Dating at all women's colleges/unis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley has the "f*ck bus". Sorry, that's what we used to call it. LOL The bus runs to all the other colleges until like 3 am so we could find men from Harvard and MIT. It was quite successful for many!

Not in operation anymore.

My kid is there and it’s definitely still in operation. Not sure where this poster is getting their info, but it’s wrong.

[Anonymous]

MHC (one of the five colleges, like Smith) has plenty of opportunities to go off campus and meet guys (both through academics and parties).

However, we did read online about pressure/uncomfortable experiences for straight girls. For example, when we were on campus, there was an editorial in the paper about how one straight girl's boyfriend experienced hostility on campus (when he would visit) because he was perceived as the oppressor/enemy.

On the tour, they say the school has a history of offering education to marginalized genders I think, something like that. It is broader than just women (which is how they used to see themselves).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:D at Bryn Mawr and loves it (location, academics, traditions, professors and STEM is promoted ) identifies as straight. Hall mates have boy friends from Haverford and Swarthmore. Roommate and friend last year gay and D has never felt pressure to experiment with anyone. D has guy friends from Haverford and in classes. D is not a huge partier but prefers to spend weekends with friends going to Philly to museums, concerts and shopping. Students at any college are experimenting and might feel
pressure to do it but might be more obvious at HWC.

I don't know if this is still the case, but when I was at BMC we had shared everything with Haverford including shared housing, dining, and cross-registration. We had a co-ed dorm with men (Haverford women could live in any of our dorms, and we could live in any of theirs), dining cards worked in all spaces on both campuses, and all classes were open to people on both campuses. So there were men around all the time and you could be at Haverford all day and night if you wanted. It wasn't just about "dating," there were plenty of opportunities to interact with all kinds of people in normal college ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:D at Bryn Mawr and loves it (location, academics, traditions, professors and STEM is promoted ) identifies as straight. Hall mates have boy friends from Haverford and Swarthmore. Roommate and friend last year gay and D has never felt pressure to experiment with anyone. D has guy friends from Haverford and in classes. D is not a huge partier but prefers to spend weekends with friends going to Philly to museums, concerts and shopping. Students at any college are experimenting and might feel
pressure to do it but might be more obvious at HWC.

I don't know if this is still the case, but when I was at BMC we had shared everything with Haverford including shared housing, dining, and cross-registration. We had a co-ed dorm with men (Haverford women could live in any of our dorms, and we could live in any of theirs), dining cards worked in all spaces on both campuses, and all classes were open to people on both campuses. So there were men around all the time and you could be at Haverford all day and night if you wanted. It wasn't just about "dating," there were plenty of opportunities to interact with all kinds of people in normal college ways.

How long ago was this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. My DC is considering one or more for various reason (she is straight).
If you went to one or have a DD at one, were they able to meet boys/date? Or have non-dating relationships with men?

I realize this is far from the most important thing about college -and the womens only college offers a unique experience- but I would also not like her to be cloistered for 4 years w/ no options to date. FWIW, the one she likes best is BMC (partially b/c of location and ability to take classes at the other consortium schools in and around Philly).

Any real, and recent, experiences (and not opinions about whether you'd like that sort of experience?

Is this something you are worried about or is she? Why is the no happy medium.either you are "cloistered" or dating every weekend. I honestly think if you daughter is smart enough to get into these competitive college she can figure out her dating without mom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The landscape at women’s college NOW are heavily gay/bi. As in majority. There is a lot of pressure, even if straight, to experiment with girls. My friend’s daughter transferred after a year due to this.

Pls stick to the question. I'm not interested in these sorts of opinions.

Dp, but I think this is relevant. I have a friend who transferred from Smith because there was no real dating social life for straight women.

That was not the point of the PP, which was to state there was "pressure" for same sex experimentation. It was inflammatory, offensive, and unless there is something objective to proffer beyond one person's experience, not objective or supported.

Right, because nobody ever pressures anybody to experiment sexually while in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. My DC is considering one or more for various reason (she is straight).
If you went to one or have a DD at one, were they able to meet boys/date? Or have non-dating relationships with men?

I realize this is far from the most important thing about college -and the womens only college offers a unique experience- but I would also not like her to be cloistered for 4 years w/ no options to date. FWIW, the one she likes best is BMC (partially b/c of location and ability to take classes at the other consortium schools in and around Philly).

Any real, and recent, experiences (and not opinions about whether you'd like that sort of experience?

Is this something you are worried about or is she? Why is the no happy medium.either you are "cloistered" or dating every weekend. I honestly think if you daughter is smart enough to get into these competitive college she can figure out her dating without mom.

Honestly, it's just a question . . . what's it to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:D at Bryn Mawr and loves it (location, academics, traditions, professors and STEM is promoted ) identifies as straight. Hall mates have boy friends from Haverford and Swarthmore. Roommate and friend last year gay and D has never felt pressure to experiment with anyone. D has guy friends from Haverford and in classes. D is not a huge partier but prefers to spend weekends with friends going to Philly to museums, concerts and shopping. Students at any college are experimenting and might feel
pressure to do it but might be more obvious at HWC.

I don't know if this is still the case, but when I was at BMC we had shared everything with Haverford including shared housing, dining, and cross-registration. We had a co-ed dorm with men (Haverford women could live in any of our dorms, and we could live in any of theirs), dining cards worked in all spaces on both campuses, and all classes were open to people on both campuses. So there were men around all the time and you could be at Haverford all day and night if you wanted. It wasn't just about "dating," there were plenty of opportunities to interact with all kinds of people in normal college ways.

How long ago was this?

Ugh, a million years ago. They still have cross-registration and everything, the bus runs every half hour between campuses....I just don't think they have co-ed dorms anymore at Bryn Mawr, mainly due to lack of interest. Apparently there was a lot of "bi-co cooperation" in the 60's and 70's when Haverford was still all-men, but once it went co-ed in the early 80's most people chose to reside on their own campuses. The two big exceptions when I was a student were--Haverford had the only apartment-style housing, so some Bryn Mawr students chose to live there, and Bryn Mawr had most of the foreign language immersion dorms/houses so some Haverford men lived in those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley has the "f*ck bus". Sorry, that's what we used to call it. LOL The bus runs to all the other colleges until like 3 am so we could find men from Harvard and MIT. It was quite successful for many!

Not in operation anymore.

Senate Bus (ie: F*ck truck) still exists
https://www.wellesley.edu/housingtransp/transportation/shuttlebuses

Go get those Harvard boys, girls!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends and I had no problem dating men when we attended a women's college, and actually only knew one woman who was gay, but this was in the 80s. Also, dating was not really our priority. We started dating seriously after grad school and married in our 30s. Seems like kids today are still on this path.

You probably knew dozens of gay women. But they were all still firmly in the closet in the 80s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley has the "f*ck bus". Sorry, that's what we used to call it. LOL The bus runs to all the other colleges until like 3 am so we could find men from Harvard and MIT. It was quite successful for many!

Not in operation anymore.

Senate Bus (ie: F*ck truck) still exists
https://www.wellesley.edu/housingtransp/transportation/shuttlebuses

Go get those Harvard boys, girls!!

You know a lot of guys happily rode that bus to Wellesley too to hang out with girlfriends or groups of friends. I used to wonder who it was that kept bringing up the FT name on dcum, but in a recent thread it came out it was some really disgruntled MIT woman.