Same, this is a gift. You nor your DH went looking for this. It came up, he offered to meet with your kid and he liked your kid so much after the meeting he offered to write a letter. If he didn’t like your kid, he wouldn’t have made the offer. Do it. |
DP. Agree. It's a nice gesture, unsolicited and not too late. Do it. |
A board member writing a student a letter of recommendation is not shady you weirdo. That’s what LOR are for. To recommend. At worst, to help your application get read by a higher ranking admissions faculty member. At best you get in because your app got that attention. 800 SAT, D averages aren’t getting admitted because a board member recommended them *and* the board member isn’t writing a letter for that kid anyway. They know their words carry weight and they aren’t going to throw that weight behind a student who can’t hack it. |
| This happens all the time. I worked at Georgetown 25 years ago and we got layers of rec for admissions from dignitaries all the time. Like Desmond Tutu or senators. |
| I’m surprised a board member would do this but it would 100% make a difference, of course. I would assume a few members join college boards so there kids can later get in but surprised they’d do that for others kids. |
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Yes, this happens.
My sibling was waitlisted at med school and a nudge from a board member got him in. |
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oh no I can’t believe it’s not a meritocracy
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I turned this offer down at my kid's first choice school.
It seemed very orchestrated because the VIP had never met my child. He offered to have coffee with her, which would be followed by a letter. The whole thing felt slimy, so I thank him but never followed up. (She wound up getting into the school on her own merits. That is how we roll.) |
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Lots of people do this for at least 1 school if they can (sometimes it’s just an influential donor or professor, if you don’t know board member). Usually just counts like another recommendation letter, ideally it’s a letter specific to kid and how that person knows kid, fit to school etc.
If you’re able to get a board letter, I’d highly highly highly recommend you do it. It absolutely makes a difference. |
The bigger question is, did the Georgetown AOs care? What makes an applicant a better addition to campus simply by a parent having a social connection to a dignitary? |
Same here. One parent, for decades, worked with a person who later happened to be the chairman of the board of a T10 while kid was in high school. We didn't mention that kid was applying. Turned out that he retired from the board before kid applied, but regardless, it would have felt really weird and slimy talking to him about an admission matter. So glad we didn't. Kid was admitted ED. |
It depends on if the parent has a high profile job or not? Probably hoping that the kid will be easily employable through connections, and if the parent has a high enough profile job will also be able to employ other recent graduates or help speak at prominent university events and things of that nature. Obviously along with donations. It’s the whole pay it forward thing. |
*same meaning, that's how we roll. Not same in that we never even brought it up with the VIP. |
Good for you. But also nice the VIP offered a coffee as some letters are completely devoid of any sense of having had contact with the applicant. VIP was trying to be ethical also. "I met with candidate X and was impressed by..." |
| My dad is a lifetime board of trustees member for a Top 25 school. He has written letters over the years and his number 1 requirement before he will do so is that the applicant absolutely, without any doubt, will attend the school if admitted. It makes him look really bad if he recommends someone and they end up not attending. He makes this very clear. He also is very particular about who he will write letters for- he doesn't want to write one more than every other year or less. Too many and they lose their significance. He will write a letter and also call the director of admissions to let them know in advance the letter is coming and to let him know if they need more information, etc. There are separate admissions officers for students with letters like this. |