Dating at all women's colleges/unis

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Anonymous wrote:Do girls at schools with imbalanced gender ratios have issues finding dates/boyfriends/etc?
It sounds stupid but my kid is at an all-girls high school and is hoping to date in college.
Many colleges these days are almost 65/35 female (outside of the service academies and a few highly STEM schools which lean male).

I was wondering if this leads to a weird dynamic for those who are hoping to find guys to date?

Yeah, there’s a lot of hooking up, not much actual dating. The ratios don’t help.

And the guys are up front about looking for FWB only, not relationship

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Wellesley has the "f*ck bus". Sorry, that's what we used to call it. LOL The bus runs to all the other colleges until like 3 am so we could find men from Harvard and MIT. It was quite successful for many!

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Barnard feels almost coed if you want it to because of the proximity and relationship with Columbia.

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My friend attended Bryn Mawr and a had a great time as far as I could tell. She definitely had opportunities to date/experiment with boys at Haverford and Swarthmore and is now dating a man, although I’m not sure she identifies as straight (I think bi but I’ve never actually asked her). My friend who went to Wellesley is bi but almost always date women. My friend who went to smith is as far as I know straight and married to a man albeit one I think she met after college.

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My DD is at Bryn Mawr. She is gay but has straight friends who have dated Haverford guys or who have boyfriends from home. There is a large contingent of international students. They tend to be straight. Bryn Mawr is awesome (my DD absolutely loves it there) but it wouldn't be my first pick for a daughter looking to have a super active straight dating life. There just aren't that many fish in the sea.

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Daughter graduated from Scripps - she dated a few guys in the other coed colleges in the consortium- Pitzer, Claremont McKenna, Harvey Mudd, and Pomona.

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. My DC is considering one or more for various reason (she is straight).
If you went to one or have a DD at one, were they able to meet boys/date? Or have non-dating relationships with men?

So she's going to be a s l u t...

Also . . . just friends? WTF is wrong with you?

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is at Bryn Mawr. She is gay but has straight friends who have dated Haverford guys or who have boyfriends from home. There is a large contingent of international students. They tend to be straight. Bryn Mawr is awesome (my DD absolutely loves it there) but it wouldn't be my first pick for a daughter looking to have a super active straight dating life. There just aren't that many fish in the sea.

Side bar: how are the academics? Overwhelmingly rigorous to the point of grade deflation? Reading mixed things on this.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is at Bryn Mawr. She is gay but has straight friends who have dated Haverford guys or who have boyfriends from home. There is a large contingent of international students. They tend to be straight. Bryn Mawr is awesome (my DD absolutely loves it there) but it wouldn't be my first pick for a daughter looking to have a super active straight dating life. There just aren't that many fish in the sea.

Side bar: how are the academics? Overwhelmingly rigorous to the point of grade deflation? Reading mixed things on this.

I would say that the courses are rigorous and the vibe is quite serious (which is no surprise with an all women's college). I haven't heard any grumbling about grade deflation but she is an N of 1.

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Anonymous wrote:The landscape at women’s college NOW are heavily gay/bi. As in majority. There is a lot of pressure, even if straight, to experiment with girls. My friend’s daughter transferred after a year due to this.

That's what people told me before I went to a women's college in the 90's. It wasn't true then, probably not really true now.

I know people who:

--identified as straight before they got there, while there, and after
--identified as straight before they got there, as gay while they were there, then married men
--identified as straight before they got there, as straight while they were there, then married women
--identified as gay or bi before they got there, as gay or bi while they were there, and after
--identified as gay or bi before they got there, as gay or bi while they were there, then married men
--identified as gay or bi before they got there, as gay or bi while they were there, then transitioned to male after graduation
and:
--two women who identified as straight before they got there, while there--publicly dated men, had a secret lesbian relationship the whole time, then both married men anyhow

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I'm interested in this question for my own DD. I have no personal experience, but it seems like the top women's colleges rank as follows in terms of opportunities to comingle with men:

(1) Scripps and Barnard: As part of the most fluid consortium, Scripps seems like it's as coed or single-gendered as its students want it to be outside of the dorms. Ditto for Barnard, given its relationship to Colombia and location in NYC.

(2) Bryn Mawr: Everyone talks about the close relationship between Bryn Mawr and Haverford, which also seem physically close to one another. And I guess there are more opportunities at Swat and in Philly.

(3) Wellesley: Good opportunities to met guys through cross-registration at MIT, etc. And close enough to Boston. But I get the sense that students must proactively leave campus, which sees few men. (Maybe should be the same tier as BMC?)

