PSA: No gifts means NO GIFTS

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Anonymous wrote:Please boycott the party if you don't like the conditions. Everybody wins.

This times 1000.

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Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.

That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.

The rude part is the implication that the host has declared your gift crap which you just verified. Maybe you keep a clearance stash and use whatever is on top but my kids love to pick out a gift for a friend. I know you are sure it is not worthy of your house...so we will not burden you.

My kids don't want the impulsive junk your kids pick out.

You are raising nasty snobs. Don't have a party then. My kids don't want to go to the dumb party you hosted that they have no interest in but go to make you happy.

Genuine question: where do you live? And what are your other demographics?

[Anonymous]

I think most people write this to make it easier for people to attend, especially for all class parties where it can be 30 or more kids. We write "no gifts" but understand that some people will still bring something. I don't care either way, and what my kid really wants is a day with friends and some cake.

I think when they are older and the parties are smaller, sure it might make sense for the kids to select meaningful gifts for their besties.

I can't imagine caring a whole lot either way about this topic. I personally do respect the "no gifts" parties and I appreciate getting a pass on figuring out what to get.

[Anonymous]

Really? You do you. I will not judge you either way. If you bring a gift to my no gift party, I will graciously accept, bc it’s a party and dont sweat the small stuff..

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Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.

That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.

The rude part is the implication that the host has declared your gift crap which you just verified. Maybe you keep a clearance stash and use whatever is on top but my kids love to pick out a gift for a friend. I know you are sure it is not worthy of your house...so we will not burden you.

My kids don't want the impulsive junk your kids pick out.

You are raising nasty snobs. Don't have a party then. My kids don't want to go to the dumb party you hosted that they have no interest in but go to make you happy.

Genuine question: where do you live? And what are your other demographics?

We gladly accept gifts. We had large parties. It’s rude to say anything. Some brought gifts, others did not. If your kids have too much stuff stop buying so much. Simple.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.

That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.

The rude part is the implication that the host has declared your gift crap which you just verified. Maybe you keep a clearance stash and use whatever is on top but my kids love to pick out a gift for a friend. I know you are sure it is not worthy of your house...so we will not burden you.

Get over yourself. Let parents say no gifts if they don’t want gifts. I’m
happy to have my kid pick out a present for a friend and if someone says no gifts they make a nice card. This isn’t about you so stop making it about you. To me what is worse are the parents who put on the invite what their kid likes/ wants. I find that so tacky!

My 7 year old writes thank you cards to everyone who gives a gift so all the people on here who are so “pro gifts” do you make sure your child handwrites thank you cards to everyone? The thank you card imho is more important than the gift/ no gift.

Now that he’s older he asks for a party elsewhere (amusement park, show, etc) where we only invite 2 close friends because it’s expensive and don’t own a van

People need to stop taking things so personally. It isn’t about you or your kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.

That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.

The rude part is the implication that the host has declared your gift crap which you just verified. Maybe you keep a clearance stash and use whatever is on top but my kids love to pick out a gift for a friend. I know you are sure it is not worthy of your house...so we will not burden you.

Get over yourself. Let parents say no gifts if they don’t want gifts. I’m
happy to have my kid pick out a present for a friend and if someone says no gifts they make a nice card. This isn’t about you so stop making it about you. To me what is worse are the parents who put on the invite what their kid likes/ wants. I find that so tacky!

My 7 year old writes thank you cards to everyone who gives a gift so all the people on here who are so “pro gifts” do you make sure your child handwrites thank you cards to everyone? The thank you card imho is more important than the gift/ no gift.

Now that he’s older he asks for a party elsewhere (amusement park, show, etc) where we only invite 2 close friends because it’s expensive and don’t own a van

People need to stop taking things so personally. It isn’t about you or your kid.

Yes, of course we do thank you cards within a few days. Parents who don’t want gifts overindulge their kids and don’t say no. If they have too much stuff syptop buying. No gifts is bizzare. It’s a party. You don’t dictate what guests bring. Tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think most people write this to make it easier for people to attend, especially for all class parties where it can be 30 or more kids. We write "no gifts" but understand that some people will still bring something. I don't care either way, and what my kid really wants is a day with friends and some cake.

I think when they are older and the parties are smaller, sure it might make sense for the kids to select meaningful gifts for their besties.

I can't imagine caring a whole lot either way about this topic. I personally do respect the "no gifts" parties and I appreciate getting a pass on figuring out what to get.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you actually were attending many of these parties, you would know that in reality that is not what happens

Right?

No gifts actually means that a gift card or check is prefered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you actually were attending many of these parties, you would know that in reality that is not what happens

This.
We abided by the "no gifts" request at a party last year, and then my DD was made to feel guilty by the other girls (8 and 9yos) because she was the only one who did not bring a gift.

[Anonymous]

No gift people are almost as bad as no wrapping paper people. Virtue signaling was invented for people like you!

[Anonymous]

I swear there is a crazy divide between people who live in the suburbs in huge houses and people who live in the city in apartments like me. No gifts is the norm. It's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I swear there is a crazy divide between people who live in the suburbs in huge houses and people who live in the city in apartments like me. No gifts is the norm. It's fine.

ha, thank you! I was scrolling this feeling totally mystified and thinking the same thing - we live right downtown in DC and have a 7 yo and a 6 yo and have…literally *never* brought or received gifts at parties for either kid or their friends.

But we have a great school community and the parties are always joyful and cupcake-ful and I am positive that none of these kids are aware that parties are, for kids just a few miles away, this crazy fraught gift haul with (apparently?) parents glowering at each other from across the scene.

[Anonymous]

I have gotten gift registries for kids parties to make sure they only get what they want. I don't really care. I've also gotten "no boxed gifts" which I think is pretty offensive as it's a clear ask for cash but that seems to be cultural.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its rude to put no gifts on an invite. PSA to you.

That’s a very Emily Post, old fashioned attitude. It’s not rude. Nobody wants more crap and I am fine with more and more people deciding not to participate in this farce where parents rush to target the morning of the party to pick out some Marvel junk or else dig around their badger present closet for something they bought on clearance because it’s outdated.

Am I the only one who doesn't understand this? I do like badgers.