How does low libido feels like?

[Anonymous]

I had a really high libido when I was younger. I've been married awhile and we went through our ups and downs with our sex life. When I hit my mid to late 40's my libido ramped up and our sex life was like it was at the beginning of our relationship and then my libido tanked. My husband's did not.

For me, I would rather just go to sleep. I can get myself in the mood, but it feels like work. I get myself in the mood a couple of times a week because my husband, at 59, still wants it. If I were up for it, he would be happy doing it 5 of 7 days a week. Once we are in the moment, I enjoy myself but it takes a lot of psyching myself up to get in the mood.

I'm on HRT and I tried testosterone, which did nothing for me. I tried Wellbutrin which may have helped a bit but made my hair fall out. I haven't tried Addy but I havent' heard much positive about it.

[Anonymous]

I don't assume it is universal, but my wife's low libido felt a lot like her sleeping with her co-worker.

[Anonymous]

My BF says he has a low libido but he still watches porn. He says watching porn and wanting sex are 2 different things. Is he full of sh*t? We used to have a lot of sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BF says he has a low libido but he still watches porn. He says watching porn and wanting sex are 2 different things. Is he full of sh*t? We used to have a lot of sex.

Sex is a lot more effort than porn so he mostly sounds lazy. It is mostly visually aided masturbation, and I would say that is different than sex. He could be bored and want variety, or the maybe the ordeal and performance pressure of sex is what's putting him off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't assume it is universal, but my wife's low libido felt a lot like her sleeping with her co-worker.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't assume it is universal, but my wife's low libido felt a lot like her sleeping with her co-worker.

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That was funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BF says he has a low libido but he still watches porn. He says watching porn and wanting sex are 2 different things. Is he full of sh*t? We used to have a lot of sex.

I don't know if it's true but I heard that men who masturbate a lot through pron eventually reach a point when they can no longer maintain an erection when they have a real woman right in front of them and they also ejaculate quickly. Don't quote on this but I think you should tell your BF to look it up and if true to stop.

If not, you will see yourself wearing the sexiest lingerie being super wet and socked from the anticipation of getting some good D only for your BF to be limp..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't assume it is universal, but my wife's low libido felt a lot like her sleeping with her co-worker.

Did it happened with the co-worker ?

[Anonymous]

Peri is "boys have Cooties" all over again
Like kissing sounds on tv shows is nasty.

Low libido is just like less intrerest you don't really think about it much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Peri is "boys have Cooties" all over again
Like kissing sounds on tv shows is nasty.

Low libido is just like less intrerest you don't really think about it much.

Your poor husband!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Peri is "boys have Cooties" all over again
Like kissing sounds on tv shows is nasty.

Low libido is just like less intrerest you don't really think about it much.

Your poor husband!

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is generally an underlying cause for low libido. Getting to the root cause is the most important.

There is no need to engage in sex acts that when you are not feeling it. The better course would be for you and your partner to work together to find the root cause. Your partner should be there as a support, not someone holding divorce/affairs over your head if you don't put out.

Root causes could be lack of trust in your partner, lack of closeness with your partner, hormonal imbalances, birth control pills, depression or depression medications, amongst other things.

Seek out a specialist.

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It is not normal to have low to no-libido.

It’s also toxic to your marriage because you are forcing your partner to live out a sexless-marriage; that’s not OK.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a really high libido when I was younger. I've been married awhile and we went through our ups and downs with our sex life. When I hit my mid to late 40's my libido ramped up and our sex life was like it was at the beginning of our relationship and then my libido tanked. My husband's did not.

For me, I would rather just go to sleep. I can get myself in the mood, but it feels like work. I get myself in the mood a couple of times a week because my husband, at 59, still wants it. If I were up for it, he would be happy doing it 5 of 7 days a week. Once we are in the moment, I enjoy myself but it takes a lot of psyching myself up to get in the mood.

I'm on HRT and I tried testosterone, which did nothing for me. I tried Wellbutrin which may have helped a bit but made my hair fall out. I haven't tried Addy but I havent' heard much positive about it.

Could you increase testosterone? I'm a woman and once I got the dosage right, its increased my drive to borderline too high.