That’s a good idea. Get an unbiased opinion. |
OP's siblings disagree with OP. All of us have read the horror stories of 80+ year olds driving into buildings or sidewalk seating at restaurants, parades etc. When someone hits 75-80 years old, it's irresponsible not to be trying to protect them from themselves, let alone innocent bystanders. If they can pass a vision, direction and reflex test, then great! Carry on. Most won't be able to. |
Actually you are ridiculous. The OP addressed this hours before you posted, try reading the comments before spouting off with your big self. |
Lol, calm down cranky pants. I call BS on that response. If OP had actually driven with the mom and know them to be a competent driver, that would have been the main point they would have made in their original post. They are backpedaling. Also call BS that mom is being tested regularly by the DMV. what does that even mean? Where do they live that this is the case? |
Those are bigoted ageist assumptions and prejudiced. Nobody has a duty to “protect people from themselves,” particularly based on age. How about all the terrible, reckless, aggressive, nitwit drivers in youth to middle age? Age impacts people differently. Some elderly people (e.g., those who have had cataract surgery) have great vision. Experience compensates for other limitations. |
I think most of us agree that some 90 year olds can be fine drivers. I think most of us also accept that statistically speaking, 90 year olds are not good drivers and should not be in the road. Personally, I believe the state should test older drivers to renew their licenses ( no automatic renewals). But if the state isn’t going to do it, who can convince the elderly (who may be legally competent) to give up the keys of not their family? |
The bolded might be the dumbest thing I have read this year. Congratulations, I guess. |
My mom drove into her late 80’s…weeks before she died. She stopped driving at night and never drove in snow or rain. She had zero incidents her entire driving life. I see a large amount of young drivers swerving on roads because of texting or being on their phone. |
There were 3 siblings against one in our family too. Our brother was kissing up to our mom trying to influence her. I am suspicious of OP's motives for keeping her mother driving. |
Next time she comes to your house roll a ball in front of her car and see if she notices. You'll definitely be able to assess her skills then. |
+1 Spend some time in the car with your mother driving and reassess OP. The elderly can deteriorate fast, and sounds like you're caught up in the 3 against 1 mentality when statistically, your siblings are likely to be the wiser ones in this case. |
Test reaction time, it’s akin to being drunk. |
Here’s the problem . You can sit in the passenger seat next to her 1 or 2 times and say hey she’s fine! However, this means nothing. Slower reflexes and diminishing cognitive reaction time is normal once you are in your 90s! You use these skills when defensive driving needs to kick in which isn’t every trip.
The crazy person squawking childishly that there are reckless young and middle age drivers so 90 year olds should get to drive too is missing the point. The fact that there are reckless drivers out there is one of the reasons why reflex and reaction time is important for defensive driving. OP your mom needs to stop driving. |
What’s the law in your state? For example in Va. she would need a renewal every five years. If she is passing that, and wants to drive, not sure what else is to be done, it’s not their call. |
OP -- you think there is a perfect decision. Timed perfectly. That can defended perfectly.
Op, you are way too triggered. Finding fault. Reasonable people are making the best decision/giving advise ... and it is reasonable. |