Now sober but destroyer their neighborhood rep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children just finished 4th grade. Our children do not have a cell phones but the other kids occasionally calls my kid on my phone. I have been cutting back on that as well. The other kid does have a mean streak at school when there are other kids present (swiping a book my kid is reading quietly, saying my kid cant sit with them at lunch).

My kid has never begged to sleep over at her house. It's the mom that begs at least 2-3x a year. The family has an older sister in high school who I just found out was a bully when she was younger.

Dad is a sweet. Does a lot for the family.

Mom because of previous neighborhood ostracism is very clingy and wants to do a lot for my kid. I guess I am turned off now because I did not know how bad her alcoholism was before and because she has unknowingly raised two girls with mean streaks.

Thank you for the clarification and answers. This is easy. No sleepovers. For no other reason than your daughter isn’t the one asking for one. Just say no. You don’t agree because another parent keeps asking when your child doesn’t ask for it. None of the other info is relevant.

+1, if your kid doesn’t have an interest in sleeping over at this house and the friend in question is more of a “frenemy” the answer is no and the other information has nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let me clarify. I do believe this mom is sober and my daughter has been over to their house a lot. They live very close by.

I did recently find out that the alcoholism 5 years ago was much worse than I thought. Many lapses of judgement that are just beyond the pale.

But it’s old stuff. She is sober. Should I just move on or reconsider? What if she relapsed. I don’t want to put my child in harms way.

The concern is understandable but your kid is a teen and the home is sounds close enough to walk to. It just seems a little dramatic to draw the line at a sleepover if your kid is over there a good deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children just finished 4th grade. Our children do not have a cell phones but the other kids occasionally calls my kid on my phone. I have been cutting back on that as well. The other kid does have a mean streak at school when there are other kids present (swiping a book my kid is reading quietly, saying my kid cant sit with them at lunch).

My kid has never begged to sleep over at her house. It's the mom that begs at least 2-3x a year. The family has an older sister in high school who I just found out was a bully when she was younger.

Dad is a sweet. Does a lot for the family.

Mom because of previous neighborhood ostracism is very clingy and wants to do a lot for my kid. I guess I am turned off now because I did not know how bad her alcoholism was before and because she has unknowingly raised two girls with mean streaks.

Thank you for the clarification and answers. This is easy. No sleepovers. For no other reason than your daughter isn’t the one asking for one. Just say no. You don’t agree because another parent keeps asking when your child doesn’t ask for it. None of the other info is relevant.

+1, if your kid doesn’t have an interest in sleeping over at this house and the friend in question is more of a “frenemy” the answer is no and the other information has nothing to do with it.

With the additional info, it’s bizarre that you’re even considering this.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Wild troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let me clarify. I do believe this mom is sober and my daughter has been over to their house a lot. They live very close by.

I did recently find out that the alcoholism 5 years ago was much worse than I thought. Many lapses of judgement that are just beyond the pale.

But it’s old stuff. She is sober. Should I just move on or reconsider? What if she relapsed. I don’t want to put my child in harms way.

How old is your daughter?