make sense to just leave and go elsewhere rather than be miserable for 4 years.

Is social status important when you're at a school with 20,000 undergraduates? Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.

So glad I don’t get pleasure in seeing others have less opportunities than me. What a sad existence if this is your idea of satisfaction. This right here explains what’s wrong with the world.

Collaborative, not competitive.
Yes, still attended a great school and still doing quite well in life.

[Anonymous]

Stupid reason to go to college for in the first place

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.

So glad I don’t get pleasure in seeing others have less opportunities than me. What a sad existence if this is your idea of satisfaction. This right here explains what’s wrong with the world.

Collaborative, not competitive.
Yes, still attended a great school and still doing quite well in life.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.

No my kid has no desire to be in a club that excludes people based on personality, money, clothing, and jewelry.

What's really appealing about Notre Dame is their residential life is set up similar to Greek life, but you are assigned to the dorms. There is no competition to get into a specific dorm. And the "competition" becomes between the dorms, not the individual people.

I don't know why more schools haven't been able to establish/ promote this kind of system. Everyone raves about it!

[Anonymous]

This all seems so toxic. I’m sure the social media pressure around rush and sorority bidding just magnifies everything, especially in the case of rejection.

[Anonymous]

I would NOT want to be part of a group who actually gets satisfaction from having more than others. Having is one thing. But the goal of having more than others—- EWWW, gross!
At least now we know who the real losers are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.

That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.

So glad I don’t get pleasure in seeing others have less opportunities than me. What a sad existence if this is your idea of satisfaction. This right here explains what’s wrong with the world.

Collaborative, not competitive.
Yes, still attended a great school and still doing quite well in life.

+1

+2 well said!

[Anonymous]

I know a kid that accepted a bid at a low tier sorority knowing they were going to transfer to another school where that sorority was top tier!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[url]Being cut from rush is the equivalent of being branded with a giant "L" across your forehead, especially at an SEC or B1G school where Greeks run the show.[b] Sure, you can try again next semester or next year, but what top-tier house is going to take the guy or girl with the "L" brand signifying they got cut as a freshman? It's often easier to try again at a new school or, if you realize you aren't fraternity or sorority material, transfer to one of those funny schools without Greek life.

One more reason to not send your child to such an institution. Select a university where academics come first. Many do have Greek life, but it isn’t the primary reason to attend or the end of your social life if you don’t pay to have friends.