I never thought I'd feel so old in mid 40s - anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait until you hit 50s!

Try 60’s!

I suggest you travel now. When you get older, everything is hard and somewhat daunting/scary.

Don’t put the fun off until you retire because you won’t enjoy then what you enjoy now. (And you may have money but no one to travel with). Do it now!

[Anonymous]

I felt great at 45. It started getting tough at 50 - perimenopause and Hashimotos kicked in. I’m now on HRT and on medication for the Hashimotos so feeling better and not so exhausted.

Emotionally, I am feeling a bit more sad about things as life transitions. DD is off at college and my mom is getting near 80. DS is still at home so I am cherishing that time with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean I realized that mid 40s wasn't young, but i never realized that it would be a time of figuring out what retirement and end of life looks like, and that it is actually not uncommon for people to get sick and die at this age (and also that everything starts hurting).

I think what gets me the most is you go from young 'I'm going to live forever' of your 20s to 30s (too busy having babies and keeping them alive) to suddenly being expected to synthesize that life for you, your peers and parents could theoretically end any day; absorb the info, live accordingly BUT continue to parent and work as if none of that was the case.

Does this make sense? Anyone else feel this?

How old are your kids?

Op - they are 8 and 10

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would get your thyroid checked and or try a sleep study.

Op - I don’t have a thyroid any more.
Maybe that’s why I feel like such sh*t

[Anonymous]

Yes, I became an old lady in my 40s. Welcome to the club!

Just wait until you hit 50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I became an old lady in my 40s. Welcome to the club!

Just wait until you hit 50.

what happens then?

[Anonymous]

It hit me at 46.5.

But I also think that the stress of having two kids in high school, two careers, and two aging parents definitely exacerbated whatever was happening to me physically.

If I was an orphaned DINK, I think I would feel like I was 30. I just don't have the time to take care of myself.

[Anonymous]

It hit me at 45.5, and it hit hard.

[Anonymous]

I feel like its whack-a-mole with my body/health these days. First I got this random neck pinched nerve thing that took forever to go away and when it was finally better I now have this weird toe pain - I hope its not gout! Its always something. Plus the annual checks are soul sucking - GP, Gyn, Mammo, Skin check, etc. Pretty soon I need a colonoscopy. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard 50 from most of my relatives. My mom said 40 through late 40s was just a continuation of her 30s but with older kids and not having any more kids. Then the wheels started to really fall off at 50, plus or minus a few years.

Whaaaat! No! Omg what is going on, is this a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll be 55 in a few months and I feel GREAT! I have tons of fun and lots of good friends. I've always been physically fit. I can't run anymore (hip), but I cycle a ton and lift weights. I feel like you should work out when you are young because it pays off when you get older. I can't imagine having to get in shape at this age. My life is richer today than when I was in my 30s.

Yes agree. Altho i didnt get fit until my 50s. It went well, no problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would get your thyroid checked and or try a sleep study.

Op - I don’t have a thyroid any more.
Maybe that’s why I feel like such sh*t

Make sure you try the armour version not just synthroid

[Anonymous]

I absolutely felt this at 45 which also coincided with the pandemic. But I have doubled time on physical and spending time in ways that make me happy. I feel much much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like its whack-a-mole with my body/health these days. First I got this random neck pinched nerve thing that took forever to go away and when it was finally better I now have this weird toe pain - I hope its not gout! Its always something. Plus the annual checks are soul sucking - GP, Gyn, Mammo, Skin check, etc. Pretty soon I need a colonoscopy. Ugh.

Some of this is perspective. I don’t find these visits “soul sucking” at all. I had all the same visits plus cardiologist. It was a logistical pain and occasional time suck. But it felt great to get everything checked off and done, confirm I like those doctors, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard 50 from most of my relatives. My mom said 40 through late 40s was just a continuation of her 30s but with older kids and not having any more kids. Then the wheels started to really fall off at 50, plus or minus a few years.

Whaaaat! No! Omg what is going on, is this a troll?

NP but I felt young and healthy until right after I turned 50. In short order developed an eye issue, heartburn (thought it was a heart attack), slight weight gain, back pain…it’s been a doozy. And it’s the age when despite getting checked out, any of those things could be serious. Which never would have occurred to me in my 40s.