How to manage teen starting to hang around with bad crowd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a parent and guidance counselor I can tell you that switching schools does nothing anymore. These kids have so many ways to keep in touchy hourly/minute by minute that switching schools is a huge hassle that yields nothing. It was the answer 10 years ago but no longer. I would highly incentivize working. Ive had parents who even match the hourly wage to get them working towards a car or a trip etc. You have to figure out what the carrot is and dangle it constantly. Also another avenue is offering something that seems fun and alternative. Ive had parents have luck with getting an electric guitar and lessons and starting to get into a new scene that way. Also offering an exchange program is a good way to divert.

Send him to military school or boarding school. He needs a wake-up call for more restricted and aggressive monitoring. Nip it in the bud now before it's too late.

[Anonymous]

There is just as much drugs, alcohol, sex and lack of supervision in wealthy families. The PP who seemed to think it’s not is just delusional and seeing the surface of people.

However, what wealthy people do teach their kids is how to plan for the future - party all weekend but keep your grades up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the extent that you're able, forbid those friendships.

Your resisrance will only draw him closer to them and discourage any dialogue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is just as much drugs, alcohol, sex and lack of supervision in wealthy families. The PP who seemed to think it’s not is just delusional and seeing the surface of people.

However, what wealthy people do teach their kids is how to plan for the future - party all weekend but keep your grades up.

Rich people can afford more exotic drugs, they also have their kids on ADHD meds the kids can crush and snort. Poor kids drink alcohol and smoke pot. Pick your poison!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a parent and guidance counselor I can tell you that switching schools does nothing anymore. These kids have so many ways to keep in touchy hourly/minute by minute that switching schools is a huge hassle that yields nothing. It was the answer 10 years ago but no longer. I would highly incentivize working. Ive had parents who even match the hourly wage to get them working towards a car or a trip etc. You have to figure out what the carrot is and dangle it constantly. Also another avenue is offering something that seems fun and alternative. Ive had parents have luck with getting an electric guitar and lessons and starting to get into a new scene that way. Also offering an exchange program is a good way to divert.

Send him to military school or boarding school. He needs a wake-up call for more restricted and aggressive monitoring. Nip it in the bud now before it's too late.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the extent that you're able, forbid those friendships.

Your resisrance will only draw him closer to them and discourage any dialogue