are professors not required to check in on students?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At LACs, professors do this sometimes.

Professors will reach out to parents of adult children to say, "Your kid skipped class"? Wow, that's some handholding there.

Your peers/managers at work will get concerned if you don't show up to work without any explanation because you are paid to show up to work or you get fired.

If an adult doesn't show up to a class that they paid for, they don't get kicked out of school for it.

If you are concerned about your adult child at college you can call the college and ask them to do a welfare check.

If you are concern is that your adult child is just skipping class because they don't feel like going, that's your kid's issue, not the school's.

Pretty sure PP meant the professor would reach out to the student, not the parents.

[Anonymous]

I had a class where something in the room gave me a debilitating migraine. Four times in a row. Only that room. So I stopped going. Just went in for the midterm and final. Professor never said a word, and I got an A.

In another lecture class it was very noisy and I couldn't hear the professor but was coming from another class far away and couldn't get there early enough to sit closer. So I stopped going and listened to his classes bc he recorded his lectures. Showed up for tests only and got an A. Professor probably never noticed I wasn't there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:never heard of anyone checking on a student who wasn't in class...

If someone quits showing up to work, they will still call and ask

But it is very common for kids to skip class. DS has a class of 100, but said that only 25 actually show up.

If a student stops going to class for multiple classes someone should check on them.

Nobody is talking about 1 or 2 classes.

np.. a lot of college classes don't take attendance, especially the large ones. How would anyone know your kid skipped multiple classes?

DS has skipped most of his one math class (math major) and just studies stuff online (straight As). He tells me all of this.

If you are concerned that your adult child is not going to class, then maybe you need to have a conversation with the adult child.

If you are concerned about their safety, maybe you should have a system where he checks in with you every few days. If they are living in a situation where there is an RA, maybe call the RA to do a welfare check.

Or get life360 on their phone.

I’ve never been concerned but mental health issues usually arise during college not before.

I think colleges phone it in and I don’t know why people tolerate it.

students are being hazed and raped, so no I didn’t really “expect to be concerned “.

That's still not the professors purview. They are there to teach; that's it. This is not K-12 where teachers are notifying parents of kid's behavior and if they are not in school (our public k12 sends out a robocall if a kid misses class).

If you have concerns about their physical welfare, call the school.

Otherwise, these are adults, and they are expected to act like it.

At what point did the citizens and institutions in our country decide to opt out of being decent, compassionate humans, who care about those in their community?

Because your response is absolutely digustingly callous.

Being decent and compassionate doesn't mean requiring professors to check up on your adult child just because they missed class. Professors have hundreds of students.

If you have concerns, reach out to the professor. I'm sure they will be decent and compassionate and help you. But to ask these professors to check in all students who miss class is not feasible. What if 100 kids miss class a few days? You want that professor to reach out to all 100 parents?

They are paid to teach, not babysit your adult children.

Your attitude is that of a precious snowflake. Perhaps you should have your adult child stay home and go to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a class where something in the room gave me a debilitating migraine. Four times in a row. Only that room. So I stopped going. Just went in for the midterm and final. Professor never said a word, and I got an A.

In another lecture class it was very noisy and I couldn't hear the professor but was coming from another class far away and couldn't get there early enough to sit closer. So I stopped going and listened to his classes bc he recorded his lectures. Showed up for tests only and got an A. Professor probably never noticed I wasn't there.

And why would they? Your class was probably huge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At LACs, professors do this sometimes.

Professors will reach out to parents of adult children to say, "Your kid skipped class"? Wow, that's some handholding there.

Your peers/managers at work will get concerned if you don't show up to work without any explanation because you are paid to show up to work or you get fired.

If an adult doesn't show up to a class that they paid for, they don't get kicked out of school for it.

If you are concerned about your adult child at college you can call the college and ask them to do a welfare check.

If you are concern is that your adult child is just skipping class because they don't feel like going, that's your kid's issue, not the school's.

It's beyond hand holding, it's prohibited by FERPA. If the student is 18, they aren't going to reach out to a parent about anything.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't think *you* are ready for your adult child to be away from home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At LACs, professors do this sometimes.

Professors will reach out to parents of adult children to say, "Your kid skipped class"? Wow, that's some handholding there.

Your peers/managers at work will get concerned if you don't show up to work without any explanation because you are paid to show up to work or you get fired.

If an adult doesn't show up to a class that they paid for, they don't get kicked out of school for it.

If you are concerned about your adult child at college you can call the college and ask them to do a welfare check.

If you are concern is that your adult child is just skipping class because they don't feel like going, that's your kid's issue, not the school's.

No, the professor reached/reaches out to the student.

At a LAC it's not unusual, given the sense of community.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At LACs, professors do this sometimes.

Professors will reach out to parents of adult children to say, "Your kid skipped class"? Wow, that's some handholding there.

Your peers/managers at work will get concerned if you don't show up to work without any explanation because you are paid to show up to work or you get fired.

If an adult doesn't show up to a class that they paid for, they don't get kicked out of school for it.

If you are concerned about your adult child at college you can call the college and ask them to do a welfare check.

If you are concern is that your adult child is just skipping class because they don't feel like going, that's your kid's issue, not the school's.

No, the professor reached/reaches out to the student.

