Very wealthy family member gets very cheap gifts

[Anonymous]

I tell people no need to bring gifts.

[Anonymous]

In my experience the wealthiest people are the stingiest. The most poor members of my family are the most generous.

I actually think this is fairly common, unless the rich person has an opportunity to appear magnanimous or to exert power over others by demonstrating their wealth.

But pure giftgiving where they don't accrue any power or status from it? Then they will go cheap.

[Anonymous]

The only weird thing is the gifts between any of you. Seems like they are given this crap as part of a tour or something like that and they pass them on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My greatest generation multi millionaire parents often bring me and my kids free stuff like tote bags from conferences. They also get uncomfortable when we go to midrange chain restaurants or order alcohol, but insist on paying because they are the grownups. They have to be forced to buy new clothes. On the other hand, we have a generous college fund (thank you!). People are odd.

They’re not odd! They’re practical! No matter how rich I get I’m always grabbing conference freebies especially the chip clips and stress balls

[Anonymous]

I never bring back souvenirs. I’m wealthy. Souvenirs are just unwanted clutter, it’s not about economizing.

[Anonymous]

I usually bring back coffee mugs, local spices or if within United States local beer/liquor that everyone I know rolls their eyes at but uses. Then whenever I luck up and the spice mix was good they always ask for more and then we can never remember which spices it was or which trip it came from.

[Anonymous]

Im confused. You expect grownups to give you, a grown up, a gift when they travel?

pretty sure the last time someone gave me a gift when traveling, I was a kid. and it was my aunt and she gave me stuff like the free shampoos from hotels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went out to dinner with a man and his family who have upwards of $1 billion in wealth. He had just donated $50 million to a good cause. When the bill came, he said he would cover the wine and that we could all split the check. I have no hard feelings over that. I have the money to pay for my own dinner and it was nice for him to pay for the wine. We're not entitled to receive anything from other people, and you would do well to remember that OP.

We have college friends who are very wealthy and never let us pick up the check or split or buy a bottle of wine. It makes me feel bad because we can afford it. We all started in the same place and now they have put themselves above us.

I just Venmo people after the fact who pull that consistently

[Anonymous]

I don’t give gifts to adults. A sibling makes north of $3 million a year and does not give gifts. I don’t think anything of it. We are adults…not children. Adults do not need gifts. You are acting like a petulant child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never bring back souvenirs. I’m wealthy. Souvenirs are just unwanted clutter, it’s not about economizing.

PP here. I agree. I don’t buy such things either nor do I want to receive them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not normal for adults to bring souvenirs for other adults that are not their spouse. Actually it would be very strange if they did.

This. The only person we buy a souvenir for is the neighbor who gets our mail while we are gone.

[Anonymous]

Nobody owes you souvenirs from their trips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never bring back souvenirs. I’m wealthy. Souvenirs are just unwanted clutter, it’s not about economizing.

PP here. I agree. I don’t buy such things either nor do I want to receive them.

Same, I don’t exchange souvenirs with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? Don’t overthink it. Many people (like me) hate stuff and gifts are mostly clutter and landfill.
Focus on relationships

[Anonymous]

DH and I are very wealthy and we bring certain relatives inexpensive gifts because they're so crass in always talking about how much everything costs. If we bought them expensive gifts, they'd comment on that in a negative way too.