Alcohol at a shower

[Anonymous]

Why are you hosting the shower by yourself? Are there other bridesmaids? What about the bride and groom’s mothers? If possible, I would scale WAY back. Less people and have it at your home. Even if you end of catering the food, it would be much less money. Hoping the invites have not gone out.

[Anonymous]

Condo associations normally have community rooms you can rent (with kitchens and bathrooms).

Someone of that age probably lives in a condo or townhome?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one has a house or large apartment to lend? Are there private rooms with bars that offer a deal on alcohol? I suppose no one wants a shower in a regional park where you could just rent a pavilion, decorate it and bring your own stuff? Are there museums or other spaces that you could rent and bring your own food and drink?

Op here. I have a large home. I can’t fit that many women or tables in my home.

I can’t recall the site but there’s a site that’s almost like Airbnb fir event spaces. A lot of places on it are party rooms in nice buildings. You could rent one for like 300, get trays and bring your own alcohol. Why do you need a full seated at tables event?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hosting the shower by yourself? Are there other bridesmaids? What about the bride and groom’s mothers? If possible, I would scale WAY back. Less people and have it at your home. Even if you end of catering the food, it would be much less money. Hoping the invites have not gone out.

Op here. I had wanted other friends to help but it didn’t happen. I can’t imagine asking the moms to host (and they didn’t offer). They are paying for the wedding. Alcohol just seems the thing that really kills my budget.

I called a lot of clubhouses but they were booked. I have a clubhouse but it is booked solid a year in advance.

I didn’t mean to give the impression this was a super fancy event. It’s just a normal bridal shower with brunch. The bride is not over the top, just grew up here and has lots and lots of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one has a house or large apartment to lend? Are there private rooms with bars that offer a deal on alcohol? I suppose no one wants a shower in a regional park where you could just rent a pavilion, decorate it and bring your own stuff? Are there museums or other spaces that you could rent and bring your own food and drink?

Op here. I have a large home. I can’t fit that many women or tables in my home.

I can’t recall the site but there’s a site that’s almost like Airbnb fir event spaces. A lot of places on it are party rooms in nice buildings. You could rent one for like 300, get trays and bring your own alcohol. Why do you need a full seated at tables event?

Are you dreaming that this is $300? My lame clubhouse is $550 and there’s a cleaning fee. Everyone books it because it’s so cheap. The prices mentions are normal. I think some people just don’t host and don’t appreciate what hosts do.

[Anonymous]

I think the other bridesmaids need to step up. It’s ridiculous that you are hosting this by yourself. Definitely do it in your home and buy your own wine. Have a specialty cocktail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one has a house or large apartment to lend? Are there private rooms with bars that offer a deal on alcohol? I suppose no one wants a shower in a regional park where you could just rent a pavilion, decorate it and bring your own stuff? Are there museums or other spaces that you could rent and bring your own food and drink?

Op here. I have a large home. I can’t fit that many women or tables in my home.

I can’t recall the site but there’s a site that’s almost like Airbnb fir event spaces. A lot of places on it are party rooms in nice buildings. You could rent one for like 300, get trays and bring your own alcohol. Why do you need a full seated at tables event?

Are you dreaming that this is $300? My lame clubhouse is $550 and there’s a cleaning fee. Everyone books it because it’s so cheap. The prices mentions are normal. I think some people just don’t host and don’t appreciate what hosts do.

I swear some were this cheap, I don’t recall the name of the website but maybe someone else does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hosting the shower by yourself? Are there other bridesmaids? What about the bride and groom’s mothers? If possible, I would scale WAY back. Less people and have it at your home. Even if you end of catering the food, it would be much less money. Hoping the invites have not gone out.

Op here. I had wanted other friends to help but it didn’t happen. I can’t imagine asking the moms to host (and they didn’t offer). They are paying for the wedding. Alcohol just seems the thing that really kills my budget.

I called a lot of clubhouses but they were booked. I have a clubhouse but it is booked solid a year in advance.

I didn’t mean to give the impression this was a super fancy event. It’s just a normal bridal shower with brunch. The bride is not over the top, just grew up here and has lots and lots of friends.

The bridal showers I’ve attended did not serve brunch and they certainly didn’t serve alcohol. I think a normal bridal shower typically serves coffee, tea, sherbet punch, cake, and MAYBE a few nibbles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hosting the shower by yourself? Are there other bridesmaids? What about the bride and groom’s mothers? If possible, I would scale WAY back. Less people and have it at your home. Even if you end of catering the food, it would be much less money. Hoping the invites have not gone out.

Op here. I had wanted other friends to help but it didn’t happen. I can’t imagine asking the moms to host (and they didn’t offer). They are paying for the wedding. Alcohol just seems the thing that really kills my budget.

I called a lot of clubhouses but they were booked. I have a clubhouse but it is booked solid a year in advance.

I didn’t mean to give the impression this was a super fancy event. It’s just a normal bridal shower with brunch. The bride is not over the top, just grew up here and has lots and lots of friends.

See, your version of normal is skewed towards to the fancy.

[Anonymous]

Every single bridal shower I’ve been to has absolutely served a full meal, often 3 course. Some in homes, some in restaurants or event spaces. I do think it’s unusual to have one friend host and pay for the whole thing, especially with that many guests. I absolutely think you could switch it to something different since it’s going to be a fortune to host that many with drinks in a local restaurant. Try some of the county event spaces (Silver Spring Civic Center is super nice).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hosting the shower by yourself? Are there other bridesmaids? What about the bride and groom’s mothers? If possible, I would scale WAY back. Less people and have it at your home. Even if you end of catering the food, it would be much less money. Hoping the invites have not gone out.

Op here. I had wanted other friends to help but it didn’t happen. I can’t imagine asking the moms to host (and they didn’t offer). They are paying for the wedding. Alcohol just seems the thing that really kills my budget.

I called a lot of clubhouses but they were booked. I have a clubhouse but it is booked solid a year in advance.

I didn’t mean to give the impression this was a super fancy event. It’s just a normal bridal shower with brunch. The bride is not over the top, just grew up here and has lots and lots of friends.

The bridal showers I’ve attended did not serve brunch and they certainly didn’t serve alcohol. I think a normal bridal shower typically serves coffee, tea, sherbet punch, cake, and MAYBE a few nibbles.

Never seen this kind of shower. Sherbet punch hasn't been a thing in decades. OP needs to just host her side of the family for this shindig. No way is that going to be 50 people. Forget the side she doesn't belong to the bride or groom side can host their own and the brides friends can host a separate shower. There doesnt need to be one big one.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you need to pay for the alcohol. But you can limit what it is - if brunch, I'd do mimosas/bloody marys/white wine. Or you could choose a couple of bottles of wine that are in your price range. (Don't limit how many drinks/bottles, but draw a line around what is on the menu.)

If it were me, I'd do this at home (I also have a big house, and would not feel a need to make sure everyone was seated).

[Anonymous]

Honestly this sounds very expensive and also very boring. No one wants to be stuck at a table for a long seated meal next to people they may not even know well.

[Anonymous]

Peerspace is the event space Airbnb type site….

https://www.peerspace.com/

[Anonymous]

You sound cheap OP. I always have drinks available when we host.