If your son gets cut from D1

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think your kid is going to do after college?

Seriously stop. It's a hobby not a vocation.

D1 sports is a hobby for who?

What exactly would you classify it as? It’s not an academic or professional activity. It’s a recreational activity done simply for enjoyment. AKA - a hobby.

If you treat D1 sport as a hobby, then you won't be staying in D1 sports

Which coach is putting up with anyone having a hobby mentality and approach?

[Anonymous]

Hard to say:
Option 1) stick around and try to stay on the practice squad in hopes of them bringing you back next year
Option 2) transfer portal in hopes of playing somewhere else
Option 3) switch to campus club soccer, accept the fact that competitive soccer is over
Option 4) tryouts for the closest semi-pro team while finishing your degree

There are no bad choices.

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Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. [b]Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. [//b]You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

NP

But do YOU realize that on average the kids at Princeton are simply CONTINUING on in their whole other life than the kids at JMU?

Anyone who isn’t already connected upon entering an Ivy is in for a rude awakening when they inevitably learn that the Ivy pedigree is more bragging rights than some golden ticket.

I went to an Ivy and this really isn’t true but go on thinking it.

Ok. So tell us your rags to riches story and what your Ivy afforded you that your state flagship could not.

For an Ivy grad, it’s shocking that you aren’t familiar with the NUMEROUS studies that support the truth of what I said.

[Anonymous]

Just here to say I'm sorry this is happening to your son. As parents, we are invested emotionally and financially with their college choice -especially playing a sport. I hope he finds a home somewhere (D3) or continues school. It will be a hard, but he'll grow from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to say:
Option 1) stick around and try to stay on the practice squad in hopes of them bringing you back next year
Option 2) transfer portal in hopes of playing somewhere else
Option 3) switch to campus club soccer, accept the fact that competitive soccer is over
Option 4) tryouts for the closest semi-pro team while finishing your degree

There are no bad choices.

Played semi-pro and college club freshmen year to keep up the speed/skill/training.

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Anonymous wrote:Jaded group. Playing soccer and being part of sports teams in HS is fun. Clubs are a hassle with all the homework. Swap him to another school if he want. Let him be a kid and play.

What are you talking about? We’re talking about club at the college level, which is sponsored by the college.

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Anonymous wrote:Club. If he gets cut, it was VERY unlikely that he was going to play beyond college.

My kid does club at a D1. About 50% were varsity players. The varsity coach is not well liked. They win everything. Club has a lot of travel too and holds nationals- but my son is bummed the competition is not competitive enough.

He put himself in the transfer portal - but the kid is at a top T10-15 so we aren’t letting him transfer to these T200+ just for a few years of D1-D3.

He’s found lots of other opportunities to keep playing at a high level. Lots of semi pro- u23, etc.

That’s cool but still validate PP’s point that if the son is getting cut from D1, he’s not gonna go on to play real pro soccer as his main income.

[Anonymous]

Accept that soccer is now a fun hobby and turn his attention to other parts of his life while playing for fun.

If soccer is the only thing in his life, I guess he could try to transfer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Accept that soccer is now a fun hobby and turn his attention to other parts of his life while playing for fun.

If soccer is the only thing in his life, I guess he could try to transfer.

Because people focus and put effort discipline and energy into being good at something that means it's the only thing in their life?

[Anonymous]

First take stock of where he is in life. He's in college. He's in shape. His grades are probably good or he would have lost his roster spot already. I think we all wish that we were in a similar situation.

There is so much your DS can do. Besides the obvious that others have posted, like club or semi-pro, he now has the time, discipline, and energy (if he is a D1 athlete) to pursue something else.

He is going to find that he has a lot of time on his hands compared to what he used to have.

He could pick up a new sport. Pickleball needs athletes.

He can start a business. He could pick up another major. He could take an extra course or 2 each semester and try to graduate early. He could try acting. He could maybe learn the guitar and start a college band.

If he wants to be around soccer:

How about coaching at a local club? He may find joy in teaching younger players, meet his need for competition, AND he would be able to start getting paid. I have always found the best coaches were those that were not the most skilled, but the journeyman players that had to really learn the technical and tactical side of a game.

How about reffing? Get paid. And if he's good, get paid a lot and travel. I know of a boy in college that not only gets paid to ref local ECNL/MLSNext/HS/semi-pro games, but also gets flown out to big tournaments around the country, like MLSNext and ECNL tournaments, which will pay for his flight/hotel/food, plus pay him lots of $$ for his time. And if he's really good at it, he could ref for the professional leagues that are expanding.

He can look at this as either a negative or a positive.

In my opinion, this is a huge opportunity to explore himself and find the next big adventure in his life.

Quit frankly I'm envious and wish I had his "problems".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he gets cut and wants to play he goes to the portal. Depending on level of DI he Will likely have to accept being picked up by DII or going DIII

lol many DIIIs are better vs D1.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d remind him college is about getting an education and a job. At some point he needs to give up whatever soccer dream is striving for because it’s very unlikely to end with a job.

It’s a tough pill to swallow but one every athlete must take at some point.

His focus should be on his academics, even if that means he stays at his current school and just plays club ball.

Unless his connected soccer teammate hooks him up with a sweet gig

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The same can be said for his roommate/professor/neighbor/relative…..

Sports in college should only be viewed as a way to get your foot in the door of admissions. After that, unless you’re at the level of professional drafting, academics come first.

Teammates bonding through sports is different

No, it isn't.

[Anonymous]

OP your son may be in luck with the roster limits likely going to "grandfathered" in by the settlement judge. His spot should be safe.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d remind him college is about getting an education and a job. At some point he needs to give up whatever soccer dream is striving for because it’s very unlikely to end with a job.

It’s a tough pill to swallow but one every athlete must take at some point.

His focus should be on his academics, even if that means he stays at his current school and just plays club ball.

Unless his connected soccer teammate hooks him up with a sweet gig

.

The same can be said for his roommate/professor/neighbor/relative…..

Sports in college should only be viewed as a way to get your foot in the door of admissions. After that, unless you’re at the level of professional drafting, academics come first.

Teammates bonding through sports is different

No, it isn't.

Says the person who obviously didn't play team sports or was an outsider on the team

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Anonymous wrote:I’d remind him college is about getting an education and a job. At some point he needs to give up whatever soccer dream is striving for because it’s very unlikely to end with a job.

It’s a tough pill to swallow but one every athlete must take at some point.

His focus should be on his academics, even if that means he stays at his current school and just plays club ball.

Unless his connected soccer teammate hooks him up with a sweet gig

.

The same can be said for his roommate/professor/neighbor/relative…..

Sports in college should only be viewed as a way to get your foot in the door of admissions. After that, unless you’re at the level of professional drafting, academics come first.

Teammates bonding through sports is different

No, it isn't.

Says the person who obviously didn't play team sports or was an outsider on the team

NP. I see this idea regularly. That the only activity that promotes bonding is sports. You have a blind spot based on your own limited life experience.