How much for a wedding cash gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can afford it, I try to cover our cost of the meal (@ $100/pp) + gift ($100-200) to be generous.

Give what you can - just don't be a blatant ass ($10/pp doesn't cover Subway meal).

Eww. It’s a wedding not a ticket to a gala.

[Anonymous]

I mean, as everyone can tell from this thread -- this is cultural.

OP: We plan to give $500 for nieces and nephews, but our family is not super close. HHI of about 250k, but living in the expensive DMV area. I think given your situation -- $500 would be ok, and a bit more might be better. So I guess I agree with the PPs who say $500 to $1000. But like I said above, this is cultural; if this is a backyard wedding and most guests are buying gifts of less than $100 and you can't afford more than that, then maybe it is appropriate for you to give less. If this is a very fancy wedding and you have a HHI of over 1M, then maybe more. Context matters.

FWIW, I remember giving $50 gifts off of a registry back in the day, lol. Nowadays for a regular wedding (not the nieces and nephews, not someone we are super, super close to) I'd probably give $200-$250 in cash. Times are different, and so are my finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can afford it, I try to cover our cost of the meal (@ $100/pp) + gift ($100-200) to be generous.

Give what you can - just don't be a blatant ass ($10/pp doesn't cover Subway meal).

Presbyterian and we do not expect guests to cover cost of their meal! Guests are invited because we want them to share our joy and not rib their bank account![/quote]

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It is blatantly RUDE to expect any guest to cover their meal. Have the wedding you can AFFORD to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the $500-$1,000 people are on track. A decade ago, my closest aunts and uncles gave me and DH around $500 per family for our wedding.

DH and I are late 30s and don’t have a ton of disposable income by DCUM standards. However, we gave DHs sister $700 for her recent wedding. That’s by no means what we give at any old wedding! But OP said it’s someone dear to them.

Yeah I don't see that happening in DH's family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone on this thread is NEW money.

Nope. Not me.

[Anonymous]

I got married recently. From the people who gave cash gifts, we received on average $200-250. Some of my parents’ friends gave more in the $500-1000 range. Honestly we considered it all very generous and were appreciative. We also had several people who gave absolutely no gift and not even a card…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I basically give $250 per family member attending if it is in a luxury hotel. If it is a budget wedding then I give $100-$150. If it is a DIY backyard wedding, I give $50.

This is extremely low class.

[Anonymous]

Give what comfortably fits in your budget. There is no standard, no need to feel pressured. If you are a single person under 35, earning under $100K, give $50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I basically give $250 per family member attending if it is in a luxury hotel. If it is a budget wedding then I give $100-$150. If it is a DIY backyard wedding, I give $50.

This is extremely low class.

Should they take loans to proof their class to you? Who divides humans into classes?

[Anonymous]

My nephew getting married has a higher paying job and a nicer car than I do. How much should I give?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I basically give $250 per family member attending if it is in a luxury hotel. If it is a budget wedding then I give $100-$150. If it is a DIY backyard wedding, I give $50.

This is extremely low class.

Should they take loans to proof their class to you? Who divides humans into classes?

What’s low class is basing your gift on how ‘fancy’ the wedding was. If you can afford to give $200, it shouldn’t matter how expensive the wedding was. It’s like you’re penalizing the couple for not providing an event to your liking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I basically give $250 per family member attending if it is in a luxury hotel. If it is a budget wedding then I give $100-$150. If it is a DIY backyard wedding, I give $50.

This is extremely low class.

Should they take loans to proof their class to you? Who divides humans into classes?

DP. Pretty much everyone ever?

[Anonymous]

What would you spend on a night out on the town for dinner and drinks per person ?

[Anonymous]

I love your sidebar. We received a set of Pyrex 26 years ago from an elderly aunt, and aside from me breaking a cover, it is well-used and going well. It is the best gift ever. A family of three will attend a friend's daughter's wedding and plan on a $500 cash gift.

[Anonymous]

Minimum $500. $750 if your kids are invited