Can't Stand the Term "Friendsgiving"

[Anonymous]

OP here. I admit was wasn't aware that this term existed prior to the invention of the Instagram hashtag as it sounds like it has social media behind it.

Like many of you, we have a large family Thanksgiving then a few days later over the weekend we have close friends over for another Thanksgiving meal. I'm not lonely or bitter, but rather someone who just finds the term "Friendsgiving" dumb, and it doesn't look like I'm alone based on the responses.

[Anonymous]

Ehhhh. We called it Friendsgiving decades ago. It’s not just a hashtag. For me it marked a time I felt independent and able to spend a holiday with my friends (chosen family) and a few kids that didn’t have a family to go to. I now spend the holiday with my family but really enjoy the close friends Friendsgiving and especially that first one just out of college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I so thankful that my life is not lacking in so many different aspects that I would need to lash out online about people having friends and being close with them. You sound miserable.

NP here. I'm not seeing the OP as someone who's miserable with no friends, but rather saying that the term Friendsgiving itself is what annoys her. For what it's worth, my close friends and I do a "Friendsgiving" every year, but like the OP, I find the term annoying, so we don't call it that. It's simply Thanksgiving, just as our family Thanksgiving is called Thanksgiving as well.

I simply don’t care. Some people choose to distinguish the holiday they celebrate with family from the one they celebrate with friends. I see nothing annoying about it. It’s a time to get together and be happy. Others choose to crowdsource their miserable existence.

[Anonymous]

For me, Thanksgiving is with my family, in-laws, etc. I like them, but they aren’t my best friends. We do Friendsgiving every year (and call it such) with the people who we choose as our best friends and their immediate families/kids.

[Anonymous]

Every time I hear the term, I feel like I think of a group of people in their 20's in a Manhattan apartment with a bunch of random dishes that have no business being together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I admit was wasn't aware that this term existed prior to the invention of the Instagram hashtag as it sounds like it has social media behind it.

Like many of you, we have a large family Thanksgiving then a few days later over the weekend we have close friends over for another Thanksgiving meal. I'm not lonely or bitter, but rather someone who just finds the term "Friendsgiving" dumb, and it doesn't look like I'm alone based on the responses.

And instead of focusing on all of the good things that you have in life you came here to complain about an innocuous term people use to describe how they get together with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I admit was wasn't aware that this term existed prior to the invention of the Instagram hashtag as it sounds like it has social media behind it.

Like many of you, we have a large family Thanksgiving then a few days later over the weekend we have close friends over for another Thanksgiving meal. I'm not lonely or bitter, but rather someone who just finds the term "Friendsgiving" dumb, and it doesn't look like I'm alone based on the responses.

And instead of focusing on all of the good things that you have in life you came here to complain about an innocuous term people use to describe how they get together with friends.

I see it both ways. Not sure why the OP is complaining on a message board, but I also find the term "Friendsgiving" kind of dumb too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I admit was wasn't aware that this term existed prior to the invention of the Instagram hashtag as it sounds like it has social media behind it.

Like many of you, we have a large family Thanksgiving then a few days later over the weekend we have close friends over for another Thanksgiving meal. I'm not lonely or bitter, but rather someone who just finds the term "Friendsgiving" dumb, and it doesn't look like I'm alone based on the responses.

And instead of focusing on all of the good things that you have in life you came here to complain about an innocuous term people use to describe how they get together with friends.

Agree. You have too much time on your hands. The term is not hurting anyone so why be triggered OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I admit was wasn't aware that this term existed prior to the invention of the Instagram hashtag as it sounds like it has social media behind it.

Like many of you, we have a large family Thanksgiving then a few days later over the weekend we have close friends over for another Thanksgiving meal. I'm not lonely or bitter, but rather someone who just finds the term "Friendsgiving" dumb, and it doesn't look like I'm alone based on the responses.

And instead of focusing on all of the good things that you have in life you came here to complain about an innocuous term people use to describe how they get together with friends.

Agree. You have too much time on your hands. The term is not hurting anyone so why be triggered OP

DP here. But don't you also have too much time on your hands if you are using it to come here and defend a word? Are you not just as triggered here? Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I admit was wasn't aware that this term existed prior to the invention of the Instagram hashtag as it sounds like it has social media behind it.

Like many of you, we have a large family Thanksgiving then a few days later over the weekend we have close friends over for another Thanksgiving meal. I'm not lonely or bitter, but rather someone who just finds the term "Friendsgiving" dumb, and it doesn't look like I'm alone based on the responses.

Only of of us is here to complain about an innocent term used to describe friends coming together for a meal.

And instead of focusing on all of the good things that you have in life you came here to complain about an innocuous term people use to describe how they get together with friends.

Agree. You have too much time on your hands. The term is not hurting anyone so why be triggered OP

DP here. But don't you also have too much time on your hands if you are using it to come here and defend a word? Are you not just as triggered here? Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been celebrating Friendsgiving for decades. I love it and prefer it to Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is the formal dinner we’re obligated to have. We have to make allowances for all sorts of things we normally wouldn’t, because everyone has to be included. Our bisexual cousin goes back in the closet in front of our conservative uncles. The only ones who really adore it are the kids and elderly.

Friendsgiving is Thanksgiving for the family we choose. It’s also where we do the food we love. The stuffed lobster, truffled pasta. We give thanks for our friendships that have been like family through the decades. We rotate houses but all pitch in with cooking and cleaning. We don’t have to roll our eyes at gender disparity of men with their belts undone, fallen asleep over football. The children love it also, and I hope they find their own friends with whom to celebrate Friendsgiving when they become adults.

I liked Friendsgiving until I read this post.

[Anonymous]

Friendsgiving is different from Thanksgiving as it's held on a different day. If you're inviting friends for your Thanksgiving dinner that still Thanksgiving dinner. Friendsgiving is done on another day usually before Thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

A lot of bitter Scrooge’s in this bread. Friendsgiving is fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't explain why for the life of me, but I find this word absolutely awful. Maybe it's because it seems like it was invented solely for the purpose of using it as a social media hashtag, or maybe it's because that every time I hear an adult use it I want to ask them if they're actually 14 years old. What's wrong with simply referring to Thanksgiving as Thanksgiving, regardless of whether it's spent with family or friends? Does everything need it's own lame naming convention these days?

Yes! Any relationship word with end..lame but true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been celebrating Friendsgiving for decades. I love it and prefer it to Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is the formal dinner we’re obligated to have. We have to make allowances for all sorts of things we normally wouldn’t, because everyone has to be included. Our bisexual cousin goes back in the closet in front of our conservative uncles. The only ones who really adore it are the kids and elderly.

Friendsgiving is Thanksgiving for the family we choose. It’s also where we do the food we love. The stuffed lobster, truffled pasta. We give thanks for our friendships that have been like family through the decades. We rotate houses but all pitch in with cooking and cleaning. We don’t have to roll our eyes at gender disparity of men with their belts undone, fallen asleep over football. The children love it also, and I hope they find their own friends with whom to celebrate Friendsgiving when they become adults.

I liked Friendsgiving until I read this post.

Oh I’m flattered you gave that post so much power.