How do kids become driven? Or even motivated?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want a kid like that. They tend to have higher rates of anxiety, burnout, depression, eating disorders, etc. I'd rather than my "Bs are fine!" kid. They are mentally healthy and can enjoy life.

No---you'd love your kid like that as much as you'd love your kid not like that. What a strange thing to say.

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Extraordinary natural capacity or trauma.

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Anonymous wrote:I HIGHLY recommend the book “ the Self Driven Child” by Dr . Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson, both of whom happen to be in the DMV area.

https://a.co/d/9gTFCzr

The main premise of the book is that you should let your child make their own decisions ( within reason) and not to micromanage your child.

Meh. Not one path and parenting books have not impressed me much over the years. It started with the sleep training books which led me to realize you have to chart your own path depending on you and your child at end of day.

I pushed my son gently but firmly in k-12 school and am incredibly glad I did. Letting him do it all on his own wouldn’t have worked as well. Now he is at a T10 college and is 100% independent, of course.

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Happy home. Good parents with no mental health issues. Self-made choices by the child with good guidance (just guidance, no pressure).