Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:again, DCUMers complaining about every last thing.

sure, it is stuppid, but not stupid enough for someone to post about it.

I get where OP is coming from. It’s so insanely stupid to wait in a pick up line for an hour. Kids can walk, there is a bus, or you could pull in 10 min after dismissal and be in and out in less than a minute. I truly don’t get it either. Even if you have the time, who would want to spend their time sitting idle in a school parking lot for a hour for no good reason at all.

Adding: But this only happens at UMC public schools.

[Anonymous]

Yep when did that it’s because my kid had an after school activity immediately afterward. If I didn’t get there early then I’d be at the back of the line. I don’t miss those days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2-3 kids in my ES class who are kicked up an hour early every day. Every day. They miss math every day. Their parents don’t seem to care. I’ve asked for if there was an issue with someone picking them up on time after school and they all said they didn’t want to wait in the car pool line. They asked me to send home their math for homework. Unbelievable.

That would be a hard nope from me. A hard nope. Those kids would simply fail.

Would they fail even if they knew the math?

If they get perfect scores on the assessments, they'd get a a C due to all of the missing classwork. Trust me, these kids don't know any of the math.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2-3 kids in my ES class who are kicked up an hour early every day. Every day. They miss math every day. Their parents don’t seem to care. I’ve asked for if there was an issue with someone picking them up on time after school and they all said they didn’t want to wait in the car pool line. They asked me to send home their math for homework. Unbelievable.

Our school banned this, after having so many problems. No pickup allowed within an hour of dismissal (I think that is what is is) unless an emergency. Parents were picking up early every day to get their kid to activities, in some cases! Crazy.

Our school's rule is within 45 minutes of dismissal so the parents come an hour early. This isn't just my class. All of my students live within walking distance and I've met the parents. They are able bodied people who can walk their kids home. They would just rather drive and they want to avoid the line.

[Anonymous]

I picked my kid up (and dropped him off) a few blocks from the school to avoid the traffic chaos and to shield him from the extreme embarrassment of possibly having someone see that he actually has a mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2-3 kids in my ES class who are kicked up an hour early every day. Every day. They miss math every day. Their parents don’t seem to care. I’ve asked for if there was an issue with someone picking them up on time after school and they all said they didn’t want to wait in the car pool line. They asked me to send home their math for homework. Unbelievable.

You should just say No.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2-3 kids in my ES class who are kicked up an hour early every day. Every day. They miss math every day. Their parents don’t seem to care. I’ve asked for if there was an issue with someone picking them up on time after school and they all said they didn’t want to wait in the car pool line. They asked me to send home their math for homework. Unbelievable.

Mind your own business. I can help my kid in math but they weren't getting the therapy they needed so it was my only option as that was the only time slot. We did not tell the school or teaher why because they sucked and would not honor the IEP they wrote or worked with us.

I'd LOVE to mind my business but the amount of time spent in data meetings discussing strategies to catch these kids up is absurd. I have to document the missed skills for each kids, write goals for each missed skill, find the time to catch them up that won't impact their classmates (and isn't during recess, lunch, or resource classes) and then document each session. After that, I have to assess these missed skills and re-evaluate every few weeks. Lather, rinse, repeat.

For a student like yours, we would be able to hold a 504 meeting to determine if he was eligible for a 504 plan. I have had kids who have had to miss school due to various therapies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2-3 kids in my ES class who are kicked up an hour early every day. Every day. They miss math every day. Their parents don’t seem to care. I’ve asked for if there was an issue with someone picking them up on time after school and they all said they didn’t want to wait in the car pool line. They asked me to send home their math for homework. Unbelievable.

You should just say No.

I do say no. Classwork is to be done in class. Admin has followed up with them too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 2-3 kids in my ES class who are kicked up an hour early every day. Every day. They miss math every day. Their parents don’t seem to care. I’ve asked for if there was an issue with someone picking them up on time after school and they all said they didn’t want to wait in the car pool line. They asked me to send home their math for homework. Unbelievable.

That would be a hard nope from me. A hard nope. Those kids would simply fail.

Would they fail even if they knew the math?

The work is done and turned in during class time. If you’re not there and it is not an excused absence, you don’t do the work. Bye.

Ok. Enjoy your tiny power trip.

And here we have mom checking in from the car. Amazing!

Guilty as charged. I’m waiting for my kid to finish an activity, and it doesn’t make any GD sense to drive across town, have ten minutes at home, and then turn around and drive back.

And anyone posting on DCUM is in absolutely no position to judge how other people spend their time…

[Anonymous]

I get all of the reasons posted here (and have done some of them myself), but it is crazy when you show up at 2 to pick up your kid for a doctors appointment and there is no way to even get into the parking lot to pick them up. I was once on the phone call with the office being like “look—can you please just send my 15 year old out to walk up the street two blocks so I can take him to his appointment? There’s no way I can get in to sign him out.” It’s aggravating because now he needs to miss at least 2 periods for an afternoon doctors appointment since there’s no way to get him during the last period or two.

[Anonymous]

I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.

1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.

2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.

3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.

4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.

5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)

6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.


Let me know if I missed anything!!

My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.

[Anonymous]

Well this take a very different, defensive turn compared to what I expected, but I'm sure the nasty moms who responded to the equally nasty post can confirm or deny my post at 18:47.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just volunteered for my son’s Spanish party at the middle school, as his teacher asked for parents to assist with set-up, serving food, and clean-up. This was during the second-to-last period of the day.

When I got to my car, a full HOUR ahead of the final dismissal bell, what do I see? A line of cars at least 20 deep, already forming the school pick-up line.

Are you people insane? Do you have nothing better to do with your time? Do you hate comfort? If your kids can’t walk home from school, you know they have buses, right? There’s buses for that. Are you seriously so afraid that Little Spencer or Brayden Jaymes or Lindseigh Grayson can’t handle the bus?

Is this seriously what you do with your time? You send your kid to school to learn about climate change, while you sit there burning fossil fuels and emitting pollution for a FULL HOUR? What is wrong with you?

That’s funny, because when I was reading your post I was thinking what a loser you and your kid must be that you’re volunteering for a party after elementary school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.

1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.

2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.

3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.

4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.

5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)

6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.


Let me know if I missed anything!!

My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.

So long story short, you’re jealous of people that can afford to prioritize their kids’ sports or have the leisure time and money to do Pilates midday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.

1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.

2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.

3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.

4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.

5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)

6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.


Let me know if I missed anything!!

My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.

So long story short, you’re jealous of people that can afford to prioritize their kids’ sports or have the leisure time and money to do Pilates midday.

That wasn’t my takeaway. Mine is people are dumb and don’t plan well OR think they are somehow better for being “first” in line. Why would plan an after school activity so soon following school that you would need to wait in the pick up line for an hour. That makes zero sense. I plan activities for mine 30 min after dismissal. I arrive about 5-10 min after bell and there is zero wait by then and we’re to our activity on time with a few minutes to spare so they can eat a snack and we catch up a
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