Teen refusing to accept diagnosis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our teen was recently diagnosed with adhd, anxiety and a processing disorder. The teen struggles and doesn't realize how much and the impact. Despite talking with the doctor and family, the teen is rebelling against a 504 plan.

How did you get your in denial teen to come around?

Acceptance is often a process. You can’t make anyone come out of denial. Denial leaves when the person is ready, willing and able. How can you demand acceptance? You cannot. How about backing off? Does DC have a therapist? If not maybe one would be helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to "come around." You can just get the 504 without their blessing.

This may be technically true, but it’s not going to do any good if the teen refuses the accommodations!

This my teen refused all accommodations aside from keyboard use. He also just would not accept tutoring. At a certain point i could not force him to participate. He is dyslexic. His writing is still poor. He did make it through college but I think it will hold him back in his career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to "come around." You can just get the 504 without their blessing.

This may be technically true, but it’s not going to do any good if the teen refuses the accommodations!

This my teen refused all accommodations aside from keyboard use. He also just would not accept tutoring. At a certain point i could not force him to participate. He is dyslexic. His writing is still poor. He did make it through college but I think it will hold him back in his career.

Another mom of a dyslexic kid who refused all sorts of tutoring and accommodations and in general just WOULD NOT do more school-related things than he absolutely had to. He will go to college, but he isn’t “reaching his potential.” That’s okay. He can later if he wants. And he may not be reaching his academic potential, but maybe he’ll reach his human potential, his kindness potential, his love potential. That would be even better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is a “processing disorder”? If you aren’t the dad you need to step back and let his dad handle it. (She’s his mother not “bio mom.”)

Respectfully, she is disengaged and has been for the past 6 years. Dad is handling it, but I am a step-parent, not just an adult taking up space in the home. We pick up the slack and get hateful comments like this from people like you- bitter bio moms.

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She's still his mom.

What does that have to do with anything? Nobody is denying that, but her negativity is affecting the kids confidence, self-awareness and ability etc. If she had her way she would infantilize him into his 40s. She has stated numerous times she is looking forward to making him a basement apartment. She is the problem. We is not the problem, get off my case.