(4) Smith: Smith is part of the consortium with UMass and Amherst, but it requires lengthy bus rides. And while Northampton is certainly a cool town, it doesn't exactly seem like a hotbed of heterosexual dating activity.

Again, these are just my impressions, most of which are taken from internet research. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. I'd be thrilled if my DD went to one of the schools above. But DD wants somewhat regular comingling and dating opportunities, so I think she'd be more inclined toward a school like Scripps than Smith.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm interested in this question for my own DD. I have no personal experience, but it seems like the top women's colleges rank as follows in terms of opportunities to comingle with men:

(1) Scripps and Barnard: As part of the most fluid consortium, Scripps seems like it's as coed or single-gendered as its students want it to be outside of the dorms. Ditto for Barnard, given its relationship to Colombia and location in NYC.

(2) Bryn Mawr: Everyone talks about the close relationship between Bryn Mawr and Haverford, which also seem physically close to one another. And I guess there are more opportunities at Swat and in Philly.

(3) Wellesley: Good opportunities to met guys through cross-registration at MIT, etc. And close enough to Boston. But I get the sense that students must proactively leave campus, which sees few men. (Maybe should be the same tier as BMC?)

(4) Smith: Smith is part of the consortium with UMass and Amherst, but it requires lengthy bus rides. And while Northampton is certainly a cool town, it doesn't exactly seem like a hotbed of heterosexual dating activity.

Again, these are just my impressions, most of which are taken from internet research. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. I'd be thrilled if my DD went to one of the schools above. But DD wants somewhat regular comingling and dating opportunities, so I think she'd be more inclined toward a school like Scripps than Smith.

OP:
DD is not a partier and hasn't really dated. Has some ECs (and of course grades) that will keep her busy. But wants SOME opportunity to date.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The landscape at women’s college NOW are heavily gay/bi. As in majority. There is a lot of pressure, even if straight, to experiment with girls. My friend’s daughter transferred after a year due to this.

Pls stick to the question. I'm not interested in these sorts of opinions.

Dp, but I think this is relevant. I have a friend who transferred from Smith because there was no real dating social life for straight women.

That was not the point of the PP, which was to state there was "pressure" for same sex experimentation. It was inflammatory, offensive, and unless there is something objective to proffer beyond one person's experience, not objective or supported.

Sorry to pile on, OP, but this has become the case at both all women’s colleges and at boarding schools such as Miss Porter’s. It’s a shame because several schools such as Smith and MHC have so much to offer.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The landscape at women’s college NOW are heavily gay/bi. As in majority. There is a lot of pressure, even if straight, to experiment with girls. My friend’s daughter transferred after a year due to this.

Pls stick to the question. I'm not interested in these sorts of opinions.

Dp, but I think this is relevant. I have a friend who transferred from Smith because there was no real dating social life for straight women.

That was not the point of the PP, which was to state there was "pressure" for same sex experimentation. It was inflammatory, offensive, and unless there is something objective to proffer beyond one person's experience, not objective or supported.

Sorry to pile on, OP, but this has become the case at both all women’s colleges and at boarding schools such as Miss Porter’s. It’s a shame because several schools such as Smith and MHC have so much to offer.

You've gone to or spent time at "all women's colleges"? Wow. Impressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm interested in this question for my own DD. I have no personal experience, but it seems like the top women's colleges rank as follows in terms of opportunities to comingle with men:

(1) Scripps and Barnard: As part of the most fluid consortium, Scripps seems like it's as coed or single-gendered as its students want it to be outside of the dorms. Ditto for Barnard, given its relationship to Colombia and location in NYC.

(2) Bryn Mawr: Everyone talks about the close relationship between Bryn Mawr and Haverford, which also seem physically close to one another. And I guess there are more opportunities at Swat and in Philly.

(3) Wellesley: Good opportunities to met guys through cross-registration at MIT, etc. And close enough to Boston. But I get the sense that students must proactively leave campus, which sees few men. (Maybe should be the same tier as BMC?)

(4) Smith: Smith is part of the consortium with UMass and Amherst, but it requires lengthy bus rides. And while Northampton is certainly a cool town, it doesn't exactly seem like a hotbed of heterosexual dating activity.

Again, these are just my impressions, most of which are taken from internet research. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. I'd be thrilled if my DD went to one of the schools above. But DD wants somewhat regular comingling and dating opportunities, so I think she'd be more inclined toward a school like Scripps than Smith.

Sorry, I obviously meant "Columbia." But maybe Barnard has a great study abroad program in Bogota.