You are asking how to cheat. And you feel no remorse about it. I assume this is part of making America great - normalizing cheating. You disgust me. |
I'm not asking for these types of opinions. Sorry, I'm not. We are not rich, as I stated. So we wont be in some fancy end of life facility. So what we do have, I want to go to my family. You don't have to agree or like it. But I'm not really interested in that. I've worked since I've been 14 years old. I've paid into all of the systems and so don't feel bad asking for the taxpayers for anything. Growing old in this country is a lonely and expensive affair. I’ve been working since I was 11 (mother’s helper) and I’m not expecting tax payers to foot my end of life care so that my kids get an inheritance. People like you are the worst. |
How am *I* gaslighting? You pose a question on an anonymous forum about how to cheat and you get negative responses that you're not happy with and then you tell people that you don't want their opinion in crass terms that you don't give a sh-- about what they think. I just stated the truth that you don't get to control their responses. It's telling that most people who responded think this is a dumb and shady idea. It's one thing to want to save assets to protect a spouse who will be destitute without them--you're choosing between two bad options there--a Medicaid nursing home or a destitute spouse. But it's a whole different thing to do that to preserve an inheritance. I can't imagine any kids who would want that. |
Consider long term care insurance. |
Yes. Also what often happens is the elderly person owns a home, and has a child, or grandchild, niece or nephew, who is underemployed and cannot find housing. The family member lives rent free with the elderly person, and provides care until the elderly person really can't live on his or her own any longer. |
A trust won’t necessarily prevent one spouse from using up all of the money for their care. |
Honestly, these “independent living” places are a total scam. The nursing beds they offer are as horrible as anything else out there and the nursing staff are very limited in what they will do outside that context. You’re probably better off putting your loved one in an affordable condo and paying for care assistance when the time comes. |
How does this work – will you buy a gun and just leave a gruesome scene for your kids to discover in your living room? Because I thought euthanasia is still not legal in most places and, in the places it is legal, it is still disallowed if there is any sign of mental decline. |
I hate to break it to you, but if you have assets to leave, you are the "rich" people. |
I can't like this comment enough. My Mom, unfortunately, didn't live long enough to need end of life care, but after dealing with her mother, she promised me that she would not resist going into a care facility. I have made the same commitment to my kids. I'm saving enough money so it's not their problem, and that's the best gift I can give them. If I lose my $$ and a Medicaid facility is where I end up, I will know it's not their fault. |
Of course they do. The point is that there isn't some magical answer that will let OP maintain complete control of all their spending and assets while making them eligible for Medicaid until they die and then all the assets transfer to their kids. That is not illegal, anyway. |
You are NOT entitled to have the government (ie my tax dollars) pay for your old age care simply so you can give money to your kids. That’s not how it works. Don’t care that you’ve worked since 15. I work and pay tons in taxes, we save for our own LTC and don’t expect the gift to provide it. |
Ummm, why should “rich people” pay for your lack of planning and desire to be greedy? Our income is mostly w2 or interest. No way to avoid paying massive taxes. But I’m not paying more taxes so you don’t have to plan for life and death. You can plan for it and use your own money not give it to kids upon death. Me personally I would t want to live in a Medicare facility but I bet your kids want your kidney and don’t care |
Not all. The higher end CcRCs are amazing places. Parents are in one. The costs do not increase for going to nursing care, assisted living or memory care, except for paying for all meals versus 1.5 per day. You are guaranteed a spot should you ever need it. Your spouse gets to remain in the same independent living space for no additional cost/ If you can swing the entry fee it’s the way to do it |
No, she’s not even American. |