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Anonymous wrote:This is accurate. Many of the kids now on my kids age group top teams at U15 were really the best ones at age 7. The ones who scored 10 goals a game just running down the field. Couple that with sports-aware or linked parents and a competitive spirit and bingo.
Some say kids grow into greatness but in this era of trainers, I don’t think that’s true. I have seen 5 year olds with private trainers who have insane skills already. It would be hard to catch up and surpass these kids.

You are only seeing the successes. Many others burn out, get injured and either switch sports or give it up entirely.

Isn't the question about the successes?

I think the point is more about the failures of this pathway to success and to perhaps consider that.

Why consider the failures?
Focus on what it takes for success.

Because burn out and over use injuries are real.

We in modern day snowflake society overuse these terms to pamper kids

Most these kids aren't putting in half enough work regularly to truly experience burnout or overuse injuries
Most injuries are poor preparation injuries

Sounds like you don't know youth club travel soccer (which includes extra strength training, futsal, 3x a week practices and 10-month seasons -- all in elementary school AND that doesn't include all the camps, Super Y, ODP, etc OR the mental performance training/mentors).

That's why the OP wants to hear from the parents who actually got kids from grassroots to MLS Academy and beyond levels

Did they do all what you listed above?
If they did, it didn't burn them out apparently

I've seen the a large majority kids do all that, not become top players and quit even before HS, sometimes because of injury, sometimes because they're just done. So, OP needs to be aware there's no guarantee and plenty of toxic enablers ready to cash in on your kid's dreams.

[Anonymous]

OP here...thanks for the responses.

It is funny...if my kid was as obsessed about piano and Juilliard, he would be supported. But it is soccer so it is scorned.

Nevertheless, my son may burn out...worrying about the future is the definition of anxiety. However, this is his journey, not mine. He does not play video games. When he is not doing homework, reading or advance math tutoring, he has a ball at his feet or trying to play pickup with his friends. All day, every day!

As a parent, I am simply trying to support this obsession. However, I know that 80% of kids will quit by age 14 from this area so I am trying to determine the best way to feed this healthy obsession at a young age. I tell him all of the time that I will ride with him wherever his passions lie. I will have his college money saved so he can spend 5 years overseas until he is 23ish pursuing a dream. However, we have Kevin Paredes from this area in the Bundesliga and multiple others in academies and interested in the stages the parents took that allow a kid to continue to love the game while also progressing toward their future.

Despite what people think, the dominant kids don't just show up on the weekend dominating the ball with natural talent. Cavan Sullivan, our new wonder boy, recently did an interview stating "repetition, repetition, etc."

For the negative nellie's, read The Talent Code. German's and Brazilian's are good at soccer because they "believe" they are good at soccer.

I got a few ideas from this string already and responses. I may have to get on IG and start stalking parents for the rest...lol

Stay thirsty my friends...don't take this forum so serious...have fun with this .00001 possibility of your child going pro...if they fail, they have discipline and teamwork for life as a backbone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here...thanks for the responses.

It is funny...if my kid was as obsessed about piano and Juilliard, he would be supported. But it is soccer so it is scorned.

Nevertheless, my son may burn out...worrying about the future is the definition of anxiety. However, this is his journey, not mine. He does not play video games. When he is not doing homework, reading or advance math tutoring, he has a ball at his feet or trying to play pickup with his friends. All day, every day!

As a parent, I am simply trying to support this obsession. However, I know that 80% of kids will quit by age 14 from this area so I am trying to determine the best way to feed this healthy obsession at a young age. I tell him all of the time that I will ride with him wherever his passions lie. I will have his college money saved so he can spend 5 years overseas until he is 23ish pursuing a dream. However, we have Kevin Paredes from this area in the Bundesliga and multiple others in academies and interested in the stages the parents took that allow a kid to continue to love the game while also progressing toward their future.

Despite what people think, the dominant kids don't just show up on the weekend dominating the ball with natural talent. Cavan Sullivan, our new wonder boy, recently did an interview stating "repetition, repetition, etc."

For the negative nellie's, read The Talent Code. German's and Brazilian's are good at soccer because they "believe" they are good at soccer.

I got a few ideas from this string already and responses. I may have to get on IG and start stalking parents for the rest...lol

Stay thirsty my friends...don't take this forum so serious...have fun with this .00001 possibility of your child going pro...if they fail, they have discipline and teamwork for life as a backbone.

If every professional player in the world today had parents who were worried about burnout from putting in the required work and discipline to succeed. They wouldn't be where they are.

Read that again slowly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here...thanks for the responses.

It is funny...if my kid was as obsessed about piano and Juilliard, he would be supported. But it is soccer so it is scorned.

Nevertheless, my son may burn out...worrying about the future is the definition of anxiety. However, this is his journey, not mine. He does not play video games. When he is not doing homework, reading or advance math tutoring, he has a ball at his feet or trying to play pickup with his friends. All day, every day!

