How old were you when you lost your parents?

[Anonymous]

I was about to turn 41 when I lost my mother; she was 63.

I'm now 46 and my dad is still alive and well at 70.

[Anonymous]

15. He was 56.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35, my dad was 75. My mom is still alive at 78 and I'm 38.

I love that your mom was ahead of the curve 38 years ago and had you at 40!

[Anonymous]

I lost my mom when I was 35 and she was 65. My dad is still alive at 81 and I’m 51.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:42 when my dad died at 84
58 when my mom died at 98

Wow! Your parents were OLD when they had you. Are you the youngest of a large number?

That is not an atypical age for DCUM parents these days!

[Anonymous]

I was 43 when my mom died at 72 of heart failure. I am now 45. My dad is 75 and in good health.

My MIL is alive at 75; my FIL has dementia and a host of other psychological problems and has been more or less estranged from my DH ever since he was a teenager, and he basically says he lost him then.

[Anonymous]

32, lost both of them to cancer in the same year.

[Anonymous]

52 when my father died at 79
54 when my mother died at 78

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:32, lost both of them to cancer in the same year.

I know all loss is/can be incredibly painful, but I can't even imagine how difficult that must have been. I know there have been a few posters whose parents died really close together and am sorry for all of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:35, my dad was 75. My mom is still alive at 78 and I'm 38.

I love that your mom was ahead of the curve 38 years ago and had you at 40!

Eh...it was more unfortunate circumstances than being ahead of the curve! It is funny because we switched places in that regard. I had DS at 27, which definitely felt pretty young but was a normal age when my parents were that age!

[Anonymous]

44 for my mother, who was 74. Five years later, and my father is still alive at 82.

[Anonymous]

36 when my mom died at 72, and 53 when my dad died at 93.

[Anonymous]

DH: 54 when FIL died at 98; 58 when MIL died at 100.

Me: 58, both parents still living (mom is 78, dad is 80).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:42 when my dad died at 84
58 when my mom died at 98

Wow! Your parents were OLD when they had you. Are you the youngest of a large number?

That is not an atypical age for DCUM parents these days!

It's actually never been atypical. Before birth control was widely available, it was very common for women in their 40s to have babies. One of my grandmothers had her first child at 25 and her last at 43, the other had her first at 20 and her last at 38. My DH's grandmother had her first child at 27 and last at 41; his mother had her first at 31 and her last at 42.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:42 when my dad died at 84
58 when my mom died at 98

Wow! Your parents were OLD when they had you. Are you the youngest of a large number?

That is not an atypical age for DCUM parents these days!

It's actually never been atypical. Before birth control was widely available, it was very common for women in their 40s to have babies. One of my grandmothers had her first child at 25 and her last at 43, the other had her first at 20 and her last at 38. My DH's grandmother had her first child at 27 and last at 41; his mother had her first at 31 and her last at 42.

Yep, this was true then. My mom and aunt had their last babies well into their 40's.