Parents Coaching on the Sideline – What Should I Do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care the parent is more effective than the coach! Coach has no command- where do you want to play? And confused the kid bc they sub every moment they get and switches them in different positions!

Then why don't you coach?

Not the pp but some of us do actually know what we're talking about. I honestly echo what the coach wants like I know he wants his winger to stay wide I'll remind them to get wide or stay wide. I'm not disrespectful or wrong so I've never heard anything from any of the other parents or the coach. I've actually been asked to be an assistant but my full time job schedule doesn't allow it. The biggest issue I've always seen is when parents are loud and wrong or don't know when to be quiet.

Every parent that coaches from the sidelines think these exact things.

For real haha
We all Pep

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'll reply to all of you at the same time. Your situation or situations is not my situation. Believe if another parent, coach or my kid told me to be quiet I'd have no problem doing so. Obviously I can't without going 20 paragraphs go into what I say and at what times but I'm not the annoying guy. Believe me or not 🤷🏼

If you are a parent calling out instruction from the sideline you are by definition the annoying guy

+1

[Anonymous]

I can't stand when we play VA Revolution.... loud parents yelling at players but also they scream "Rev-o-lution!!!" and it reminds me of this every time:

[Anonymous]

Only hope I can offer is that we had a lot of Dad wanna be coaches on our team a few years back. At various points during the season, each one decided that the coach wasn't good enough for their child (which was why they were coaching from the sidelines), and then they left the club. The sidelines have been outstanding ever since. While the children of these dads were pretty good, the reduction in sideline toxicity led to a significant improvement in play over the long-term. Part of that was also new players trying out, seeing our parents aren't crazy, and then deciding to move to our club. It's interesting to see how some of the toxic dads ended up in the same clubs, which tells me something about the culture of the different clubs for our age group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only hope I can offer is that we had a lot of Dad wanna be coaches on our team a few years back. At various points during the season, each one decided that the coach wasn't good enough for their child (which was why they were coaching from the sidelines), and then they left the club. The sidelines have been outstanding ever since. While the children of these dads were pretty good, the reduction in sideline toxicity led to a significant improvement in play over the long-term. Part of that was also new players trying out, seeing our parents aren't crazy, and then deciding to move to our club. It's interesting to see how some of the toxic dads ended up in the same clubs, which tells me something about the culture of the different clubs for our age group.

Great POV and I've seen the same. Funny how they all end up together eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only hope I can offer is that we had a lot of Dad wanna be coaches on our team a few years back. At various points during the season, each one decided that the coach wasn't good enough for their child (which was why they were coaching from the sidelines), and then they left the club. The sidelines have been outstanding ever since. While the children of these dads were pretty good, the reduction in sideline toxicity led to a significant improvement in play over the long-term. Part of that was also new players trying out, seeing our parents aren't crazy, and then deciding to move to our club. It's interesting to see how some of the toxic dads ended up in the same clubs, which tells me something about the culture of the different clubs for our age group.

Great POV and I've seen the same. Funny how they all end up together eventually.

They the toxic ones also don't realize their reputation precedes them in this small dmv soccer community

[Anonymous]

Let’s be real though. Coaching from the sidelines is only part of the toxicity of youth soccer. The moms who chum up to the coaches to get special advantages for their kids are also just as toxic. They just aren’t out in the open like the sideline dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s be real though. Coaching from the sidelines is only part of the toxicity of youth soccer. The moms who chum up to the coaches to get special advantages for their kids are also just as toxic. They just aren’t out in the open like the sideline dads.

I have experienced this on our team this year. We moved at to bigger club this past year with a pre-national pathway teams. The tiger-mom game is at another level. Barely 2 weeks will go by without one of the moms talking about what the coach had to say about something when they met with them to discuss whatever. I think 4-6 moms text the coach directly about soccer stuff. And it shows. Their kids are always getting extra coaching and encouragement, from always being called upon to show an example of skill, to playing the center-mid neutral, to getting on the spot corrections and guest player invitations. It wasn't apparent last fall so much, but this spring with tryouts right around the corner, the effects of sucking-up are obvious.

[Anonymous]

They coach like they watch EPL, they can't physically do anything they are barking about but can't help themselves. You can't tell them not to say something to their own kids, but that is where it should stop.

Coach needs to address it, because anyone that knows sports. The coaching portion is during practice, the game has very little coaching going on. If he screams at your kid, I would tell him nicely the first time that you would appreciate it if he would not address your kid. If he does it again, I would pull him aside to forcefully tell him to knock it off.

[Anonymous]

It really is a PITA. We have had a few that consistently bark instructions from the sidelines and the coach will remind them to keep it to themselves.

It happened one game where what they were yapping clearly contradicted what the coach wanted the team to do. That led to the coach sending out a pretty pointed note which has seemed to help quell the sideline coaching. There have even been team meetings if things get really bad with the director, but luckily we haven't been there.

[Anonymous]

The coach should bench the kid every time. “It’s distracting to him when you yell, so I took him out of the game. If you will let him play to the best of his abilities, I will put him back in. Let me know when you are ready to put your child’s development over your ego.”

OK, I would leave off the ego bit but it’s fun to imagine.

[Anonymous]

Girls team are the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only hope I can offer is that we had a lot of Dad wanna be coaches on our team a few years back. At various points during the season, each one decided that the coach wasn't good enough for their child (which was why they were coaching from the sidelines), and then they left the club. The sidelines have been outstanding ever since. While the children of these dads were pretty good, the reduction in sideline toxicity led to a significant improvement in play over the long-term. Part of that was also new players trying out, seeing our parents aren't crazy, and then deciding to move to our club. It's interesting to see how some of the toxic dads ended up in the same clubs, which tells me something about the culture of the different clubs for our age group.

Great POV and I've seen the same. Funny how they all end up together eventually.

They the toxic ones also don't realize their reputation precedes them in this small dmv soccer community

Not PP but definetly self aware enough to know I'm potentially one of these parents who talks to much. This comment is always rich to me, they know who you are at these clubs, do they? Or, do they care if your kid can ball. But you know what? Offers are always there each spring if DC decides to seek them out, so if I am such a burden why would other clubs give offers? Don't see correlation just whiney lil beaches on this thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only hope I can offer is that we had a lot of Dad wanna be coaches on our team a few years back. At various points during the season, each one decided that the coach wasn't good enough for their child (which was why they were coaching from the sidelines), and then they left the club. The sidelines have been outstanding ever since. While the children of these dads were pretty good, the reduction in sideline toxicity led to a significant improvement in play over the long-term. Part of that was also new players trying out, seeing our parents aren't crazy, and then deciding to move to our club. It's interesting to see how some of the toxic dads ended up in the same clubs, which tells me something about the culture of the different clubs for our age group.

Great POV and I've seen the same. Funny how they all end up together eventually.

They the toxic ones also don't realize their reputation precedes them in this small dmv soccer community

Not PP but definetly self aware enough to know I'm potentially one of these parents who talks to much. This comment is always rich to me, they know who you are at these clubs, do they? Or, do they care if your kid can ball. But you know what? Offers are always there each spring if DC decides to seek them out, so if I am such a burden why would other clubs give offers? Don't see correlation just whiney lil beaches on this thread

Here we go, another toxic dad

[Anonymous]

Our team has a bunch of former ncaa player parents myself included, these parents all seem to get it and are silent as the grave during games.

Now the moms yelling shoot it from 40 yards out when there kid can barely reach the goal from the 18 are the most annoying.