How would you handle this conflict?

[Anonymous]

How urgent is this confirmation? If this is urgent because he needs to get life-saving surgery rapidly, then everything else goes out of the window.

If this is very important, but not life-and-death urgent, your husband can stay with him while you present.

If this is important, then perhaps you can reschedule to a few days later and both come with him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this next appt just a test? Or is a test, get results, discuss results, and then go from there? If just a test, I'd do the presentation

She already said just a test.

No she didn’t. She said that at the last test, the doctor discussed the likely condition with her DH and that this appointment is to have a ct scan to confirm the suspected diagnosis and to discuss next steps.

So if OP doesn’t go, she will have missed the initial testing, the discussion of those results and a tentative diagnosis, the confirmation testing, the confirmed diagnosis and the discussion of next steps.

Yes she did in her very first post: . They want further tests with specialists asap and soonest appt is of course during this presentation time.

[Anonymous]

It is only a video presentation not a big deal so skip it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this next appt just a test? Or is a test, get results, discuss results, and then go from there? If just a test, I'd do the presentation

She already said just a test.

No she didn’t. She said that at the last test, the doctor discussed the likely condition with her DH and that this appointment is to have a ct scan to confirm the suspected diagnosis and to discuss next steps.

So if OP doesn’t go, she will have missed the initial testing, the discussion of those results and a tentative diagnosis, the confirmation testing, the confirmed diagnosis and the discussion of next steps.

Yes she did in her very first post: . They want further tests with specialists asap and soonest appt is of course during this presentation time.

You need to go back and reread. At the previous testing, the doctor discussed the results and presumed diagnosis
With her DH, At this testing, she is anticipating confirmation of the diagnosis and a discussion of next steps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't miss the presentation for just a CAT scan.

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this next appt just a test? Or is a test, get results, discuss results, and then go from there? If just a test, I'd do the presentation

She already said just a test.

No she didn’t. She said that at the last test, the doctor discussed the likely condition with her DH and that this appointment is to have a ct scan to confirm the suspected diagnosis and to discuss next steps.

So if OP doesn’t go, she will have missed the initial testing, the discussion of those results and a tentative diagnosis, the confirmation testing, the confirmed diagnosis and the discussion of next steps.

Yes she did in her very first post: . They want further tests with specialists asap and soonest appt is of course during this presentation time.

You need to go back and reread. At the previous testing, the doctor discussed the results and presumed diagnosis
With her DH, At this testing, she is anticipating confirmation of the diagnosis and a discussion of next steps.

OP never said that she expected a meeting with the doctor. She said her son was getting a CAT scan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm, I get the dilemma. It's not like you are missing surgery, but if you attend the presentation it will absoultely reflect where you place your value. I would try seeing if they have any other options for the appoinment. Patients cancel all the time. Ask to be placed on the list for cancelations in case something opens.

There is huge value in showing her kid that not every health event is a crisis worth missing work over. This sounds like it can be managed non-emergently and missing an important presentation for a CT scan is absurd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this next appt just a test? Or is a test, get results, discuss results, and then go from there? If just a test, I'd do the presentation

She already said just a test.

No she didn’t. She said that at the last test, the doctor discussed the likely condition with her DH and that this appointment is to have a ct scan to confirm the suspected diagnosis and to discuss next steps.

So if OP doesn’t go, she will have missed the initial testing, the discussion of those results and a tentative diagnosis, the confirmation testing, the confirmed diagnosis and the discussion of next steps.

Yes she did in her very first post: . They want further tests with specialists asap and soonest appt is of course during this presentation time.

You need to go back and reread. At the previous testing, the doctor discussed the results and presumed diagnosis
With her DH, At this testing, she is anticipating confirmation of the diagnosis and a discussion of next steps.

OP never said that she expected a meeting with the doctor. She said her son was getting a CAT scan.

“I want to be there for my child as they are scared, I wasn’t there yesterday when they found this and the next appt will be important as they will confirm if defect and next steps”

[Anonymous]

These threads are always so gender biased. A man posting would not be told to be less involved in his child’s healthcare, prioritize work, fine to be absent for the testing, confirmation of diagnosis of a heart condition and next steps discussion, tell his kid and wife they can handle it and don’t need him there, and teach the kid a lesson that dad isn’t needed at his appointments.

[Anonymous]

Unless there is a risk that the heart defect would cause issues if not addressed immediately, I would do the presentation and move the CAT scan to a time that was feasible for me. I am assuming that the heart defect was something he has had for all of his life, and it was just detected now.

If it would harm him to wait, in any sense other than increasing his anxiety, I'd let my boss know and do the CAT scan.

[Anonymous]

No way I would miss this appointment for anything work related.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this next appt just a test? Or is a test, get results, discuss results, and then go from there? If just a test, I'd do the presentation

She already said just a test.

No she didn’t. She said that at the last test, the doctor discussed the likely condition with her DH and that this appointment is to have a ct scan to confirm the suspected diagnosis and to discuss next steps.

So if OP doesn’t go, she will have missed the initial testing, the discussion of those results and a tentative diagnosis, the confirmation testing, the confirmed diagnosis and the discussion of next steps.

Yes she did in her very first post: . They want further tests with specialists asap and soonest appt is of course during this presentation time.

You need to go back and reread. At the previous testing, the doctor discussed the results and presumed diagnosis
With her DH, At this testing, she is anticipating confirmation of the diagnosis and a discussion of next steps.

OP never said that she expected a meeting with the doctor. She said her son was getting a CAT scan.

“I want to be there for my child as they are scared, I wasn’t there yesterday when they found this and the next appt will be important as they will confirm if defect and next steps”

If it's just the scan, I would have someone else take them, a relative or one of our closest friends. Make sure you confirm with the hospital what kind of written note you need to send if it's a non-family member.

If it's a follow-up appointment with a specialist who is only available that day and their next appt is in a few months or later, I would go to that appointment.

FWIW I've never gotten immediate results after a CT-scan for me or family members, and the only times it was same day was when they were admitted via the ER for something like a stroke. For out-patient, I've always gotten results later on on a separate visit. If you're not certain, message the provider and confirm when you'll actually get to discuss the results.