Leah Remini divorcing

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There’s also a financial reality. My marriage went through a very shaky period in our mid 30s when we had young kids. If there had been abuse or something or major dysfunction I could have left but financially it would have been hard.

We ended up doing counseling and changing some bad dynamics and habits and things got much better over time, but now in late 40s it is much easier to leave if I needed or wanted to. In terms of living separately it would be a relief not have to figure out school districts, etc. And probably less pressure to live as close to each other if you’re not trying to see the kids every day.

Just financially and logistically it might be easier that stage of life.

Also if the daughter is a sophomore they might have wanted to see if transitioning to the empty nest phase helped or changed dynamics and actually been still deciding what they wanted to do with the marriage. It’s possible they weren’t white knuckling until she graduated and it certainly sounds like if they waited over a year they wanted to give it a chance.

And for those couples that wait a few years to split, like after they’ve had an empty nest for a few years, they might only realize they want different things in retirement and they they’ve drifted apart and it might take the empty nest phase to realize that.

It’s very black-and-white thinking to assume that every late in life divorce means that the whole marriage was unhappy.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s also a financial reality. My marriage went through a very shaky period in our mid 30s when we had young kids. If there had been abuse or something or major dysfunction I could have left but financially it would have been hard.

We ended up doing counseling and changing some bad dynamics and habits and things got much better over time, but now in late 40s it is much easier to leave if I needed or wanted to. In terms of living separately it would be a relief not have to figure out school districts, etc. And probably less pressure to live as close to each other if you’re not trying to see the kids every day.

Just financially and logistically it might be easier that stage of life.

Also if the daughter is a sophomore they might have wanted to see if transitioning to the empty nest phase helped or changed dynamics and actually been still deciding what they wanted to do with the marriage. It’s possible they weren’t white knuckling until she graduated and it certainly sounds like if they waited over a year they wanted to give it a chance.

And for those couples that wait a few years to split, like after they’ve had an empty nest for a few years, they might only realize they want different things in retirement and they they’ve drifted apart and it might take the empty nest phase to realize that.

It’s very black-and-white thinking to assume that every late in life divorce means that the whole marriage was unhappy.

Very well said.

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Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.

Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?

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They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?

I would consider it a successful marriage.

This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.

When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …

I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?

I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.

You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.

OK. I am asking why people suddenly decide to get divorced when their kids leave home. No need to be a jerk.

Do you think kids suddenly won't feel bad about their parents' divorce because they are in college. Delulu.

NP. The PP is saying there’s nothing “suddenly” about it. Not sure why you overuse the word. It’s a slow burn and the decision is made when the kids are launched and their daily lives won’t be as impacted. Not that they aren’t impacted at all, but less so in daily living. Why is this so complicated to understand?

Because PP admitted she doesn’t have kids. She cannot possibly understand the impact of divorce on kids who haven’t left for college - having to bounce between two homes every weekend or what not. It’s messier. You can’t imagine it unless you actually have your own household with children that you are living in. It’s a lot harder to do when kids are home everyday vs. at college.

Actually, I can understand that because my parents divorced when I was 14 and I went back and forth. So I have some understanding about divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.

Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?

+1

They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?

I would consider it a successful marriage.

This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.

When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …

I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?

I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.

You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.

OK. I am asking why people suddenly decide to get divorced when their kids leave home. No need to be a jerk.

Do you think kids suddenly won't feel bad about their parents' divorce because they are in college. Delulu.

NP. The PP is saying there’s nothing “suddenly” about it. Not sure why you overuse the word. It’s a slow burn and the decision is made when the kids are launched and their daily lives won’t be as impacted. Not that they aren’t impacted at all, but less so in daily living. Why is this so complicated to understand?

Because PP admitted she doesn’t have kids. She cannot possibly understand the impact of divorce on kids who haven’t left for college - having to bounce between two homes every weekend or what not. It’s messier. You can’t imagine it unless you actually have your own household with children that you are living in. It’s a lot harder to do when kids are home everyday vs. at college.

Actually, I can understand that because my parents divorced when I was 14 and I went back and forth. So I have some understanding about divorce.

But you don’t understand why a parent would want to avoid that because you don’t have kids yourself. You don’t understand the feelings involved when you are a parent. It makes total sense to me that parents may delay divorce until the child goes off to college.

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Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.

Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?

+1

They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?

I would consider it a successful marriage.

This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.

When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …

I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?

I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.

You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.

OK. I am asking why people suddenly decide to get divorced when their kids leave home. No need to be a jerk.

Do you think kids suddenly won't feel bad about their parents' divorce because they are in college. Delulu.

NP. The PP is saying there’s nothing “suddenly” about it. Not sure why you overuse the word. It’s a slow burn and the decision is made when the kids are launched and their daily lives won’t be as impacted. Not that they aren’t impacted at all, but less so in daily living. Why is this so complicated to understand?

Because PP admitted she doesn’t have kids. She cannot possibly understand the impact of divorce on kids who haven’t left for college - having to bounce between two homes every weekend or what not. It’s messier. You can’t imagine it unless you actually have your own household with children that you are living in. It’s a lot harder to do when kids are home everyday vs. at college.

