How much did your child change their first semester?

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

Np- Why is that "gross??" I do not think so. I like this post.

PP who said "gross" didn't get a fraternity bid, or their kid didn't, and they're bitter about it.

“I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world.”
“When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before.”

Like I said, “gross”.

Who talks like this? Sounds so douchey

It’s got to be a coping mechanism for non-academic kids. I don’t believe students at top schools would lead with their Greek pride. Said as someone that participated in Greek life, no bitterness, pros and cons to it.

You helicopter/tiger/bulldozer parents with "academic kids" are in for a rude awakening when their nose-in-the-book, all-work-no-play approach to college doesn’t deliver the results you’re hoping for. Don’t be surprised when their boss turns out to be one of those "non-academic" kids with confidence and a dynamic personality, the kind of kid you love to disparage on this forum.

There’s an old saying in the business world: The A students work for the B students, the C students own the companies, and the D students dedicate the buildings. Why do you think this is? Because instead of shutting themselves in and focusing solely on studying, the B/C students embrace Greek life, networking, and building the social skills that actually lead to success after graduation.

Actually there are plenty of very academic kids that are extremely social, it’s really not the extremes people like to paint. Just as there are kids at less academic schools that are there for various reasons and are exceptionally bright and capable. Being savvy socially absolutely pays off in many fields. My point was that anyone that is leading with their kid can score hot woman is compensating for something. It’s very weird.

NP. I’m not sure if the poster who originally wrote about their kid’s fraternity experience is the same one who keeps responding, but the original post never mentioned anything about "scoring." I’m not sure why it keeps being mischaracterized that way. The poster simply said that since pledging, their kid is more confident around attractive women. That’s an undeniably good trait for any young man to have, whether his goal is to tag anything that moves or stay celibate until marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

Np- Why is that "gross??" I do not think so. I like this post.

PP who said "gross" didn't get a fraternity bid, or their kid didn't, and they're bitter about it.

“I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world.”
“When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before.”

Like I said, “gross”.

Who talks like this? Sounds so douchey

It’s got to be a coping mechanism for non-academic kids. I don’t believe students at top schools would lead with their Greek pride. Said as someone that participated in Greek life, no bitterness, pros and cons to it.

You helicopter/tiger/bulldozer parents with "academic kids" are in for a rude awakening when their nose-in-the-book, all-work-no-play approach to college doesn’t deliver the results you’re hoping for. Don’t be surprised when their boss turns out to be one of those "non-academic" kids with confidence and a dynamic personality, the kind of kid you love to disparage on this forum.

There’s an old saying in the business world: The A students work for the B students, the C students own the companies, and the D students dedicate the buildings. Why do you think this is? Because instead of shutting themselves in and focusing solely on studying, the B/C students embrace Greek life, networking, and building the social skills that actually lead to success after graduation.

Actually there are plenty of very academic kids that are extremely social, it’s really not the extremes people like to paint. Just as there are kids at less academic schools that are there for various reasons and are exceptionally bright and capable. Being savvy socially absolutely pays off in many fields. My point was that anyone that is leading with their kid can score hot woman is compensating for something. It’s very weird.

NP. I’m not sure if the poster who originally wrote about their kid’s fraternity experience is the same one who keeps responding, but the original post never mentioned anything about "scoring." I’m not sure why it keeps being mischaracterized that way. The poster simply said that since pledging, their kid is more confident around attractive women. That’s an undeniably good trait for any young man to have, whether his goal is to tag anything that moves or stay celibate until marriage.

You’re right they said something like especially hot woman, scoring was presumed and added along the way. Agree confidence is great and absolutely agree both myself and spouse has that benefit from green like, confidence not scoring. I still find it a strange thing to lead with, especially a female which always makes me wonder who is writing these replies. I don’t know anyone in real life that has the mentality of pride around their kid being a real ladies man so it’s very foreign to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Came off the plane looking like Johnny Cash. Carrying a guitar, wearing boots, beard was trimmed different. He had embraced his new area of the county. All in. That look faded gradually after college graduation and moving on geographically. He loved his college and college experience.

What? This is hilarious and I love it.

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Anonymous wrote:I went away to college and first came home Thanksgiving. I had not cut my hair since August and Mom thought it was long. But when I came home next at Xmas still no hair cut my mom called me a hippie. Other than that nothing

OP here - I won't need to concern myself with no haircut. Which actually makes me a bit sad.