Workday Contact- Infidelity Indicator

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home

I've been in the room and in the car with a guy when he has been on the phone with and/or texting his wife. He can still be texting and calling and cheating at the same time.

Wow. What do you want a “whore of the year” crown?

Accepted. I just wanted to point out that calling, texting, or not calling, and not texting is really independent of cheating.

[Anonymous]

My husband isn’t a big texter and mostly keeps his cell phone in his briefcase. At the same time he avoids after work events with a passion. It helps that he’s a CEO and is in control. If I really need to reach him I call his assistant. She’s great!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, why should I care? My dh comes home every night, as do I. I don’t really care what he does during the day. I have no reason to think he’s cheating but tbh I don’t care

[Anonymous]

Your husband is cheating if he:

Doesn’t txt

Does txt

Calls you

Answers calls

Doesn’t answer calls

Runs errands

Goes to an office

Stays home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is cheating if he:

Doesn’t txt

Does txt

Calls you

Answers calls

Doesn’t answer calls

Runs errands

Goes to an office

Stays home

Add:

Breathes

Sleeps

Eats

Exists

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1

So dumb

+100 Relationships were probably better before cell phones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

Uh no. Some of us actually have jobs where we can’t be on our phones for long stints of time.

What are you licensed in again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home

If you know, and you haven't alerted the wife in some way, you're complicit. But you're probably part of the usual DCUM "mind my own business" crowd.

lol. The “usual dcum crowd”. Yeah you don’t meddle in someone else’s life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

I was at a client pitch meeting this week. None of us who were pitching had our phone out.

And my DH did a heart transplant today and asked me if he should pick up anything on the way home.

During the procedure? Remarkable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home[/quote

If you know, and you haven't alerted the wife in some way, you're complicit. But you're probably part of the usual DCUM "mind my own business" crowd.

lol. The “usual dcum crowd”. Yeah you don’t meddle in someone else’s life.

Yep, the usual DCUM crowd turned up right on schedule! Enjoy being complicit in the name of "MYOB," PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1

So dumb

Agree. I only text at work about child care logistics. I cannot stand when people are texting during meetings etc. I put messages on silent and actually do my work … all day.

[Anonymous]

You bring shame on your profession, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1

So dumb

+2. Task switching is terrible for your brain. I’ll check my phone once at lunch and when I’m done working but unless it’s an emergency I don’t respond during work hours.

How would you know if it's an emergency if only check your phone once a day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is cheating if he:

Doesn’t txt

Does txt

Calls you

Answers calls

Doesn’t answer calls

Runs errands

Goes to an office

Stays home

Add:

Breathes

Sleeps

Eats

Exists

Pretty much ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1

So dumb

+2. Task switching is terrible for your brain. I’ll check my phone once at lunch and when I’m done working but unless it’s an emergency I don’t respond during work hours.

How would you know if it's an emergency if only check your phone once a day?

Reading comprehension.

I’ll check my phone once at lunch and when I’m done working
This means he checks for texts / emails / etc. twice before leaving the workplace, not once for the whole day.

but unless it’s an emergency I don’t respond during work hours
An emergency typically comes in the form of a phone call, not a text or email. If he didn't silence it, calls are usually treated differently than an email (you step out of a meeting to take a potentially important call, but ignore a text).