Do your kids write thank you cards to grandparents for Christmas gifts given in person?

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Anonymous wrote:Of course not. Thank you notes are not necessary when you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them at that time.

Yes, actually, they are. And you are doing your kids a disservice by not teaching them this.

No, actually, they are not. Your priggish opinions do not outweigh the established rules of etiquette. Sorry.

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Yes they do.

They write them over the 3-4 days following Christmas.

[Anonymous]

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Can you not see how important it is to teach your kids this skill?

Probably the same families who raised the newlyweds who haven't acknowledged any of the gifts we've given them over the past several years.

Not even a text.

It's mind-blowing to spend $300-500 on a gift and receive radio silence in return. If one has not developed habit of written acknowledgment in the childhood years, it isn't a habit that will form in one's 20s or 30s.

It's such a simple thing to do. What is the objection to teaching your child to do this?

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Oh my God the giver has been thanked in this situation. What is wrong with you people who are demanding more and more thanks? Where are YOUR manners?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my God the giver has been thanked in this situation. What is wrong with you people who are demanding more and more thanks? Where are YOUR manners?

Not always.

Our young niece and nephew opened the gifts we gave them right in front of us without uttering a word of thanks. One shrugged her shoulders and ran off. Parents giggled, seem to think it's cute or something.

[Anonymous]

I was raised to write thank you notes for gifts given in person (except for immediate family we lived with), so that is always how I have done it, but I also don’t necessarily expect thank you notes if the giftee thanked us in person.

I think it is polite, but not 100% neccisary, and I would never be an ass because someone (especially a kid) forgot a thank you note. I remember one Christmas where I forgot to write a thank you not to an aunt I had met maybe three times total, and I remember how the next Christmas she gifted me three packs of thank you cards and a snarky note. Not pleasant, and I told myself I would never be that person.

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No, thank yous and hugs is all I need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was raised to write thank you notes for gifts given in person (except for immediate family we lived with), so that is always how I have done it, but I also don’t necessarily expect thank you notes if the giftee thanked us in person.

I think it is polite, but not 100% neccisary, and I would never be an ass because someone (especially a kid) forgot a thank you note. I remember one Christmas where I forgot to write a thank you not to an aunt I had met maybe three times total, and I remember how the next Christmas she gifted me three packs of thank you cards and a snarky note. Not pleasant, and I told myself I would never be that person.

Wow, your aunt’s manners were absolutely appalling. What a terrible person.

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Anonymous wrote:No, we are $10m net worth, no expectations for thank you notes. Kind of depends on how much thought they put into the gift.

Do you preface answers to every question with your net worth? 😩

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. Thank you notes are not necessary when you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them at that time.

Yes, actually, they are. And you are doing your kids a disservice by not teaching them this.

It’s not a disservice to teach my kids correct etiquette. They write thank you notes for gifts not opened in person. If you thank someone in person, a thank you note is not required.

Says who? You?

Put it this way: many people will judge your kids, and by extension, judge you, for not teaching them to write thank you notes. There is no harm in doing so, even if the giver was verbally thanked. So, why not teach them to go the extra mile and stand out from the sea of ingrates?

NP. I don’t think teaching my kids that they need to bow and scrape to feed the ravenous and ever-unsatisfied egos of manipulative gift-givers is a healthy lesson. They need to learn to identify and stand up to people who aren’t satisfied with a gracious in-person thank you. I am okay with them being judged by people like that. In fact, I consider that a win. It means that that I’ve taught them healthy boundaries and the ability to recognize manipulative people.

Of course, my kids write thank you notes to people who did not give the gift in person, and they graciously thank givers in person. But writing an extra note for someone who demands more than that? No. That’s bad manners from the gift giver that my kids need to learn not to indulge. No child should be taught that a gift-giver who is having a temper tantrum should be catered to.

Yikes. Someone needs a cookie and some alone time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course they do

Omg little Mary or John can not sit for a few minutes and do this !

Not only is this the right thing it prepares them for life

This is not a hard thing to do. You people are lazy parents

You are impressively wrong. Dislodge the stick, MeeMaw.

MeeMaw wants to show off her notes to bridge club and she’s upset that she won’t have authentic ones to pass around with the crackers and tea.

Just make some fake ones or pay a neighbor to do it for you. That’s probably what the other ladies are doing, too. This is like an episode of the Golden Girls: Spoiled Boomer Edition.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. Thank you notes are not necessary when you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them at that time.

Yes, actually, they are. And you are doing your kids a disservice by not teaching them this.

No, actually, they are not. Your priggish opinions do not outweigh the established rules of etiquette. Sorry.

You sound incredibly rigid. What "established rule of etiquette" says that one does not have to write a thank you note for a gift? Guessing you just made this up to justify your own laziness. Emily Post, you are not.

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I think people think they’re doing someone a favor by giving them a gift. And then they want a handwritten thank you in return. Maybe just keep your candle and coffee mug instead? A lot of people don’t want gifts at all, especially from toxic gift givers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. Thank you notes are not necessary when you open the gift in front of the giver and thank them at that time.

Yes, actually, they are. And you are doing your kids a disservice by not teaching them this.

No, actually, they are not. Your priggish opinions do not outweigh the established rules of etiquette. Sorry.

You sound incredibly rigid. What "established rule of etiquette" says that one does not have to write a thank you note for a gift? Guessing you just made this up to justify your own laziness. Emily Post, you are not.

Emily Post agrees with PP on this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they do

Omg little Mary or John can not sit for a few minutes and do this !

Not only is this the right thing it prepares them for life

This is not a hard thing to do. You people are lazy parents

You are impressively wrong. Dislodge the stick, MeeMaw.

MeeMaw wants to show off her notes to bridge club and she’s upset that she won’t have authentic ones to pass around with the crackers and tea.

Just make some fake ones or pay a neighbor to do it for you. That’s probably what the other ladies are doing, too. This is like an episode of the Golden Girls: Spoiled Boomer Edition.

You and the PP you are responding to are ageist raging a$$holes and I assume you are teaching this disgusting attitude to your children as well so enjoy being treated like crap as you get older.