What would you call this? Friend question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s called. I can’t navigate everybody’s personalities and I’m just planning an event and you guys decide if you want to attend based on who’s there.

It's OK if she informs op that B is going too when asking. Not ok, knowing their history, to tell her after she agreed

According to OP her "history" with B is that B told her she was out of shape once. This is not exactly what I'd call "history." I'm guessing that OP, A, & B are all main characters.

[Anonymous]

Why not invite A to your house? B won’t be able to invite herself to that.

Or let them both fade. Their relationship may erupt and you could end up friends with A in the future without B around.

The long game wins sometimes.

[Anonymous]

OP

Look up Karpman’s Drama Triangle and see if learning about it helps you with this friendship problem. It helped me with a family situation!

Your plan to attend and seek no further outings with A sounds reasonable. Relationships should not suck up this kind of energy from us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s called. I can’t navigate everybody’s personalities and I’m just planning an event and you guys decide if you want to attend based on who’s there.

It's OK if she informs op that B is going too when asking. Not ok, knowing their history, to tell her after she agreed

According to OP her "history" with B is that B told her she was out of shape once. This is not exactly what I'd call "history." I'm guessing that OP, A, & B are all main characters.

You missed the part where B was rude and curt with op every time they saw each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP

Look up Karpman’s Drama Triangle and see if learning about it helps you with this friendship problem. It helped me with a family situation!

Your plan to attend and seek no further outings with A sounds reasonable. Relationships should not suck up this kind of energy from us.

omg. B is the victim, A is the rescuer and I (op) am the persecutor. Thanks, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP

Look up Karpman’s Drama Triangle and see if learning about it helps you with this friendship problem. It helped me with a family situation!

Your plan to attend and seek no further outings with A sounds reasonable. Relationships should not suck up this kind of energy from us.

omg. B is the victim, A is the rescuer and I (op) am the persecutor. Thanks, pp.

or maybe I'm the victim and A is the persecutor? Bottom line: this is dysfunctional.