At a LAC it's not unusual, given the sense of community.

That's still some handholding for adults. Is OP's adult child at a LAC?

I guess this is like a sink or swim at big vs small colleges, and also the difference between public HS and private HS where your child is handheld at every step of the way.

[Anonymous]

No. I have lost a student because another professor knew of the student's precarious situation, knew to check in on the student, went promptly into action, but was too late, the student had passed.

I can not give any details, of course (there was no liability, in loco parentis did not apply, understandably). Worse has happened than skipping class, OP. Be grateful. And have a conversation with your DC.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That’s hilarious.

Of course professors don’t check in on students.

It’s not hilarious. It’s sad and pathetic that universities are not held to some standard to check the welfare of students.

They are adults. It's not a boarding school. It's college.

Even at my son’s boarding school you can miss a class 5 times before they follow up with you and even then it’s just an email.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At LACs, professors do this sometimes.

Professors will reach out to parents of adult children to say, "Your kid skipped class"? Wow, that's some handholding there.

Your peers/managers at work will get concerned if you don't show up to work without any explanation because you are paid to show up to work or you get fired.

If an adult doesn't show up to a class that they paid for, they don't get kicked out of school for it.

If you are concerned about your adult child at college you can call the college and ask them to do a welfare check.

If you are concern is that your adult child is just skipping class because they don't feel like going, that's your kid's issue, not the school's.

It's beyond hand holding, it's prohibited by FERPA. If the student is 18, they aren't going to reach out to a parent about anything.

Professor here: we are not allowed to contact parents because of FERPA. I teach at a public R1 and we do have a system (Student Success) to report students in danger of failing, not attending class or seem to be having a mental health crisis but only 40-50% of faculty use the system.

I don’t take attendance, however, if I notice a student is not submitting assignments or missed an exam, I will flag them in the system and email them. I personally would feel bad if a student was in crisis and I didn’t notice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At LACs, professors do this sometimes.

Professors will reach out to parents of adult children to say, "Your kid skipped class"? Wow, that's some handholding there.

Your peers/managers at work will get concerned if you don't show up to work without any explanation because you are paid to show up to work or you get fired.

If an adult doesn't show up to a class that they paid for, they don't get kicked out of school for it.

If you are concerned about your adult child at college you can call the college and ask them to do a welfare check.

If you are concern is that your adult child is just skipping class because they don't feel like going, that's your kid's issue, not the school's.

No, the professor reached/reaches out to the student.

At a LAC it's not unusual, given the sense of community.

That's still some handholding for adults. Is OP's adult child at a LAC?

I guess this is like a sink or swim at big vs small colleges, and also the difference between public HS and private HS where your child is handheld at every step of the way.

I disagree, but whatever. :: shrug ::

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Anonymous wrote:never heard of anyone checking on a student who wasn't in class...

If someone quits showing up to work, they will still call and ask

But it is very common for kids to skip class. DS has a class of 100, but said that only 25 actually show up.

If a student stops going to class for multiple classes someone should check on them.

Nobody is talking about 1 or 2 classes.

np.. a lot of college classes don't take attendance, especially the large ones. How would anyone know your kid skipped multiple classes?

DS has skipped most of his one math class (math major) and just studies stuff online (straight As). He tells me all of this.

If you are concerned that your adult child is not going to class, then maybe you need to have a conversation with the adult child.

If you are concerned about their safety, maybe you should have a system where he checks in with you every few days. If they are living in a situation where there is an RA, maybe call the RA to do a welfare check.

Or get life360 on their phone.

I’ve never been concerned but mental health issues usually arise during college not before.

I think colleges phone it in and I don’t know why people tolerate it.

students are being hazed and raped, so no I didn’t really “expect to be concerned “.

That's still not the professors purview. They are there to teach; that's it. This is not K-12 where teachers are notifying parents of kid's behavior and if they are not in school (our public k12 sends out a robocall if a kid misses class).

If you have concerns about their physical welfare, call the school.

Otherwise, these are adults, and they are expected to act like it.

At what point did the citizens and institutions in our country decide to opt out of being decent, compassionate humans, who care about those in their community?

Because your response is absolutely digustingly callous.

Being decent and compassionate doesn't mean requiring professors to check up on your adult child just because they missed class. Professors have hundreds of students.

If you have concerns, reach out to the professor. I'm sure they will be decent and compassionate and help you. But to ask these professors to check in all students who miss class is not feasible. What if 100 kids miss class a few days? You want that professor to reach out to all 100 parents?

They are paid to teach, not babysit your adult children.

Your attitude is that of a precious snowflake. Perhaps you should have your adult child stay home and go to college.

Why would a parent have a concern unless they track their kids.

I don't think it should be on the professor per se but if a student is missing for days, yes, I think somebody should be alerted.

I think all kids should be required to have an emergency contact and it doesn't have to be a parent.

[Anonymous]

At a small college, yes, especially if it's unusual for a student to skip class. Professor would probably alert an RA or RAs supervisor.

At a medium to large size university? No, you are on your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:are professors not required to check in on students if they skip class?

My DS stopped attending a class and not one email or phone call from the professor.

why woud they? some wouldn't even notice as most of my kids classes don't even take attendance.