I find this annoying , but don't feel I can ask friend to stop

[Anonymous]

I don't see the big deal. I once arrived a few minutes early for a dinner reservation and went ahead and checked in with the hostess to get seated. I didn't text my friend to let her know I was already there, but maybe I should have, because when she arrived, she sat in the waiting area waiting for me (rather than look for me inside or check with the hostess) and texted me like 10 minutes later asking if I was on my way.

She's just letting you know she's at the table so you don't have to wonder whether you should go in and look for her or wait in the lobby or whatever. I'd just respond, cool, see you at 7.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is always early. I try to arrive early when meeting her. Another friend is always late and I usually plan to be at least 15 min late when meeting her. Most other people I just arrive on time.

I always text I am here when I get there.

[Anonymous]

As many posters have mentioned, this has zero to do with her wanting you to hurry and is merely giving you useful information to help you find her when you arrive. What exactly was annoying to you?

[Anonymous]

this has zero to do with her wanting you to hurry and is merely giving you useful information to help you find her when you arrive.

I personally would not find the information useful - I go in when I arrive and give the name that the reservation is under. I don't hang out in my car or a waiting area. But I would also just ignore the text and not mention it when I walked in - generally at the agreed upon time. It's a text, not asking a question, no obligation to respond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father does this too, and it also annoys me. He is early because he is worried about being late. I try to remember that and let it roll off my back.

I do this. I’m chronically early and text people. I hate being late, it has nothing to do with my friend. And I don’t mean to stress anyone out, I’m just letting them know to look for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just text back and say, "en route, see you in 20 mins"

While driving? Great idea!

[Anonymous]

You text back, ok, see you soon.

[Anonymous]

Her texting you this info is about her, not you. Rinse and repeat. Maybe she simply wants you to know to look for her once there, maybe she feels even if unjustifiably you are sometimes late, who knows or cares.

Your getting stressed about her text is about you, not her. Rinse and repeat. Maybe it stems from you feeling there is judgment in the text, maybe it irritates you bc you can’t do anything about it, who knows or cares.

If you can’t be not stressed by this, think of a stock response to these texts that will calm you down (eg- “sounds great, we’ll still be there at 7!” or “okay, feel free to have a drink since you are early!” or, as another poster suggested, silence her notifications and ignore it).