People chastising me for skipping vacation with 7 month old

[Anonymous]

My husband and I had the cutest baby girl near the holidays last year. She’s an angel. Best girl ever. But people are now giving us a hard time about refusing to travel with the baby. I just think it’s both a waste of money and also not thinking about the baby’s needs to take a big trip before she is older. I’m thinking maybe next summer when she’s older. I know it still won’t be perfect but it should be just a bit easier. We also early vaccinated for measles, so that’s not as much of a concern but it’s also on my mind still as a heightened risk with travel. I don’t want to carry around a full suitcase of bottles, wipes, diapers, and everything else she needs just to say we went on vacation this summer or made the effort to see relatives who have already come to see the baby in DC. I don’t want to take a long car trip and stop every hour or apologize to strangers on a plane constantly. Am I the crazy one?

[Anonymous]

Maybe they are trying to tell you that traveling with a baby can be easier than traveling with a toddler. (Or maybe they're responding to how you start a conversation bragging about how cute and angelic she is, even when it's off-topic.)

[Anonymous]

You're not crazy, but you sure are annoying.

[Anonymous]

You’re way of talking is really off putting, to start with. People with older kids have btdt, so perhaps listen to some advice. Traveling with one infant is incredibly easy—much easier than it will be than with a toddler or with a toddler and an infant. Take advantage of it. Or don’t. Whatever. The baby of course won’t remember but you and your husband can still vacation. By the time both of my kids hit an age where they could remember their vacations they had been to a half dozen countries since my DH and I didn’t feel like sitting around the house for our vacations. Do whatever you want. But stop talking about your angelic baby.

[Anonymous]

Are you the crazy one? yes.
Also annoying.

[Anonymous]

Do whatever you want. You don't need to talk all about why you're not traveling. Just "we don't have any vacation plans for this summer. What about you?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do whatever you want. You don't need to talk all about why you're not traveling. Just "we don't have any vacation plans for this summer. What about you?"

+1. You are crazy for opening and entertaining this conversation and then complaining about it.

[Anonymous]

Are people really chastising you? That surprises me. We didn’t travel much when our kids were little and nobody at all cared!

I’m guessing you’re on the anxious side—how do I know? Because I am too. And mine weren’t angels when little—cried a lot when out of sorts, couldn’t go with the flow and sleep just anywhere. But if your baby is pretty easy going it actually might be easier now than you think. Next year your baby may have a whole different personality. But do you and stop worrying about what other people think. Lots of people judge and make comments—if you get hurt by them, you’ll have a long and upsetting road. Learn to let them roll off your back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are people really chastising you? That surprises me. We didn’t travel much when our kids were little and nobody at all cared!

I’m guessing you’re on the anxious side—how do I know? Because I am too. And mine weren’t angels when little—cried a lot when out of sorts, couldn’t go with the flow and sleep just anywhere. But if your baby is pretty easy going it actually might be easier now than you think. Next year your baby may have a whole different personality. But do you and stop worrying about what other people think. Lots of people judge and make comments—if you get hurt by them, you’ll have a long and upsetting road. Learn to let them roll off your back.

maybe learn not to talk about your kid the way you posted. You’re annoying as hell. I also doubt anybody gaf about whether you’re traveling or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are people really chastising you? That surprises me. We didn’t travel much when our kids were little and nobody at all cared!

I’m guessing you’re on the anxious side—how do I know? Because I am too. And mine weren’t angels when little—cried a lot when out of sorts, couldn’t go with the flow and sleep just anywhere. But if your baby is pretty easy going it actually might be easier now than you think. Next year your baby may have a whole different personality. But do you and stop worrying about what other people think. Lots of people judge and make comments—if you get hurt by them, you’ll have a long and upsetting road. Learn to let them roll off your back.

maybe learn not to talk about your kid the way you posted. You’re annoying as hell. I also doubt anybody gaf about whether you’re traveling or not.

Meant Op not pp

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I had the cutest baby girl near the holidays last year. She’s an angel. Best girl ever. But people are now giving us a hard time about refusing to travel with the baby. [/quote]

I just have to come say that I'm sorry, you are mistaken, my own baby is the cutest and best girl ever. Perhaps yours is number two? Although I hear there was recently a baby born in Argentina who is contender for that slot.

(Sorry, just being silly)

I think your baby would do fine with travel, and will obviously also be fine without travel. What she needs is family who loves her, which she clearly is lucky enough to have. If you don't want to travel, that's 100% fine and you shouldn't feel guilty. If you'd enjoy a trip and can afford it, and have the energy to make it happen, she'll be fine and will enjoy being with you wherever you go. There is really no reason for judgment either way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are people really chastising you? That surprises me. We didn’t travel much when our kids were little and nobody at all cared!

I’m guessing you’re on the anxious side—how do I know? Because I am too. And mine weren’t angels when little—cried a lot when out of sorts, couldn’t go with the flow and sleep just anywhere. But if your baby is pretty easy going it actually might be easier now than you think. Next year your baby may have a whole different personality. But do you and stop worrying about what other people think. Lots of people judge and make comments—if you get hurt by them, you’ll have a long and upsetting road. Learn to let them roll off your back.

maybe learn not to talk about your kid the way you posted. You’re annoying as hell. I also doubt anybody gaf about whether you’re traveling or not.

Why are you so angry?

[Anonymous]

OP, I am glad that you are so in love with your baby.

If you don't want to travel with your baby, you should just not travel. We did not do any international or inter-state travel when our kids were little. Yes, there were a lot of day-trips and such.

On the other hand, my sister loved to travel when kids were newborns because she found it easy to tote them everywhere.

If diseases are a concern, absolutely stay local.

Don't entertain any discussion about travelling. Just change the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are people really chastising you? That surprises me. We didn’t travel much when our kids were little and nobody at all cared!

I’m guessing you’re on the anxious side—how do I know? Because I am too. And mine weren’t angels when little—cried a lot when out of sorts, couldn’t go with the flow and sleep just anywhere. But if your baby is pretty easy going it actually might be easier now than you think. Next year your baby may have a whole different personality. But do you and stop worrying about what other people think. Lots of people judge and make comments—if you get hurt by them, you’ll have a long and upsetting road. Learn to let them roll off your back.

+1. People used to tell us to scale back our plans recognizing that babies do best with structure and familiarity and unstressed parents. It’s your baby OP-do whatever you think is best.

[Anonymous]

Our parents and in-laws live in France, and we were so happy travel there when our kids were that age

But if you don't have any particular desire to travel, don't force yourself to just because someone else says you should.