As a parent, I am simply trying to support this obsession. However, I know that 80% of kids will quit by age 14 from this area so I am trying to determine the best way to feed this healthy obsession at a young age. I tell him all of the time that I will ride with him wherever his passions lie. I will have his college money saved so he can spend 5 years overseas until he is 23ish pursuing a dream. However, we have Kevin Paredes from this area in the Bundesliga and multiple others in academies and interested in the stages the parents took that allow a kid to continue to love the game while also progressing toward their future.

Despite what people think, the dominant kids don't just show up on the weekend dominating the ball with natural talent. Cavan Sullivan, our new wonder boy, recently did an interview stating "repetition, repetition, etc."

For the negative nellie's, read The Talent Code. German's and Brazilian's are good at soccer because they "believe" they are good at soccer.

I got a few ideas from this string already and responses. I may have to get on IG and start stalking parents for the rest...lol

Stay thirsty my friends...don't take this forum so serious...have fun with this .00001 possibility of your child going pro...if they fail, they have discipline and teamwork for life as a backbone.

If every professional player in the world today had parents who were worried about burnout from putting in the required work and discipline to succeed. They wouldn't be where they are.

Read that again slowly

Work smart, not harder, my dude. Required work is different than too much. Discipline is knowing when when to rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here...thanks for the responses.

It is funny...if my kid was as obsessed about piano and Juilliard, he would be supported. But it is soccer so it is scorned.

Nevertheless, my son may burn out...worrying about the future is the definition of anxiety. However, this is his journey, not mine. He does not play video games. When he is not doing homework, reading or advance math tutoring, he has a ball at his feet or trying to play pickup with his friends. All day, every day!

As a parent, I am simply trying to support this obsession. However, I know that 80% of kids will quit by age 14 from this area so I am trying to determine the best way to feed this healthy obsession at a young age. I tell him all of the time that I will ride with him wherever his passions lie. I will have his college money saved so he can spend 5 years overseas until he is 23ish pursuing a dream. However, we have Kevin Paredes from this area in the Bundesliga and multiple others in academies and interested in the stages the parents took that allow a kid to continue to love the game while also progressing toward their future.

Despite what people think, the dominant kids don't just show up on the weekend dominating the ball with natural talent. Cavan Sullivan, our new wonder boy, recently did an interview stating "repetition, repetition, etc."

For the negative nellie's, read The Talent Code. German's and Brazilian's are good at soccer because they "believe" they are good at soccer.

I got a few ideas from this string already and responses. I may have to get on IG and start stalking parents for the rest...lol

Stay thirsty my friends...don't take this forum so serious...have fun with this .00001 possibility of your child going pro...if they fail, they have discipline and teamwork for life as a backbone.

If every professional player in the world today had parents who were worried about burnout from putting in the required work and discipline to succeed. They wouldn't be where they are.

Read that again slowly

Work smart, not harder, my dude. Required work is different than too much. Discipline is knowing when when to rest.

Don't do what real professionals did to become professionals.

Got it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here...thanks for the responses.

It is funny...if my kid was as obsessed about piano and Juilliard, he would be supported. But it is soccer so it is scorned.

Nevertheless, my son may burn out...worrying about the future is the definition of anxiety. However, this is his journey, not mine. He does not play video games. When he is not doing homework, reading or advance math tutoring, he has a ball at his feet or trying to play pickup with his friends. All day, every day!

As a parent, I am simply trying to support this obsession. However, I know that 80% of kids will quit by age 14 from this area so I am trying to determine the best way to feed this healthy obsession at a young age. I tell him all of the time that I will ride with him wherever his passions lie. I will have his college money saved so he can spend 5 years overseas until he is 23ish pursuing a dream. However, we have Kevin Paredes from this area in the Bundesliga and multiple others in academies and interested in the stages the parents took that allow a kid to continue to love the game while also progressing toward their future.

Despite what people think, the dominant kids don't just show up on the weekend dominating the ball with natural talent. Cavan Sullivan, our new wonder boy, recently did an interview stating "repetition, repetition, etc."

For the negative nellie's, read The Talent Code. German's and Brazilian's are good at soccer because they "believe" they are good at soccer.

I got a few ideas from this string already and responses. I may have to get on IG and start stalking parents for the rest...lol

Stay thirsty my friends...don't take this forum so serious...have fun with this .00001 possibility of your child going pro...if they fail, they have discipline and teamwork for life as a backbone.

If every professional player in the world today had parents who were worried about burnout from putting in the required work and discipline to succeed. They wouldn't be where they are.

Read that again slowly

Work smart, not harder, my dude. Required work is different than too much. Discipline is knowing when when to rest.

Don't do what real professionals did to become professionals.

Got it

That's what pros DO say. Hard work, definitely, but balance also is needed for success.