WWYD exH wants to get back together

[Anonymous]

Is your ex P Diddy?

If not, he sounds close. It sounds like he is trying hire you by paying for stuff for his kids.!


Weird, to say the least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. If I move he will pay for private, summer camp, vacations, housing. But I’m on my own for retirement.

My perspective is how do we make joint decision without joint future interest. To me looks like he’s in it until college at the latest. His perspective is even so I’d be better off than I am now.

This makes no sense. So he acknowledges that he has no interest in being with you after the kids go to college? So he moved away from them and now he wants you to move them to him so he can spend more time with them before they leave the house?

[Anonymous]

NO. So you and the kids have to make all the sacrifices while he makes none. And he's mostly a deadbeat to boot. NO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But without combined finances
I’d have to move and change jobs to be where he is
We have two kids one 8th grade one 6th grade doing okay in local public
I’d still be working FT since no combined finances

Do you think he thinks it'll be cheaper than paying alimony and/or child support? What's his motivation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. If I move he will pay for private, summer camp, vacations, housing. But I’m on my own for retirement.

My perspective is how do we make joint decision without joint future interest. To me looks like he’s in it until college at the latest. His perspective is even so I’d be better off than I am now.

This makes no sense. So he acknowledges that he has no interest in being with you after the kids go to college?

>No he doesn’t say this that’s just what it looks like to me given these terms.

So he moved away from them and now he wants you to move them to him so he can spend more time with them before they leave the house?

>Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But without combined finances
I’d have to move and change jobs to be where he is
We have two kids one 8th grade one 6th grade doing okay in local public
I’d still be working FT since no combined finances

Do you think he thinks it'll be cheaper than paying alimony and/or child support? What's his motivation?

Not paying alimony.

There’s a non-zero chance he could bait and switch to split custody and reduce child support.

[Anonymous]

Why does he want to hang you out to dry in your old age? Sounds like a horrible person. Just say NO

[Anonymous]

No, OP. Just don’t.

[Anonymous]

You know the answer op. With every post it’s more clear. That answer is no.

[Anonymous]

Was there some financial issue that led to or was a major contributing factor in the separation / divorce?

[Anonymous]

What’s the current visitation schedule? Is it 50/50? Do the kids visit him or does he visit in your town? Would his new offer make his life easier?

[Anonymous]

I think it’s wonderful and worth a shot as long as both are honest about any issues you had and how you will deal with those going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But without combined finances
I’d have to move and change jobs to be where he is
We have two kids one 8th grade one 6th grade doing okay in local public
I’d still be working FT since no combined finances

Do you think he thinks it'll be cheaper than paying alimony and/or child support? What's his motivation?

Not paying alimony.

There’s a non-zero chance he could bait and switch to split custody and reduce child support.

You know the guy best- listen to your gut and stay put!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s wonderful and worth a shot as long as both are honest about any issues you had and how you will deal with those going forward.

If you mean this post for real and not sarcastically, PP -- You have paid zero attention to this entire thread. This is not about rosy romance. It's about an ex-DH looking to purchase time with his kids and get regular sex with his ex-wife, while planning to ditch her once the kids leave home/he retires. Read OP's post so far, FFS.

[Anonymous]

F that. No way In he..