Actually, I can understand that because my parents divorced when I was 14 and I went back and forth. So I have some understanding about divorce.

But you don’t understand why a parent would want to avoid that because you don’t have kids yourself. You don’t understand the feelings involved when you are a parent. It makes total sense to me that parents may delay divorce until the child goes off to college.

My point is that I do understand divorce and having divorced parents. I am not completely lacking I'm understanding, idiot

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Anonymous wrote:After 21 years of marriage, she and Angelo are calling it quits. Daughter started college two years ago. Bummer.

Why? It is better to be happy than married forever but, not happy, don't ya think?

+1

They successfully raised their child together, she’s an adult now. Maybe they want different things I. Their empty nest stage of life. I think 21 years is something to be celebrated. Why stay together just because?

I would consider it a successful marriage.

This is so sad. I would consider a successful marriage one where you want to stay married to the person after raising kids and move onto the next stage together. Because you still like each other.

When I’m old, I want to sit next to my person and say remember when we went to …

I agree with you. Can someone explain the dynamic of getting divorced when the kids leave home? So many celebrities do this. Off the top of my head I can think of Marg Helgenberger, Christiane Amanpor, and Jennifer Grey. They all filed for divorce when their kid graduated high school. Is the point of this that you are just too lazy to file for divorce when your kid is in school? Or you really don't understand that you have nothing in common anymore until the kid leaves?

I have been married for a long time but don't have kids. I understand everyone has good and bad days with their SO, but I don't understand how you just flip a switch when your kid leaves home.

You describe avoiding uprooting your kids’ lives by divorcing as ‘lazy’? People grow apart- I don’t judge the decision either way but staying together for a few extra years so your kids can have one home isn’t lazy. You seem judgemental because you are unable to respect complexities in relationships. It isn’t a ‘switch’ that goes off when your kid leaves.

OK. I am asking why people suddenly decide to get divorced when their kids leave home. No need to be a jerk.

Do you think kids suddenly won't feel bad about their parents' divorce because they are in college. Delulu.

NP. The PP is saying there’s nothing “suddenly” about it. Not sure why you overuse the word. It’s a slow burn and the decision is made when the kids are launched and their daily lives won’t be as impacted. Not that they aren’t impacted at all, but less so in daily living. Why is this so complicated to understand?

Because PP admitted she doesn’t have kids. She cannot possibly understand the impact of divorce on kids who haven’t left for college - having to bounce between two homes every weekend or what not. It’s messier. You can’t imagine it unless you actually have your own household with children that you are living in. It’s a lot harder to do when kids are home everyday vs. at college.

Actually, I can understand that because my parents divorced when I was 14 and I went back and forth. So I have some understanding about divorce.

But you don’t understand why a parent would want to avoid that because you don’t have kids yourself. You don’t understand the feelings involved when you are a parent. It makes total sense to me that parents may delay divorce until the child goes off to college.

My point is that I do understand divorce and having divorced parents. I am not completely lacking I'm understanding, idiot

People who don’t have kids just don’t get it. It’s so easy to make judgements from the side and say “well why wouldn’t they just do that?” when you have no clue. You don’t know what you’d do until you have your own kids and feel how that feels. You’ll be surprised what you end up doing while you have kids that you never thought you would do prior to kids.

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Anonymous wrote:No one has mentioned Scientology yet.

Leah was a very different person under the spell of Scientology—which she was involved in since age 13/14 and was deeply connected with for the first 15 years of their marriage.

Then she left (and her whole family left with her—good for them!) but she became pretty obsessed with leaving the cult and burning it down on her way out. MUCH easier said than done. And I wonder if it just took its toll.

Like maybe he wanted her to put it in the rear view and she just couldn’t? Or maybe she started to question how he could “allow” them all to be in that deep for so long? Or maybe his personality is more suited to the person she was before the exit?

Also, I wonder if she’s smitten with Mike Rinder (co-star of Scientology: The Aftermath show and ex-Scientologist marketing guy) in the same way he is so obviously smitten with her?? It would make sense that they have this shared experience and have leaned on one another to decompress after the shared trauma of being favored members at a high level who chose to leave.

Many questions—but I wish her happiness.

Agree. He got sick of listening to her Scientology raves

I find her incredibly annoying. Who knows if he even feels the same way she does about Scientology. I hope she finds the peace and happiness she is searching for.

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Anonymous wrote:Same as her friend JLo

I don’t think they’re friends anymore. But I did enjoy that movie they made together. I found Leah to be really charismatic.

Leah told JLo getting back with Ben was a bad idea. Friendship ended.

aww, and she was being a good friend. surely they will reconnect i hope

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Anonymous wrote:JLo and Leah Remini were so hilarious together. They will be back together.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vrLWPyGVKEg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQgytuSDDYI

They should do a reality show about finding love and being single

This is a great idea actually. JLO content w Leah is peak JLO (other than the george clooney movie and the jenny from the block song, another hit song or movie may not come)

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JLo owes Leah an apology.