Are 20s something still getting married?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Went to a very lovely wedding in England this past weekend. Bride and groom were 23.

[Anonymous]

My oldest graduated college this past May. Several of her friends in the 22-25 age range have recently gotten engaged.

[Anonymous]

I hope they're still getting married. As a 45 year old guy, I'm ready to settle down with a woman in her late 20's or early 30's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are we so concerned if they’re getting married in their 20s? Statistically they are much less likely to divorce if they marry at 30+.

DC is generally populated with highly educated intelligent people but these recent threads really belie that - parents, grab a brain and stop thinking it’s a negative that your kids aren’t getting married and procreating under 30. if they do, you’ll be on here in 10 years, lamenting their blended family situation with the grandkids because the marriages won’t last.

It’s a lot harder to find a good spouse once you leave the college/grad school lifestyle. Yes it happens for some, but it’s basically OLD or colleagues after that. There will never again be as many academic/intellectual peers in your life again once you leave school. So even if you don’t marry then, it’s still good to have found the person by then.

Just go to college reunions and don’t worry so much.

[Anonymous]

Two of my late 20s colleagues just got married. (Not to each other)

I met my DH in college, we dated all of our 20s and married when I was 29 (10 years after we started dating.) We had our kids when I was 33 and 38. Among my closest college friends one had parents who married at 19 and waited to have her in their late 20s - she married at 27 and had kids right away. (My own parents married in late 20s / early 30s and my grandparents were all in their early 30s.) Another married at 24 and had kids right away and a third got married at 34 and had kids a few years later. So even back then (and a generation before) there was a lot of variation.

In terms of meeting/ marrying young, I think you can settle at a young age too (it’s not just older people who settle). My DH is kind and smart and funny and an awesome dad. I could tell family was a priority for him and that was important for me. But both the other people I dated were physically more attractive and I know many men who make higher salaries. My husband is cute enough for me and makes enough for what we need (I also work / have a good salary) and I tended to worry if I went after something like someone more attractive I’d lose the humor or the kindness or some other trait that mattered more to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
"The risk of chromosomal abnormality increases with maternal age. The chance of having a child affected by Down syndrome increases from about 1 in 1,250 for a woman who conceives at age 25, to about 1 in 100 for a woman who conceives at age 40. It is possible that risks may be higher as many statistics only report live births and do not take into account pregnancies with chromosomal abnormalities that were terminated or ended due to natural pregnancy loss."

https://www.chop.edu/conditions-diseases/pregnancy-over-age-30#:~:text=The%20risk%20of%20chromosomal%20abnormality,who%20conceives%20at%20age%2040.

So what ? Are you a hater??

I love and cherish my kid who has Down Syndrome, born when I was 26. I've never seen a more loving and involved dad than my DH.

Now, if I knew my child would have autism, then I would terminate.

[Anonymous]

Both my Ivy-educated cousins married their college girlfriend early-mid 20s. Both divorced less than 3 years after impre$$ive weddings. Both re-married early 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
"The risk of chromosomal abnormality increases with maternal age. The chance of having a child affected by Down syndrome increases from about 1 in 1,250 for a woman who conceives at age 25, to about 1 in 100 for a woman who conceives at age 40. It is possible that risks may be higher as many statistics only report live births and do not take into account pregnancies with chromosomal abnormalities that were terminated or ended due to natural pregnancy loss."

https://www.chop.edu/conditions-diseases/pregnancy-over-age-30#:~:text=The%20risk%20of%20chromosomal%20abnormality,who%20conceives%20at%20age%2040.

So what ? Are you a hater??

I love and cherish my kid who has Down Syndrome, born when I was 26. I've never seen a more loving and involved dad than my DH.

Now, if I knew my child would have autism, then I would terminate.

Its not all about what a parent wants, quality of every child's life matters more. They may find parent's choice thoughtless and selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both my Ivy-educated cousins married their college girlfriend early-mid 20s. Both divorced less than 3 years after impre$$ive weddings. Both re-married early 30s.

