If your son gets cut from D1

[Anonymous]

Has he considered transferring to a D2 or D3 school? That's what's happening in my kids' sport (not soccer)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There sure are some bitter folks amongst us

Because we pointed out that if you get cut from D1, then you play club at college? How is that bitter? Do you think OPs son should move schools to continue the opportunity to play on a D3 team instead? For what possible purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There sure are some bitter folks amongst us

Because we pointed out that if you get cut from D1, then you play club at college? How is that bitter? Do you think OPs son should move schools to continue the opportunity to play on a D3 team instead? For what possible purpose.

Talking about the cynical sarcastic comments

No one casually with little effort becomes a D1 athlete in any sport.
Doesn't mean the family converted their entire life and existence disregarding all other to only things soccer.
Who just wants to quite a passion they love after 10+ years?

Not saying being realistic doesn’t come into play

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

This part on JMU v. Princeton does not ring true in our large neighborhood of 1.5-2 million$ homes. I went to Ivy, next door neighbor went to Mary Washington, another neighbor went to WVU and another to Duke. We all ended up in exactly the same place. (And again, I am the person who went to Ivy).

[Anonymous]

Can you clarify if your DS was trying out for the team or was he recruited? If he was trying out, was he aware that some kids would be released?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

This part on JMU v. Princeton does not ring true in our large neighborhood of 1.5-2 million$ homes. I went to Ivy, next door neighbor went to Mary Washington, another neighbor went to WVU and another to Duke. We all ended up in exactly the same place. (And again, I am the person who went to Ivy).

LOL
a humble brag of epic real estate proportions

[Anonymous]

If really important to him, consider transferring to a D3
or the like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

This part on JMU v. Princeton does not ring true in our large neighborhood of 1.5-2 million$ homes. I went to Ivy, next door neighbor went to Mary Washington, another neighbor went to WVU and another to Duke. We all ended up in exactly the same place. (And again, I am the person who went to Ivy).

Did you end up in the same place in terms of your career and personal and professional peer group and previous life experiences? If so, you are probably under-performing relative to your classmates. The person did say on average. I'm sure there are statistics to support this. There are always outliers.

[Anonymous]

Jaded group. Playing soccer and being part of sports teams in HS is fun. Clubs are a hassle with all the homework. Swap him to another school if he want. Let him be a kid and play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

This part on JMU v. Princeton does not ring true in our large neighborhood of 1.5-2 million$ homes. I went to Ivy, next door neighbor went to Mary Washington, another neighbor went to WVU and another to Duke. We all ended up in exactly the same place. (And again, I am the person who went to Ivy).

Did you end up in the same place in terms of your career and personal and professional peer group and previous life experiences? If so, you are probably under-performing relative to your classmates. The person did say on average. I'm sure there are statistics to support this. There are always outliers.

You think millions of ivy league graduates are living in multimillion dollar homes and traveling by private jets when not on their yachts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jaded group. Playing soccer and being part of sports teams in HS is fun. Clubs are a hassle with all the homework. Swap him to another school if he want. Let him be a kid and play.

He’s not a kid if he is in college. He is preparing for his future career. “Let him be a kid and play” applies to a 12

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. [b]Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. [//b]You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

NP

But do YOU realize that on average the kids at Princeton are simply CONTINUING on in their whole other life than the kids at JMU?

Anyone who isn’t already connected upon entering an Ivy is in for a rude awakening when they inevitably learn that the Ivy pedigree is more bragging rights than some golden ticket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He plays on the school's club team, most likely.

I often wonder if crazy soccer parents (not necessarily saying you're one of them, OP) realize that after high school, and for a select few after college, soccer does go away. Sure you can play in adult leagues but like... transferring schools to play on a different lower division soccer team? Is college just the next step in soccer achievement? What about after college?

Like, the obsession with getting into an Ivy I also think is kind of tiring (because it's like... ok, you're at princeton, now what? you keep attending class and then graduate and get a job like everyone else) but I understand it more, because of the link to higher paying jobs and a stronger education and a more intelligent peer group while in college. But... chasing soccer at age 20, as someone who is getting cut from their D1 team? The glory days are over, kid. You were probably a standout at age 10, and that's great that you enjoyed soccer through your youth, but like... competitive soccer is over for you. Hope you didn't pour your entire identity into it over the past decade. But for some of these parents and kids, they absolutely did.

I was with you until this analogy. [b]Sorry but on average the kids at Princeton are moving on to a whole other life than the kids at JMU. [//b]You realize that right? Just reality.

Do agree with you though sports end and that's it until they can have their own children and live vicariously through them, which is the next step for many.

NP

But do YOU realize that on average the kids at Princeton are simply CONTINUING on in their whole other life than the kids at JMU?

Anyone who isn’t already connected upon entering an Ivy is in for a rude awakening when they inevitably learn that the Ivy pedigree is more bragging rights than some golden ticket.

So kids entering an Ivy who's parents aren't connected and in the 1% can't over 4 years make connections and become part of a network that will help elevate them up the socioeconomic ladder?

[Anonymous]

What do you think your kid is going to do after college?

Seriously stop. It's a hobby not a vocation.