How much did your child change their first semester?

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

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What do PPs mean by harder? jaded or tougher skin?

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More grateful, more helpful around house, more excited about meals at home, more excited about family activities. More willing to chip in and pay for things.

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Anonymous wrote:We haven't seen DS since he left for school in July and I'm a bit anxious what it'll be like when we finally get the chance. Looking for some reassurance and words of wisdom.

It's only been less than 4 months... what changes do you expect? They are still teens!

Clearly other parents experienced them.

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

I hate how women now talk about other women.

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

Agree. It's like she's proud he's been screwing all these women.

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

Agree. It's like she's proud he's been screwing all these women.

NP. Where was screwing mentioned?

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

Agree. It's like she's proud he's been screwing all these women.

These types of comments pop-up regularly and I’ve always assumed men despite this being dcum. So hard for me to compute it’s a woman. Am I delusional?

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

Agree. It's like she's proud he's been screwing all these women.

NP. Where was screwing mentioned?

"Hot women"

A mother doesn't prioritize having a "hot" DIL, so I'm thinking she views these as conquests for her now more confident son. The trappings of successful Wall Street bro life

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

Agree. It's like she's proud he's been screwing all these women.

NP. Where was screwing mentioned?

"Hot women"

A mother doesn't prioritize having a "hot" DIL, so I'm thinking she views these as conquests for her now more confident son. The trappings of successful Wall Street bro life

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

Agree. It's like she's proud he's been screwing all these women.

These types of comments pop-up regularly and I’ve always assumed men despite this being dcum. So hard for me to compute it’s a woman. Am I delusional?

Hmm, you could right. But the "boymom" stereotype tends toward this kind of talk as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Came home liking hard boiled eggs, and making his bed after getting up. Quite the shock.

OP here. Mine is at a service academy, and I still might fall over dead if he makes his bed at home!

Thanks, all. I'm now looking forward to the more mature version.

Hi, OP. West Point parent here.

First Thanksgiving, child came home tired, hungry, and wanting lots of time to sleep and some alone time - they don't get a lot of that at academy plebe year . Let your child be the guide but would not make a lot of plans. Depending on how social your kid was in HS, they may want to let loose a little with friends - they also don't get a lot of that at academy plebe year. Some parents also found their child a little "harder" - that will loosen up over the next year.

OP here. I missed this in the midst of the subthread on becoming a player, which clearly is not happening here. I'll be sure to stock on up on food. Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:Came home liking hard boiled eggs, and making his bed after getting up. Quite the shock.

OP here. Mine is at a service academy, and I still might fall over dead if he makes his bed at home!

Thanks, all. I'm now looking forward to the more mature version.

Hi, OP. West Point parent here.

First Thanksgiving, child came home tired, hungry, and wanting lots of time to sleep and some alone time - they don't get a lot of that at academy plebe year . Let your child be the guide but would not make a lot of plans. Depending on how social your kid was in HS, they may want to let loose a little with friends - they also don't get a lot of that at academy plebe year. Some parents also found their child a little "harder" - that will loosen up over the next year.

OP here. I missed this in the midst of the subthread on becoming a player, which clearly is not happening here. I'll be sure to stock on up on food. Thank you.

PP - you are welcome! It is hard not to see them for so long - we went to A Day at West Point so at least we had seen him once before Thanksgiving. You should be proud - he is doing a hard thing. And life gets better each year at the academy - more freedom, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Fraternity pledgeship has changed mine for the better. He carries himself with a new swagger: standing taller, shoulders back, and looking people in the eye. When he talks to girls, especially hot ones, he evinces a level of confidence that wasn't there before. He’s majoring in business, which initially worried me because even though he has the academic chops, I wasn’t sure he had the dynamic personality needed to thrive in the cutthroat business world. Those concerns are fading fast.

Gross

How is it “gross” to build confidence, get more comfortable talking to the opposite sex, and prepare yourself to thrive in your chosen career after college?

NP. The gross thing was your tone, honestly.

Agree. It's like she's proud he's been screwing all these women.

NP. Where was screwing mentioned?

"Hot women"

A mother doesn't prioritize having a "hot" DIL, so I'm thinking she views these as conquests for her now more confident son. The trappings of successful Wall Street bro life

That’s quite a reach. While most moms might not "prioritize" hotness when imagining the ideal partner for their son, there’s nothing wrong with wanting your son to be confident around and not intimidated by attractive women.