parochial families and high school

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Anonymous wrote:She never said she didn’t file taxes. She said she saved her return to pay future tuition. It is pretty easy to tell the person was saving the refund. Are you always this dense/but still always acting superior in real life? It is a discussion about how people pay tuition…

You don't save a return.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

But, why? Why do you care?

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

WHY are you wasting time “researching “ this kind of information?

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

WHY are you wasting time “researching “ this kind of information?

Because it’s fun when people act a certain way in school/social settings and then you find out they are putting on pretenses.

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The only thing I care about is how well their children are behaved. You're nuts

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

WHY are you wasting time “researching “ this kind of information?

Because it’s fun when people act a certain way in school/social settings and then you find out they are putting on pretenses.

People who don’t disclose the details of their financial situation to you are not putting on pretenses, they are exercising good judgment. They are correctly assessing that you are not a person worth getting to know or sharing any personal information.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

WHY are you wasting time “researching “ this kind of information?

Because it’s fun when people act a certain way in school/social settings and then you find out they are putting on pretenses.

I really don’t know what you mean, do you think that your casual children’s school acquaintances need to tell you all of their personal financial information as well as that of their extended family? Why is this fun for you and why do you care? When I mention we are going on a nice family vacation this year do I need to also share that I got an unexpected bonus to fund this since they have a need to know?

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

WHY are you wasting time “researching “ this kind of information?

Because it’s fun when people act a certain way in school/social settings and then you find out they are putting on pretenses.

I imagine you act a certain way in school/social settings - like a normal, friendly person - but it’s a pretense for finding out personal information you can use to stalk other families. That you are actually deeply insecure and not a little odd.

You mean like that?

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

Wow! What kind of a crazy person are you? Who would take time to do this? Are you so obsessed with keeping up with the Jones you stalk ppl online to verify if they are the “real deal”. Pathetic

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder this too. I live in a very Catholic neighborhood where most families have at least 3 kids. All send their kids to Gonzaga, Prep, Stone Ridge or Visi. There are lots of young families in recently purchased $2 million homes. None of the moms work. All dads seem to be in real estate or construction. I guess those are more lucrative than I thought.

It's mommy and daddy money. Visi has many of the unemployed moms. Stone Ridge has a lot more accomplished moms, i.e., lawyers, judges, doctors, finance, etc. if that makes a difference to you. But you can also make quite a bit in real estate or "construction" (also known being hired into Daddy's business). You will find much less of this type of thing at the Big 3 schools than at the Catholic schools.

What "type of thing" are you talking about? My DH goes to VISI and there are many moms with "accomplished" jobs and as far as I know people who can pay for their own children's HS as well as those with financial aid etc.. Why would any of this matter v.s the question of whether OP can get aid to cover what she is comfortable spending and what the school is like for the kids

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

WHY are you wasting time “researching “ this kind of information?

Because it’s fun when people act a certain way in school/social settings and then you find out they are putting on pretenses.

I imagine you act a certain way in school/social settings - like a normal, friendly person - but it’s a pretense for finding out personal information you can use to stalk other families. That you are actually deeply insecure and not a little odd.

You mean like that?

You both sound insane. There are friendly people who are genuine, and there are fake, paranoid people that are quiet.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

WHY are you wasting time “researching “ this kind of information?

Because it’s fun when people act a certain way in school/social settings and then you find out they are putting on pretenses.

I imagine you act a certain way in school/social settings - like a normal, friendly person - but it’s a pretense for finding out personal information you can use to stalk other families. That you are actually deeply insecure and not a little odd.

You mean like that?

You both sound insane. There are friendly people who are genuine, and there are fake, paranoid people that are quiet.

You haven’t read the thread, have you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She never said she didn’t file taxes. She said she saved her return to pay future tuition. It is pretty easy to tell the person was saving the refund. Are you always this dense/but still always acting superior in real life? It is a discussion about how people pay tuition…

You don't save a return.

Some people put their tax return in savings. Other people spend it, sometimes on things like school tuition.

[Anonymous]

I got a job at the high school and now my children (3 boys) have a discounted tuition rate. It’s about the same as our k-8 after staff discount and sibling discount.

I was an adjunct math professor at Mason (and didn’t make much there) and transferred my skill set to a local well know catholic school. I teach AP calculus and stats.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder this too. I live in a very Catholic neighborhood where most families have at least 3 kids. All send their kids to Gonzaga, Prep, Stone Ridge or Visi. There are lots of young families in recently purchased $2 million homes. None of the moms work. All dads seem to be in real estate or construction. I guess those are more lucrative than I thought.

It's mommy and daddy money. Visi has many of the unemployed moms. Stone Ridge has a lot more accomplished moms, i.e., lawyers, judges, doctors, finance, etc. if that makes a difference to you. But you can also make quite a bit in real estate or "construction" (also known being hired into Daddy's business). You will find much less of this type of thing at the Big 3 schools than at the Catholic schools.

What "type of thing" are you talking about? My DH goes to VISI and there are many moms with "accomplished" jobs and as far as I know people who can pay for their own children's HS as well as those with financial aid etc.. Why would any of this matter v.s the question of whether OP can get aid to cover what she is comfortable spending and what the school is like for the kids

Umm, let's figure out why your DH "goes to Visi" - why is a grown man attending an all girls high school? People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.