Creepy man on flight WWYD

[Anonymous]

Men are pigs.
Unfortunately, nothing we can do about it.

[Anonymous]

This is why I am grateful we can afford to fly private or in first class pods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he is certainly involved with trafficking and general objectifying females. However, unless there are laws/regulations against that while on plane then you are powerless.

You think he is “certainly involved with trafficking” because he likes looking at photos of sexy women?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's super weird that you monitored him and his scrolling. That's beyond creepy.

Oh c’mon. If you’re scrunched together on a plane you know your screen is visible to others and anything out of the norm is going to be eye catching. If some guy starts watching porn on their phone next to your child are you going to be like well it’s my kid’s responsibility to look away?

Now maybe bikini photos are ok while clearly porn is not. But I don’t think OP was crazy for noticing her surroundings and having her creep meter go off. And sounds like some of the photos were non consensual snaps of women in public, which again isn’t illegal, but is gross.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's super weird that you monitored him and his scrolling. That's beyond creepy.

Oh c’mon. If you’re scrunched together on a plane you know your screen is visible to others and anything out of the norm is going to be eye catching. If some guy starts watching porn on their phone next to your child are you going to be like well it’s my kid’s responsibility to look away?

Now maybe bikini photos are ok while clearly porn is not. But I don’t think OP was crazy for noticing her surroundings and having her creep meter go off. And sounds like some of the photos were non consensual snaps of women in public, which again isn’t illegal, but is gross.

+1

Most of you are too engrossed in your devices to notice your surroundings. Unfortunately, not much one can do in the situation but it would be good to know who to report something to (not a flight attendant) if you see content that is clearly disturbing – beyond what was described here.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe how many posters are telling OP to MYOB and blaming her for looking at his screen. As women we need to be extra aware of our surroundings especially when traveling or in unfamiliar areas. Unfortunately the world is full of creeps like this guy (quite likely “harmless”) but if he’s brazen enough to do this in public who knows if he would escalate given the chance. Many sex criminals start with antisocial behavior and minor offenses before engaging in worse acts, especially if the opportunity arises. My bet is the act of looking at these photos in a crowded area made it even more tantalizing.

Unfortunately there likely wasn’t anything OP could do in this situation, but I’d rather look at my seatmate’s screen, realize he is a creeper, and be extra vigilant around him than internalize that it is my responsibility to look away from something within my field of vision so as to not disturb this man’s voyeurism.

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Anonymous wrote:I think he is certainly involved with trafficking and general objectifying females. However, unless there are laws/regulations against that while on plane then you are powerless.

Um, what? This is totally baseless. All men look at images of women.

[Anonymous]

^Also even if he has the “right” to look it these photos around others, OP has the right to observe her surroundings and shame him in some way. Being on an airplane does not give you the right to do whatever you want undisturbed.

I am way too non-confrontational to say anything, but if someone told that guy he was being creepy I would 100% support that.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how many posters are telling OP to MYOB and blaming her for looking at his screen. As women we need to be extra aware of our surroundings especially when traveling or in unfamiliar areas. Unfortunately the world is full of creeps like this guy (quite likely “harmless”) but if he’s brazen enough to do this in public who knows if he would escalate given the chance. Many sex criminals start with antisocial behavior and minor offenses before engaging in worse acts, especially if the opportunity arises. My bet is the act of looking at these photos in a crowded area made it even more tantalizing.

Unfortunately there likely wasn’t anything OP could do in this situation, but I’d rather look at my seatmate’s screen, realize he is a creeper, and be extra vigilant around him than internalize that it is my responsibility to look away from something within my field of vision so as to not disturb this man’s voyeurism.

It’s fine to “be vigilant.” It’s not fine to report him to the flight attendant or tell him he can’t look at these things.

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Anonymous wrote:I think he is certainly involved with trafficking and general objectifying females. However, unless there are laws/regulations against that while on plane then you are powerless.

Um, what? This is totally baseless. All men look at images of women.

No. Not all men look at nonconsensual photos of unsuspecting women in public, especially while surrounded by a crowd of other people. We’re not talking about googling some photos of women posing on purpose in the privacy of your own home, which yeah most men likely do. But this is clearly odd.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how many posters are telling OP to MYOB and blaming her for looking at his screen. As women we need to be extra aware of our surroundings especially when traveling or in unfamiliar areas. Unfortunately the world is full of creeps like this guy (quite likely “harmless”) but if he’s brazen enough to do this in public who knows if he would escalate given the chance. Many sex criminals start with antisocial behavior and minor offenses before engaging in worse acts, especially if the opportunity arises. My bet is the act of looking at these photos in a crowded area made it even more tantalizing.

Unfortunately there likely wasn’t anything OP could do in this situation, but I’d rather look at my seatmate’s screen, realize he is a creeper, and be extra vigilant around him than internalize that it is my responsibility to look away from something within my field of vision so as to not disturb this man’s voyeurism.

It’s fine to “be vigilant.” It’s not fine to report him to the flight attendant or tell him he can’t look at these things.

She can 100% say out loud that is gross. And the airline can set whatever standards it wants for content. There is no intrinsic right to do whatever you want on a plane.

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Anonymous wrote:As weird as it was, doubtful anything would be done. Maybe they would move you or him.

Yeah agree... and to be clear I didn't feel like one of us needed to be moved. Just got VERY bad vibes from him that if he's looking at that content on a plane, what is he doing in private with these girls?

This is so commonplace now. Guys live in a porn-soaked world on their phones. Mindlessly scrolling through bikini girls on IG is an everyday thing for many of them. Is what it is.

People scrolling porn is common. More and more often, I see it on flights, the metro or the bus. It makes me uncomfortable. I get far away from these men to avoid interacting with them. It’s gross.

[Anonymous]

at least give him the stank eye

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how many posters are telling OP to MYOB. …

Unfortunately there likely wasn’t anything OP could do in this situation, …

Sounds like you agree with everyone then.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe how many posters are telling OP to MYOB and blaming her for looking at his screen. As women we need to be extra aware of our surroundings especially when traveling or in unfamiliar areas. Unfortunately the world is full of creeps like this guy (quite likely “harmless”) but if he’s brazen enough to do this in public who knows if he would escalate given the chance. Many sex criminals start with antisocial behavior and minor offenses before engaging in worse acts, especially if the opportunity arises. My bet is the act of looking at these photos in a crowded area made it even more tantalizing.

Unfortunately there likely wasn’t anything OP could do in this situation, but I’d rather look at my seatmate’s screen, realize he is a creeper, and be extra vigilant around him than internalize that it is my responsibility to look away from something within my field of vision so as to not disturb this man’s voyeurism.

It’s fine to “be vigilant.” It’s not fine to report him to the flight attendant or tell him he can’t look at these things.

She can 100% say out loud that is gross. And the airline can set whatever standards it wants for content. There is no intrinsic right to do whatever you want on a plane.

OP doesn’t need to be starting up an argument with a stranger trapped in a tube 30k feet in the air by telling him what she sees on his phone is “gross.”