Divorce parties kind of sad to be honest
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Anonymous
+1 Imagine your kids hearing all about the blow out divorce party. Klassy. Maybe treat them to pictures of the divorce cake and pics of dad with a lampshade drunkenly on his head, hitting the griddy with his middle aged bozo buddies cheering him on? Mom wearing her custom made divorce tee and miniskirt and divorce princess crown. Mom doing jello shots and groping the young waiter who is smiling painfully while her fellow hags make incomprehensible noises that deafen anyone within 50 yards. The hardest of passes. |
Anonymous
No, first society should address total deadweights and delinquent parents from breeding, abandoning, and never parenting their children. |
Anonymous
Right now there’s no support at all unless you’re on welfare and keep your HHI below $42k gross reportable. But supporting unwed temporary “partners?” That would be an unstable $hit$how. No one wants their mom with a different partner every 5 years and their dad with a different one every few years too. I’d be all for supporting Single Parents by Choice though. Less legal mess, less inheritance mess, more stable, clear accountability. |
Anonymous
The current lack of community in some circles is bad enough PP. Throw away the concept of having a real mother and real father raising you would be chaos. The families with two cohesive functional parents are light years ahead of unstable family situations already. Next up is one functional parent and no dysfunctional one around. |
Anonymous
Yes, and invite some Dancing Bears so the new divorcee and her friends can really get it on. |
Anonymous
| Divorce is proven to be a social contagion, immature celebratory parties would only worsen it for keeping up with the Jonses crowd. Just like half of the women marry for a day to play princess, they'll divorce needlessly to play queen for the day. |
Anonymous
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My husband and I took his best friend for dinner after his divorce. It wasn't a celebration as much as it was telling him we were there for him after a hard time.
I would highly advise caution in sending any badmouthing cards or similar because my husband's best friend did briefly get back together with his ex wife after the divorce (such a bad idea, but you have to say nothing). |
Anonymous
+1. This is supportive. |
Anonymous
+1 absolutely |
Anonymous
They’re awesome. Divorcee gets drunk and looks for rebound hookup! |
Anonymous
| As a now happily divorced woman, divorce parties always seemed like a silly/bitter thing to do. |
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I mean… IMHO most engagement rings and weddings are tacky too, why would a divorce party be any different???
Fwiw when I get divorced I’ll probably go on a girls trip with friends but I do that anyway and I wouldn’t have anything “divorce-centric” about it, but it would still be an important milestone for me. |
Anonymous
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I mean...if someone wants to have a divorce party, fine it's their life-I just did not want to.
I am happy to be divorced, but not happy that I had a divorce-I would have preferred a happy marriage, but since that didn't happen...in the end, no party but my dc and I 'celebrated' by getting an amazing kitten, he is the best cat!!! I'm so glad we went to the adoption event that day. |
Anonymous
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No one I know or even heard of has had a divorce party.
Just because you hear it on the news doesn't mean it's common. That's why it's newsworthy. |
Anonymous
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Why get upset because somebody has decided to celebrate the future? Yes, a marriage ended. But they can now move forward with somebody
(choose as many as appropriate) 1) who loves them 2) who isn't cheating on them 3) who isn't fiscally irresponsible 4) who isn't emotionally abusing them/children 5) who isn't physically abusing them/children 6) who is right for them. 7) anything they gd want to celebrate. |