People chastising me for skipping vacation with 7 month old

[Anonymous]

Only travel if you want to travel. Although, traveling with a 7 month old is easier than traveling when they are between 12-24 months generally.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're entitled to a preference. You know your preference, that's good. No one else should be promoting their preference over yours. It's just a preference. Equally, guard against doing the same - speaking like an authority on what''s best (as a counterpoint to being challenged)

[Anonymous]

To pile on, OP it is SO EASY to travel with an infant. Will never be easier. Take advantage of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To pile on, OP it is SO EASY to travel with an infant. Will never be easier. Take advantage of it.

It's okay if she just doesn't want to, however. My first child was a freaking nightmare to travel with. He was much easier as a toddler than an infant because he could run around, which is all he ever wanted to do. He never did the "sleepy baby" thing. He basically didn't sleep unless he was being held or rocked or pushed in a stroller. We did a LOT of walks his first year. I felt like a terrible mom because everyone told us how easy travel and restaurants should be and they just weren't.

Second kid was more "normal" and we could have traveled with her, though at that point plane tix for four were too expensive. We did a lot of road trips to see family though.

Now they're older we can travel and it's much nicer than having to plan around baby and little kid schedules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are people really chastising you? That surprises me. We didn’t travel much when our kids were little and nobody at all cared!

I’m guessing you’re on the anxious side—how do I know? Because I am too. And mine weren’t angels when little—cried a lot when out of sorts, couldn’t go with the flow and sleep just anywhere. But if your baby is pretty easy going it actually might be easier now than you think. Next year your baby may have a whole different personality. But do you and stop worrying about what other people think. Lots of people judge and make comments—if you get hurt by them, you’ll have a long and upsetting road. Learn to let them roll off your back.

I have twins and got guff from cousins when they heard we'd never travelled to my mom's house when they were babies. The trip would require a flight and a 3 hour drive. I didn't want to fly in the years immediately after 9/11. The people who made comments were incredibly rude and I would shut down any conversations immediately. My childless cousin who loved to travel was the worst. I had no desire to deal with the new security issues and two colicky babies.

Op anyone who criticizes your parenting choices about travelling is rude. The first posters on this thread are overbearing, too cool for school jerks. I knew too many hyper competitive parents who were proud of showing off how "laid back" they were about parenting. They were proud about how little disregard they had for their infants. They would brag about the horrible things they dragged their babies through as if they deserved an award for being crappy parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re way of talking is really off putting, to start with. People with older kids have btdt, so perhaps listen to some advice. Traveling with one infant is incredibly easy—much easier than it will be than with a toddler or with a toddler and an infant. Take advantage of it. Or don’t. Whatever. The baby of course won’t remember but you and your husband can still vacation. By the time both of my kids hit an age where they could remember their vacations they had been to a half dozen countries since my DH and I didn’t feel like sitting around the house for our vacations. Do whatever you want. But stop talking about your angelic baby.

lol and I agree with this poster.

How rude. There is nothing wrong with op's words regarding her child. You clearly are jealous types. I can't fathom why this bothers you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only travel if you want to travel. Although, traveling with a 7 month old is easier than traveling when they are between 12-24 months generally.

Agree with this. Do whatever and also agree 7 month easier if nursing and can carry everywhere-best time to travel if can.

[Anonymous]

No you are definitely not crazy.

You make an excellent point that traveling w/an infant is no walk in the park.

And who cares what anyone says??
Let everyone mind their own business on how you decide to parent‼️

[Anonymous]

Traveling with small kids is not fun; team OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, ignore the negative replies here, there’s nothing “annoying” or offputting about your OP - not to a normal person anyways. This board is full of the most soul sucking Karens that I’ve ever encountered. I suggest posting this somewhere with normal posters. I also didn’t travel with kids under the age of 1 - it’s a risk to the baby and kind of selfish, and more work for me. Do what you think is best for your family - if that doesn’t include dragging a young baby on flights and long car trips you don’t need to apologize for that.

[Anonymous]

I was schlepping the would with my little ones from the time they were 6 months on. Schlepping, traveling, parenting in a different location...not vacationing

Travel lights my soul on fire and my kids have always been great adventure buddies but if one of those weren't true the cons would tip to out weigh the pros.

You're not crazy, OP. Having a baby is a fleeting time in life and you should spend it as you want.