Same happened to my cousin only they married their colleagues after 32 and got divorced within 3 years, currently single at 37.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
"The risk of chromosomal abnormality increases with maternal age. The chance of having a child affected by Down syndrome increases from about 1 in 1,250 for a woman who conceives at age 25, to about 1 in 100 for a woman who conceives at age 40. It is possible that risks may be higher as many statistics only report live births and do not take into account pregnancies with chromosomal abnormalities that were terminated or ended due to natural pregnancy loss."

https://www.chop.edu/conditions-diseases/pregnancy-over-age-30#:~:text=The%20risk%20of%20chromosomal%20abnormality,who%20conceives%20at%20age%2040.

So what ? Are you a hater??

I love and cherish my kid who has Down Syndrome, born when I was 26. I've never seen a more loving and involved dad than my DH.

Now, if I knew my child would have autism, then I would terminate.

Its not all about what a parent wants, quality of every child's life matters more. They may find parent's choice thoughtless and selfish.

NP. Take your arrogance and judgment elsewhere. Nothing in life is guaranteed. Your kids or grandkids could have a disabling accident tomorrow, leaving them with a horrible quality of life. You control nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
"The risk of chromosomal abnormality increases with maternal age. The chance of having a child affected by Down syndrome increases from about 1 in 1,250 for a woman who conceives at age 25, to about 1 in 100 for a woman who conceives at age 40. It is possible that risks may be higher as many statistics only report live births and do not take into account pregnancies with chromosomal abnormalities that were terminated or ended due to natural pregnancy loss."

https://www.chop.edu/conditions-diseases/pregnancy-over-age-30#:~:text=The%20risk%20of%20chromosomal%20abnormality,who%20conceives%20at%20age%2040.

So what ? Are you a hater??

I love and cherish my kid who has Down Syndrome, born when I was 26. I've never seen a more loving and involved dad than my DH.

Now, if I knew my child would have autism, then I would terminate.

Its not all about what a parent wants, quality of every child's life matters more. They may find parent's choice thoughtless and selfish.

NP. Take your arrogance and judgment elsewhere. Nothing in life is guaranteed. Your kids or grandkids could have a disabling accident tomorrow, leaving them with a horrible quality of life. You control nothing.

True. Life is so unpredictable, its rather irresponsible to have children and die or be disabled on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
"The risk of chromosomal abnormality increases with maternal age. The chance of having a child affected by Down syndrome increases from about 1 in 1,250 for a woman who conceives at age 25, to about 1 in 100 for a woman who conceives at age 40. It is possible that risks may be higher as many statistics only report live births and do not take into account pregnancies with chromosomal abnormalities that were terminated or ended due to natural pregnancy loss."

https://www.chop.edu/conditions-diseases/pregnancy-over-age-30#:~:text=The%20risk%20of%20chromosomal%20abnormality,who%20conceives%20at%20age%2040.

So what ? Are you a hater??

I love and cherish my kid who has Down Syndrome, born when I was 26. I've never seen a more loving and involved dad than my DH.

Now, if I knew my child would have autism, then I would terminate.

Its not all about what a parent wants, quality of every child's life matters more. They may find parent's choice thoughtless and selfish.

NP. Take your arrogance and judgment elsewhere. Nothing in life is guaranteed. Your kids or grandkids could have a disabling accident tomorrow, leaving them with a horrible quality of life. You control nothing.

True. Life is so unpredictable, its rather irresponsible to have children and die or be disabled on them.[/quote

I suggest everyone watch Paralympics to see how awful it is to have a dis/ differently-abled person in your family.

[Anonymous]

Most don’t

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are we so concerned if they’re getting married in their 20s? Statistically they are much less likely to divorce if they marry at 30+.

DC is generally populated with highly educated intelligent people but these recent threads really belie that - parents, grab a brain and stop thinking it’s a negative that your kids aren’t getting married and procreating under 30. if they do, you’ll be on here in 10 years, lamenting their blended family situation with the grandkids because the marriages won’t last.

50% of women who turn 30 without a child will remain childless.

Childfree

Yay for us! We battled back against societal pressure and won.

Of course, though, this a made-up statistic.

[Anonymous]

My parents married at 21 after dating 3.5 years. However they deliberately did not have children until 6 years later. Time enough to save for a home, a car, some savings. Each worked 2 jobs. This way, enough money was saved so mom could say home with the 3 of when we were small. Neither went to college but they are the smartest , most well-read people I know. All their children went to grad school and none of us married till our 30s.