Cousin called today to say World Pride Day traffic will mean she won’t come to graduation party!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t called her back yet. Gathering my thoughts.

Wait what thoughts do you need to gather. An invitation is not a summons. Your guest is politely declining. You should not be gathering your thoughts, crowdsourcing whether the guest’s is valid to anonymous people, or doing anything other than offering a I’m so sorry you won’t be able to attend, I completely understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. First of all, I left cousin a message that we are disappointed but understand and if she changes her mind I suggested a place to stay away from downtown but don’t expect a change in heart.

For context this cousin was my maid of honor and godparent to DD. Yes it’s “just” a HS graduation but DD is an only child so we don’t ask a lot from family. This is a party for family and close friends at our house. We decided to do it because we want DD to see the support she has and appreciate her accomplishment before moving forward to college. Not a “money grab.” Please, can’t we celebrate our children without questioning motives?

Maybe you can offer you or DH to go pick her up and drive her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. First of all, I left cousin a message that we are disappointed but understand and if she changes her mind I suggested a place to stay away from downtown but don’t expect a change in heart.

For context this cousin was my maid of honor and godparent to DD. Yes it’s “just” a HS graduation but DD is an only child so we don’t ask a lot from family. This is a party for family and close friends at our house. We decided to do it because we want DD to see the support she has and appreciate her accomplishment before moving forward to college. Not a “money grab.” Please, can’t we celebrate our children without questioning motives?

Here is part of the problem - you are not asking your family to do something for you. You are inviting them to a celebration. It isn't a favor, or an obligation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. First of all, I left cousin a message that we are disappointed but understand and if she changes her mind I suggested a place to stay away from downtown but don’t expect a change in heart.

For context this cousin was my maid of honor and godparent to DD. Yes it’s “just” a HS graduation but DD is an only child so we don’t ask a lot from family. This is a party for family and close friends at our house. We decided to do it because we want DD to see the support she has and appreciate her accomplishment before moving forward to college. Not a “money grab.” Please, can’t we celebrate our children without questioning motives?

My advice to you is to focus on the whole picture rather than setting expectations for individual events like this. The person I was MOH for couldn't make my wedding. We're still best friends two decades later. Teaching your kid to focus on whole relationships instead of viewing individual events as a test is a much healthier mindset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has weighed the effort of travel against her desire to attend and decided it is too much. This is her way of telling her that. You aren't going to think of a scenario that she hasn't and change her mind. Since there isn't anything you can offer to make it easier, you just accept it and move on.

This.

[Anonymous]

Is one person not being there really worth this focus? You're risking lessening your kid's day by making a big deal out of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OP Cousin has no young kids. Would leaving early avoid traffic? Party is 4 to 7 pm. She could come whenever. Very disappointed. What is the timing of most Saturday Pride activities?

You are a selfish individual
And clueless

She’s not comfortable with traffic, pride or doesn’t want to come.

Either way it’s her decision you need to be gracious and say we well miss you and move on.

Big whoop your kid is graduating that is a minimum bar. Should it be celebrated yes. Is your twat the only reason people should exist that day no, move on you are making a big deal out of absolutely nothing,

This is READ! Yasssss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. First of all, I left cousin a message that we are disappointed but understand and if she changes her mind I suggested a place to stay away from downtown but don’t expect a change in heart.

For context this cousin was my maid of honor and godparent to DD. Yes it’s “just” a HS graduation but DD is an only child so we don’t ask a lot from family. This is a party for family and close friends at our house. We decided to do it because we want DD to see the support she has and appreciate her accomplishment before moving forward to college. Not a “money grab.” Please, can’t we celebrate our children without questioning motives?

Your cousin consistently supports you and your family. Graduation ceremonies suck. Traffic sucks. Grow the hell up.

[Anonymous]

You people are mean.

[Anonymous]

You can celebrate another time. My high school graduation was marred by my aunt (mom's sister) dying the morning of. We celebrated another day. It wasn't a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. First of all, I left cousin a message that we are disappointed but understand and if she changes her mind I suggested a place to stay away from downtown but don’t expect a change in heart.

For context this cousin was my maid of honor and godparent to DD. Yes it’s “just” a HS graduation but DD is an only child so we don’t ask a lot from family. This is a party for family and close friends at our house. We decided to do it because we want DD to see the support she has and appreciate her accomplishment before moving forward to college. Not a “money grab.” Please, can’t we celebrate our children without questioning motives?

Here is part of the problem - you are not asking your family to do something for you. You are inviting them to a celebration. It isn't a favor, or an obligation.

+1. An invitation is not a summons except apparently at your house. And judging by your posts, I get the distinct impression you ask plenty of your family.

[Anonymous]

OP needs to up the Xanax dose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. First of all, I left cousin a message that we are disappointed but understand and if she changes her mind I suggested a place to stay away from downtown but don’t expect a change in heart.

For context this cousin was my maid of honor and godparent to DD. Yes it’s “just” a HS graduation but DD is an only child so we don’t ask a lot from family. This is a party for family and close friends at our house. We decided to do it because we want DD to see the support she has and appreciate her accomplishment before moving forward to college. Not a “money grab.” Please, can’t we celebrate our children without questioning motives?

Here is part of the problem - you are not asking your family to do something for you. You are inviting them to a celebration. It isn't a favor, or an obligation.

It's okay for it to be both, that's normal in many relationships.

[Anonymous]

Jeez. She’s just a cousin. Why is that a command appearance for your kid’s graduation. It’s not like it is a grandparent.

[Anonymous]

OP, what have you done for her?