What kind of therapist for compulsive liar?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce. Too much work.

Agree.
Staying won’t change a thing for their child or the lying husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not looking for advice on path forward. I already told myself and told him that if he lies again, it's over.

The question is, in the meantime, assuming he is sincere in trying to address his issues, where to turn for help. He has an appt set up with a clinical social worker. Is that an ok starting place? Will that person be able to tell if husband needs someone more specialized?

And yes I will get therapy too, just havent gotten around to that search yet. Does insurance cover anything, or only certain things like addiction therapy?

Of course he will lie again. This has to be a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not looking for advice on path forward. I already told myself and told him that if he lies again, it's over.

The question is, in the meantime, assuming he is sincere in trying to address his issues, where to turn for help. He has an appt set up with a clinical social worker. Is that an ok starting place? Will that person be able to tell if husband needs someone more specialized?

And yes I will get therapy too, just havent gotten around to that search yet. Does insurance cover anything, or only certain things like addiction therapy?

Look at your policy, OP, if you are not a troll. You can only control you, so better to focus on how you missed all the red flags to have multiple children with this man. What does he lie about? Being employed? An addiction? Affairs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did therapy the become the answer to all problems?

Marketing and magic thinking?

A 3rd party can’t change his weak character, only he can, with significant, sustained work. OP is codependent. She has not explained WHAT he lies about. Poor kids. Weak addicted to drama parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree. Look out for Flying Monkey therapists who want your $200 / session for zero progress and possibly degradation entirely.

This. Spend the money on a legal consult, OP. Do you work?

[Anonymous]

A good spanking cures everything. Best therapist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What type of thing does he lie about? Says he made the kids dentist appointments and called the roofer type lies or “I used to be bffs w bono” and “I won the top sales award for the tristate area?” It makes a big difference as to appropriate treatment (and prognosis.)

(If it’s the latter, have you read the nyt article or from a couple of years ago about the compulsive liar?)

I know the guy from NYTimes article through my spouse’s work. OP, if it’s anything like that, get out while you can.

This article?

[Anonymous]

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/29/health/lying-mental-illness.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did therapy the become the answer to all problems?

Marketing and magic thinking?

A 3rd party can’t change his weak character, only he can, with significant, sustained work. OP is codependent. She has not explained WHAT he lies about. Poor kids. Weak addicted to drama parents.

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[Anonymous]

If this guy he makes a lot of excuses. Still would not trust his character.

https://www.newsweek.com/i-was-canceled-chris-massimine-theater-resume-1749584

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What type of thing does he lie about? Says he made the kids dentist appointments and called the roofer type lies or “I used to be bffs w bono” and “I won the top sales award for the tristate area?” It makes a big difference as to appropriate treatment (and prognosis.)

(If it’s the latter, have you read the nyt article or from a couple of years ago about the compulsive liar?)

I know the guy from NYTimes article through my spouse’s work. OP, if it’s anything like that, get out while you can.

This article?

Yes, the one linked below.

[Anonymous]

OP, why won’t you tell us what he lies about?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What type of thing does he lie about? Says he made the kids dentist appointments and called the roofer type lies or “I used to be bffs w bono” and “I won the top sales award for the tristate area?” It makes a big difference as to appropriate treatment (and prognosis.)

(If it’s the latter, have you read the nyt article or from a couple of years ago about the compulsive liar?)

I know the guy from NYTimes article through my spouse’s work. OP, if it’s anything like that, get out while you can.

This article?

Yes, the one linked below.

He paints himself as the victim and takes little responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:Both my husband and son lies as a first reaction. It can be a symptom of adhd.

https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-and-lying-advice-for-parents/amp/

Thank you for this. I suspect this is at least partly the issue. And I also have a son who seems very comfortable lying. It always struck me as odd but now I am wondering about the connection with my husband and whether there is a genetic component. My son is still young (age 5), so I am not going to assume anything but he will tell lies of convenience, to get what he wants, or just seemingly out of boredom. It is multiple times a day, sometimes seemingly constant lies. I know all kids lie to some extent but this seems a bit out of the norm.

Can I ask how you manage to have a husband and a son with this issue? Does medication help?

I've given up on my dh. We basically coexist amicably. I work a lot with my son on scaffolding. I am leaving medication up to him. He is entering high school still getting straight As, but he may need it eventually.

Specifically wrt the lying, I explained to him that it is a symptom of impulsivity and that he needs to take a beat to respond. I also try not to phrase things in a way that causes him to lie and unfortunately I need to be more circumspect with the way I give feedback to both him and my dh. The both have rejection sensitivity dysmorphia.

Thank you for sharing. I assume this means your DH is able to be a contributing member of the family and can be trusted on some level? My fear is we won't even get to that point so you give me some hope. Coexisting amicably sounds nice to me right now.

I looked up rejecting sensitivity dysmorphia and I can definitely see a little of that.

Yes, he holds down a good job and spends quality time with the kids.

[Anonymous]

What does he lie about, OP? AP? Addiction? That he emptied the dishwasher? Context matters.