Does your spouse make you feel like you have perpetually wronged them?

[Anonymous]

So demanding and b1tchy to ask someone to wipe up their pee dribbles and spray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So demanding and b1tchy to ask someone to wipe up their pee dribbles and spray.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Constant criticisms for seemingly minor transgressions? 10 year grudge holding? Rude comments? Who else lives this way? With a dominant personality partner who is unreasonable.

What's minor differs to different people. If your spouse brings something up to you repeatedly and you ignore because it's "minor" to you, then there you go. You need to own your part of creating this situation.

https://www. huffpost. com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it’s awesome, as a man, and I know it sounds sexist, but let’s be real if we are going by most broad indicators and measures, that I can simply move ahead in life unburdened by the need to hold a long term grudge the way women do. Like it’s incredibly freeing. Why even do it? Why dwell? Is it nature or nurture that causes this phenomena? Either way, I just love being able to kind of charge ahead and face the future less encumbered by useless emotional baggage like that.

Men hold grudges too.
My husband and his brother didn’t talk for nearly two years, and they will both get upset if you bring up the situation.
My dad is still kind of upset that his bother didn’t invite him to his wedding 40 years ago. He doesn’t talk about it a lot or anything, but if you ask him about it, he’s still kind of angry about it.
There are men on here who are angry at all women because their wife cheated on them years ago.
There are men on here who post about still feeling upset about a period of sexlessness in their marriage, even if it ended years ago.
There is a recent post here where a man was resentful about a move they had made to his wife’s hometown years before.

Holding grudges is normal human behavior. People don’t just forget their past. Men aren’t better than women at letting go of resentment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it’s awesome, as a man, and I know it sounds sexist, but let’s be real if we are going by most broad indicators and measures, that I can simply move ahead in life unburdened by the need to hold a long term grudge the way women do. Like it’s incredibly freeing. Why even do it? Why dwell? Is it nature or nurture that causes this phenomena? Either way, I just love being able to kind of charge ahead and face the future less encumbered by useless emotional baggage like that.

I find it ironic that this is posted like four posts down from a guy who is still clearly bitter and resentful about his ex-wife.

And on a message board where at least once a week a man posts complaining about his years long sexless marriage.

I have empathy for these guys, I do. But come on. Men hold grudges.